Imagine this comment from a Nairaland poster:

was trying to find my way to some place in surlere, lagos today. tried to get directions from a lady cos she was the closest one to me, said excuse me, started walking over to her so i could ask her if she knew so and so street and got the cold sholder. guess she tot i wanted to toast her. whats with all this female attitude problem?

Most women will read it and laugh because 9 out of 10 times, men who do that ARE trying to toast the lady. They will ask for direction first and the next sentence will be "can I have your number." The reason we give an attitude is to keep such men away from us. If 9 out of 10 men are woman-wrapper then maybe it's not the woman's fault that she's "playing hard to get" or giving you the "cold shudder" she's just trying to avoid unwanted advances.
Even if she likes you and is still playing hard to get. that means she doesn't fully trust you or she thinks you are a woman-wrapper who has to prove himself to be genuine. She has learned this from experience.

When you get older and have daughters, you will understand.

Hmmmn.

I just find it peculiar, that a lot of Naija men get lost almost everytime..
And it's even stranger that they almost never ask their fellow men for directions...ponder..wonder..ponder... .

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Rocktation: I just find it peculiar, that a lot of Naija men get lost almost everytime..
And it's even stranger that they almost never ask their fellow men for directions...ponder..wonder..ponder... .

hmm very astute observation. LOL

This is the reason I rarely ask people for directions anymore. I will rather get an Okada or ask the closest Policeman or LASTMA official than ask a female. Hell I even ask tout for directions at a garage.

I hate being insulted and so I avoid. But I also wonder why the women act like that. At least you should listen to what the person has to say first before running off and leaving him hanging.

I just see it as being unfriendly

Mynd_44: This is the reason I rarely ask people for directions anymore. I will rather get an Okada or ask the closest Policeman or LASTMA official than ask a female. Hell I even ask tout for directions at a garage.

I hate being insulted and so I avoid. But I also wonder why the women act like that. At least you should listen to what the person has to say first before running off and leaving him hanging.

I just see it as being unfriendly

Bro,U don talk am already... I'll rada ask all dis agbero's,lastman official or any uniform person @ dat same spot... D more U excuse dis ladies,d more dey take U wash.. Cnt even stand it @tall...

Moreso,y du ladies alwayz ave dis mentality dat each times stops dem,its all abt toastin... I tire 4 unah way alzo...

Mynd_44: This is the reason I rarely ask people for directions anymore. I will rather get an Okada or ask the closest Policeman or LASTMA official than ask a female. Hell I even ask tout for directions at a garage.

I hate being insulted and so I avoid. But I also wonder why the women act like that. At least you should listen to what the person has to say first before running off and leaving him hanging.

I just see it as being unfriendly

Bro,U don talk am already... I'll rada ask all dis agbero's,lastman official or any uniform person @ dat same spot... D more U excuse dis ladies,d more dey take U wash.. Cnt even stand it @tall...

Moreso,y du ladies alwayz ave dis mentality dat each times a guy stops dem,its all abt toastin... I tire 4 unah way alzo...

I just don't get why people are just rude. I do realise that there might be nice people out there, but I don't think I want to risk being insulted

well I don't see anything wrong in a guy asking the ladies for direction
I also can't see a good reason for the cold shoulder.

Going by the statistics of 9/10 toast, Ladies should thank the guys for appreciating them. Imagine living a whole 6months as a lady with no man looking your direction much less asking for direction If you can't give the number simply say "thanks but I can't", "sorry but thanks" and move on!

WELL , THIS MORNING, I VE LEARN T NOT TO ASK LADIES FOR DIRECTIONS AGAIN

lecturerdabo: well I don't see anything wrong in a guy asking the ladies for direction
I also can't see a good reason for the cold shoulder.

Going by the statistics of 9/10 toast, Ladies should thank the guys for appreciating them. Imagine living a whole 6months as a lady with no man looking your direction much less asking for direction If you can't give the number simply say "thanks but I can't", "sorry but thanks" and move on!

WELL , THIS MORNING, I VE LEARN T NOT TO ASK LADIES FOR DIRECTIONS AGAIN

Hey don't let us put you off. Some ladies might be nice but I personally don't ask ladies

I think its very immature and poor judgement on the lady's part if she thinks every man that approaches her has the motive of asking her out.

"Hi, excuse me, pls do you know so and so place or how I can get there?".............."Hi, I know, or I don't know." I don't see a big deal in that. Then if the handshake wants to extend to the elbow, take a walk!

I wld rather get lost dan a lady washing me 4 asking direction...me if i even want 2 ask 99.9% its guyz i ask. Noting i hate like public embarassment datz y i can never stop a girl on d road 2 toast her...

I see no reason why girls should be rude except its leading to another thing and even if it does.convo:Hi lady,please do u knw the direction to so so so place.lady:oh yeah take dis route,or sorry I don't.cool and I am so off and when it leads to please can I have ur phone No,oh sorry u cant or yes u can.no be fight na.sme ladies dnt have to be unnecessarily rude.

fairygeh: I see no reason why girls should be rude except its leading to another thing and even if it does.convo:Hi lady,please do u knw the direction to so so so place.lady:oh yeah take dis route,or sorry I don't.cool and I am so off and when it leads to please can I have ur phone No,oh sorry u cant or yes u can.no be fight na.sme ladies dnt have to be unnecessarily rude.

Yeah. Its not all about atitude na. You can simply give directions and walk away without being rude

What the heck is "toast?"

shymexx: What the heck is "toast?"

"WOO" "ASK OUT"

Lol.
Simple, stop asking ladies for directions and ask men instead.
is it too much hardwork?


Lest I forget poster, edit your topic cos ur post is sreaming,
'why are women so aggresive.
and to the dude this happened to, tell him to take heart.

its a really dicey issue. some guys use it as a means to woo d girl on d road. it cld also be those annoying 419 guys who ask 4 places dt dont exist,with a second

guy working with them. one comes up n says "do u kno bank estate?", u say "no" and he walks away,d oda one comes and says "lets help that guy...".

sometimes whn u answer greetings sef, it is a strategy. sorry guys,its jst tht d bad eggs hv spoilt d good ones.

Rocktation: I just find it peculiar, that a lot of Naija men get lost almost everytime..
And it's even stranger that they almost never ask their fellow men for directions...ponder..wonder..ponder... .

I dey tells you.

What's wrong with guys asking ladies for numbers?

I have travelled quite a lot and I also know ladies (from other countries) who complain about their men being too reserved and too passive, do you want Nigerian men to develop this way?
If a man is trying too approach you and you're not interested, kindly refuse his offer, take it as a compliment and move on. It's not difficult. Most will easily understand.

When I have a bad hair day or even bad face day , I think of all these men who showed attention and feel a bit better

Rocktation: I just find it peculiar, that a lot of Naija men get lost almost everytime..
And it's even stranger that they almost never ask their fellow men for directions...ponder..wonder..ponder... .

hahaha...its a stale,outdated tactics for talking to a girl

carefreewannabe: What's wrong with guys asking ladies for numbers?

I have travelled quite a lot and I also know ladies (from other countries) who complain about their men being too reserved and too passive, do you want Nigerian men to develop this way?
If a man is trying too approach you and you're not interested, kindly refuse his offer, take it as a compliment and move on. It's not difficult. Most will easily understand.

When I have a bad hair day or even bad face day , I think of all these men who showed attention and feel a bit better

True

It is some pples nature to attack for no reason.

vivian chinaza: I think its very immature and poor judgement on the lady's part if she thinks every man that approaches her has the motive of asking her out.

"Hi, excuse me, pls do you know so and so place or how I can get there?".............."Hi, I know, or I don't know." I don't see a big deal in that. Then if the handshake wants to extend to the elbow, take a walk!

As mean as i am.....i am always helping out with directions...it is fun!!!

Mrs.Chima:


As mean as i am.....i am always helping out with directions...it is fun!!!

That's obvious! Kudos to your oga.

D-Explorer:

That's obvious! Kudos to your oga.

You dey find wahala

D-Explorer:

That's obvious! Kudos to your oga.

Yeah it is obvious! I wear the crown!

He is not my oga.

Mynd_44:
You dey find wahala

Nah! She's warm

D-Explorer:

Nah! She's warm

In my fuzzy slippers!

Mrs.Chima:


Yeah it is obvious! I wear the crown!

He is not my oga.

and who is he.......your handbag?

D-Explorer:

and who is he.......your handbag?

A mumu.