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Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Koolking(m): 8:40am On Nov 14, 2012 |
kitty kat: Hey Kitty Kat, Long time no hear. I trust life has been beautiful. Cheers |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by kaboninc(m): 12:26pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
Imanuelle: IMO.. Taking the vow for some ladies and a few men is like a Not only that they see their husbands as a cash cow, even before the marriage, they even see him as a 'cash goat'. Once you tell a girl that you've gotten a well paid job, the next thing she'll most likely say after 'congratulations' is 'you go buy me recharge card every month' or 'what of my monthly share/cut?'. |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Yemak74: 12:42pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
nass07: Pls where do I come in? I never marry omust u come in:/ |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by tulk2mi: 1:30pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
SELFWORTH: Taking the vow is meant to enhance the relationship and take it to the next level. In reality, most couples forget how they got to the 'vow' level once the vow is taken. |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by UjSizzle(f): 1:30pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
Seems we have too many men with issues on this site. Has it occurred to any of you that sometimes the men are actually the reason for breakups n divorces not just the women? Or is it really so much of a man's world that you'd rather assume the woman's always at fault? Smh 1 Like |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by caukerzee(m): 7:07pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
uj_sizzle: Seems we have too many men with issues on this site. Has it occurred to any of you that sometimes the men are actually the reason for breakups n divorces not just the women? Or is it really so much of a man's world that you'd rather assume the woman's always at fault? Smhokay, there's no need to bring gender sentiments into this. |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by UjSizzle(f): 8:39pm On Nov 14, 2012 |
caukerzee: okay, there's no need to bring gender sentiments into this.Gender sentiment is all over NL, practically blinding certain people from the reality of situations. There's only so much a woman can take. No offence intended anyway ![]() |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Nobody: 8:00am On Nov 15, 2012 |
caukerzee: The problem with most of our marriages and relationship these days is that people go into them for what they stand to gain and not what they are willing to sacrifice. there's no love anylonger. men go for s e x, women go for money. when those things are not there, marriage ends. marriage is more about commitment than love tho, because love leaves at some point. so vows are ment to strenghten it not the other way round. another problem is civil rights and gender equality...that has affected our these days marriage. women neglect submission which is the basic thing in marriage because of her quest for gender equality.i dont quite agree with u. because men doesn't have to marry before they can have sex. Sex is free of charge nowadays. Thank God. Most of the time, women are to blame in failed marraiges. As soon as they get married they stop taking care of themselves, looking unattractive. They become a burden to the men by making ridiculous demands. They complain all the time on things that should be overlooked. Become overprotective [ monitor their husbands phone calls and friends ]. Deny their husband any privacy and men love their privacy. Etc |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Nobody: 10:05am On Nov 15, 2012 |
@OP a person dating will ALWAYS have at the back of her head that their partner could leave anytime/anyday, thus this person will be on their "best behavior and at their ultimate best"..........while the minute someone gets married, many automatically let go simply because they believe that they dont have to woo/seduce/flirt any longer with their partner since the ring is on their fingers. so in a way, to many, the ring is like a "you got her/him, you dont need to stress yourself any longer" card, and therefore this is why many only go DOWNHILL from that day onward. as for me, this is one of the main reason why i would NEVER get married...... i NEVER want my partner to believe that this is it, she should/must always feel like she could be dumped tomorrow if she doesnt get her act together. so: - if she turns into a psycho biatch (or lose her damn mind) she's OUT!!! - if she turns into a baby whale and dont want to do anything about it, she's OUT!!! - if she suddenly slack in ANY area where she use to excel, she's OUT!!! - if she doesnt provide all the satisfaction that is required of her she's OUT!!! if someone changes in a r/ship or marriage, then you need to reassess that said r/ship or marriage.........staying/accepting their newfound self without a care for YOUR own wishes and desires (like many married people do) is the biggest joke on the face of this earth! |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by caukerzee(m): 2:44pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
lofty900: i dont quite agree with u. because men doesn't have to marry before they can have sex. Sex is free of charge nowadays. Thank God. Most of the time, women are to blame in failed marraiges. As soon as they get married they stop taking care of themselves, looking unattractive. They become a burden to the men by making ridiculous demands. They complain all the time on things that should be overlooked. Become overprotective [ monitor their husbands phone calls and friends ]. Deny their husband any privacy and men love their privacy. Etcits a fact that men go after women because they are s e x u a l l y attractive and as you said, after marriages, women stop taking care of themselves and start to look unatractive, they become too demanding. ever wondered why men cheat? because they dont get full sexual satisfaction. i believe both parties are to blame. women got their faults and ro do men. no need for gender sentiments. 1 Like |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by caukerzee(m): 2:48pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
uj_sizzle:And none taken. but i guess you are one of those blinded people to. |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by UjSizzle(f): 3:12pm On Nov 15, 2012 |
caukerzee: And none taken. but i guess you are one of those blinded people to.for stating the obvious? If there's anything I'm for, it's equality in sharing the blame. All I've seen on this thread is fingers pointing in one direction. |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by kittykat1(f): 12:34pm On Nov 16, 2012 |
Koolking: I am fine dearie. How are you? |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Koolking(m): 11:52am On Nov 19, 2012 |
kitty kat: I am very well. It's been ages. Good to hear from you. Cheers |
Re: Taking 'the Vow' Put A Strain On Relationships? by Nobody: 11:57am On Nov 19, 2012 |
Taking the vow is not the problem... but a person's inability to commit himself/herself to the vow they made is the problem 1 Like |
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