kitty kat:

Agreed. D vow shd do the opposite.

Imanuelle: IMO.. Taking the vow for some ladies and a few men is like a job marriage security assurance.
Most ladies tend to become their real selves after these vows..bliving that....'Them dun marry be say dem dun marry'!
In other words.... Dats when some ladies get to find out that d jeep wey dem 'bobo' been dey ride.. Na mechanic dey borrow am.
Or when they bliv the man is suppozed to be financially responsible for the education of his wife's younger ones!
Dats when sum ladies start to tie wrapper because they think his wedding ring is enough protection.
In most cases..... This system only affects those that ddnt know their partners inside-out!


'The vow' can put a strain on relationships.... But only unsolidified relationships!

nass07: Pls where do I come in? I never marry o

SELFWORTH: Taking the vow is meant to enhance the relationship and take it to the next level. In reality, most couples forget how they got to the 'vow' level once the vow is taken.

Dominance replaces sharing
Anger replaces love
Culture replaces Godliness
Fear of family and friend replaces fear of God
Complacency replaces attention and care
Selfishness replaces selflessness
Lack of patience replaces understanding
Family wishes replaces couple wishes and so on and SI forth.

Each change at each stage brings it own pressure until the marriage crumbles and you cannot both pinpoint one single factor . Once it crumbles , everyone including family return to their shell and leave you to pick up the pieces.

All the reponses r true but dis particular deals more with specifics n i tend to agree more wit this


Nigeria family play a big part in helping couples not live up to their vows . It's takes a strong man to stand up and resist family intervention for most marriages to stand.

I expect a lot of abuse becos I know the truth is always bitter!

uj_sizzle: Seems we have too many men with issues on this site. Has it occurred to any of you that sometimes the men are actually the reason for breakups n divorces not just the women? Or is it really so much of a man's world that you'd rather assume the woman's always at fault? Smh

caukerzee: okay, there's no need to bring gender sentiments into this.

caukerzee: The problem with most of our marriages and relationship these days is that people go into them for what they stand to gain and not what they are willing to sacrifice. there's no love anylonger. men go for s e x, women go for money. when those things are not there, marriage ends. marriage is more about commitment than love tho, because love leaves at some point. so vows are ment to strenghten it not the other way round. another problem is civil rights and gender equality...that has affected our these days marriage. women neglect submission which is the basic thing in marriage because of her quest for gender equality.

lofty900: i dont quite agree with u. because men doesn't have to marry before they can have sex. Sex is free of charge nowadays. Thank God. Most of the time, women are to blame in failed marraiges. As soon as they get married they stop taking care of themselves, looking unattractive. They become a burden to the men by making ridiculous demands. They complain all the time on things that should be overlooked. Become overprotective [ monitor their husbands phone calls and friends ]. Deny their husband any privacy and men love their privacy. Etc

uj_sizzle:
Gender sentiment is all over NL, practically blinding certain people from the reality of situations. There's only so much a woman can take. No offence intended anyway .

caukerzee: And none taken. but i guess you are one of those blinded people to.

Koolking:

Hey Kitty Kat, Long time no hear. I trust life has been beautiful. Cheers

kitty kat:


I am fine dearie. How are you?