chineji: I just recently turned 17 my mom is a doctor and my dad is a lawyer. They are not rich we are just average nigerians struggling to survive. My dad was making a little money while we were in calabar and he paid our fees and trained my mother to be a doctor then things went bad for him we relocated to lagos my mom started her practice she has been the breadwinner ever since she pays my fees and extra lesson fees and it hasn't been easy for her my dad tried working in some places but you know how poorly lawyers are paid in nigeria so he set up his business but there isn't any clientale base so things are rough for him at the moment lately my mom suspects my dad of cheating cause he doesn't give her money truth is I don't buy that cause even the clothes and shoes my dad wears are worn out my dad comes back early from work every day on weekends he's at home he lives a simple life and my dad doesn't lie so the other day there was an argument between my mom and dad and she dragged him out of the room that one must die and my dad was still maintaining his cool that's how my dad Is no matter what he's always cool so she was abusing and cursing him that it will never be better for him and stuff and she went to drag his shirt he mistakenly hit her in her eyes the next day carried her to the hospital the doctors said she should do a ct scan cause of that my dad went sober he has been begging her since and anytime we have my mom will call us and tell us our dad doesn't love us that he gives money to alll his girlfriends outside that if she dies that I will have to train my sisters am just 17 what does she expect an ssce holder to do when many graduates are without jobs when other parents are praying for long life to train their kids mines always talking of death death death one night she called all my aunts and uncles and told them she's sick then she called me and showed me where her credentials are that I should be wise she showed me her ATM cards she said I should sell her car so I can train my sisters this isn't her first time of doing this she has been doing it but this is the last straw that has broken the cames back cause of what she says I keep having bad dreams I can't sleep if she coughs my heart skips I can't handle this psychologically please nairalanders help me what do I do ?

baby_123: Am sorry to tell you this, but your mum is a drama queen and attention seeker. She is probably ashamed of her behavior towards your dad in front of you guys, so to get sympathy she is making up all sorts of stories. Anytime she talks about death, ask her what exactly is the health problem. . Because she has been shouting since, but you can't see anything. Tell her not to worry, that she will be fine. Am sure your dad will soon settle in, and once she sees money flowing well, she won't want to die again. Who wan commot road for another woman to chop korrect money? Your mum is a hilarious drama queen. Abegi! Sometimes when our parents behave like kids, we have to step up and reassure them or become the adults for our siblings. Its probably stress that is causing this paranoia and drama. Challenges are only for a short while. You and your siblings should not take sides in your parents fight. Your mum may just be giving a dog a bad name to hang it.

Gaggi: Now this mother of urs is causing u guy psychological problems. I feel really bad that an adult can act this way. It's things like this that affects people when they grow up and have their own homes.
Be hard on ur mum. Tell her to die if she wants since that is what she wishes for herself. Tell he u are sick of all these drama and that she shouldn't tell u about her cars and monies again. If she dies u will survive on ur own without her properties and u will forget u ever had a mother. That should make her think hard if she has any brain.

debrief08: Your Mom is childish and an example of what you should not be as a wife.
She will not die, just being as Baby said a drama queen and attention seeker.
She is am sorry to say a bad mother for bringing you between you kids between an imaginary disagreement between her and your father.
You are 17, their marriage is not your business, they are adults they should settle their matter between themselves. Since your mother has disrespected her self and her husband to this embarassing level tell her next time she starts that she should kindly leave you and your sibblings out of their marriage, that they should settle their issues without involving you.
Stop worrying so much, and please this is not marriage, many I mean many women graciously carry their families through tough times without being rude and creating Drama, they respect their husbands and give him honor encouraging him to grow and recover.
Marriage is a lovely thing between two adults. Don't use your parents marriage as a picture.
You are too young to be saddled with such drama. please stop talking ill of other peoples mothers,because am sure u will not like other people talking about your mother badly,mothers are gold,respect all mothers,any woman that is able to birth a child sucessfully should be respected.maybe if you go into the labour rooom you will have an idea of the pain women go through to give birth and no matter what she might have done or what miht have happened,it is not in your place to talk ill of any woman PLEASE,thank you!
You will be fine my dear.