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Re: ..... by Nobody: 1:22pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
slimchi2k2: @dockymich You spoke my mind completely. @Op. I want you to know this 80% of the people you share your problems with don't care and the remaining 20% are happy you have the problems. So, why involve a 3rd party? Abeg, sort it out with your husband after he calms down though and be kind enough to come and tell us when you love birds make up. |
Re: ..... by Nobody: 2:07pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
pak: I think the advices here have been wonderful and on point. The difference between this case and the ones discussed in the other thread is that those guys were clear abusers, in this case, her husband does not qualify to be called an abuser based on what she has told us. Just like Debrief said, in all those other stories, we could see the clear pattern of an abuser in their stories, they were always overly controlling people, repeatedly beat up the women and employed other forms of abuse (emotional and verbal). Those types of abusers don't wait for a credible reason before unleashing their abuse, they don't do it in self defense, they are mostly always the aggressors and the problem is never their victim but their own sick, twisted mentalities. Therefore, an abuser is identified, I am not at all interested in blaming the victim. Now in this particular instance, if he had put the serious beatdown on her, even if it was in response to her blocking him, then the blame begins to shift to him and he starts to appear more like an abuser to me, especially with him locking her in the house afterwards. |
Re: ..... by Nobody: 2:58pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
debrief08: You see, why will you block someone who wants to walk away from a conflict? Why would you block him and come back to cry abuse? When you do things like this you put people in impossible situations.@debrief08 nicely said, u deserve a good kiss. |
Re: ..... by pak: 5:56pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
Wizee: Upon the entire issue wey dey ground, this is the only contribution you can make ba ? . . . .. . hmmmmmmmmmmmm |
Re: ..... by tsmack: 6:06pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
Most of the comments above have been on point. I will however look at it from a different perspective. Did anybody notice that the poster sounds childish and immature? What did she do to make the guy want to walk out in the first place? How was she blocking him from leaving the house? Was she loud, was she bragging, was she "all up in his face"? And then, she decided to run out of the house because the guy pushed her? Where was she running to? The police station?! Very laughable action indeed!!! What actually shocked me was her eagerness to get in touch with his family. She apparently doesnt know anything about conflict resolution in a family. She sounds like those types of girls who every tom, dick, and harry knows her business. She has a lot of growing up to do if she is truly getting married in a few months. A lot! All the actions she said she took in her comment have all been wrong. I wish her all the best though! * know your God, know yourself, & know your partner * |
Re: ..... by dayokanu(m): 7:34pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
I agree with most comment on this thread. When things are getting heated both take a break and get back together to resolve issues when nerves are calm |
Re: ..... by ferhyntorlah(f): 7:48pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
tsmack: I noticed it too when I read her post. Thank God other married women have told her point blank that she was the instigator of the reaction she got from her husband. Calling her SIL for me was unnecessarily. It hadn't reach that level to start involving "extended" family member(s). Both of them need to have a lengthy discussion on how things should be handled in the home. They should set rules that neither of them should break eg when one is angry while talking, the other should keep mute or when a partner wants to get away to be alone, the other shouldn't stop/block the other's way. I want to believe the poster has learnt her lession and taken the good advice everyone here has given. |
Re: ..... by baby124: 7:54pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
Sigh, this OP is so silly. I wouldnt waste my time, energy and spit on this. This is one "you will kill me today" razz people. OP should get a divorce and date around a little. You are immature. |
Re: ..... by armyofone(m): 8:09pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
the only thing i want to be clear abt is: standing at the door is now physical contact? let's say the guy was sitting somewhere in the living room and madam by the door when the argument started, now he got up and shove his lady...so who made the physical contact here? enlighten me oh Coogar ![]() locking all the doors so that he can pound her well well? mba, i no like this ya style. coogar: |
Re: ..... by dayokanu(m): 8:30pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
armyofone: the only thing i want to be clear abt is: standing at the door is now physical contact? let's say the guy was sitting somewhere in the living room and madam by the door when the argument started, now he got up and shove his lady...so who made the physical contact here? enlighten me oh Coogar Whats wrong in locking doors and pounding her abunna from behind? Abi you dey open door yakata when you dey chinbura ne? |
Re: ..... by coogar: 9:49pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
armyofone: the only thing i want to be clear abt is: standing at the door is now physical contact? let's say the guy was sitting somewhere in the living room and madam by the door when the argument started, now he got up and shove his lady...so who made the physical contact here? enlighten me oh Coogar standing by the door itself is not a criminal offence but give way when others want to pass....why must she stand by the door knowing her other half intends to pass....if she stands there as an obstacle denying her husband the space to pass through then she's fishing for trouble......
the husband would pound the door, he wouldn't pound her...... if a woman knows she's going to miss her partner by allowing him to walk out of the house then she should lock the door, hide the keys before starting he queries. if the man tries to walk away and meets the doors locked, he would be forced to stay - men can understand such but don't stand in the way and turn yourself to a bouncer - you would get shoved! |
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