Sagamite:

Mynd, you are on your own on that fairytale description.

If I marry, I would love my wife, but definitely not to the disneyland/Mills & Boons unrealistic level you described especially when I know what women are made of.

I can't even see myself as emotional as that especially when it comes to sacrificing eating my food until I hear her voice.

To hell with her voice, I will chop my pounded yam and efo elegusi with relish.

bright007: ...For God sake..what has happened to testing before marriage?...No pregnancy,No marriage

lola.luv:


This just softened my heart. May God bless you abundantly and give you children that would be great in their generation. Amen!

inwangobio:
Thanks so much my sister. @ tetemu,jigawatts,a.A.K, omicron thanks alot for your prayers, i know our God will soon answer it. One thing that has helped me thus far is that i have been able to ward off pressure from all angles, some even suggested i should go out but i refuse. What will be my testimony if i do that? I know the God that i serve, He is well able to do it. Maybe you should read some of my posts in "' anyone trying ivf/iui?" in health section to know that am not just folding my hands. But it is not a do-or- die affair. My wife and i are in this together so i must stand by her, that is why most of the time she has an appointment with our Dr. i use to go with her. THE CHANGE WILL SOON COME IJN.....AMEN.

inwangobio:
Thanks so much my sister. @ tetemu,jigawatts,a.A.K, omicron thanks alot for your prayers, i know our God will soon answer it. One thing that has helped me thus far is that i have been able to ward off pressure from all angles, some even suggested i should go out but i refuse. What will be my testimony if i do that? I know the God that i serve, He is well able to do it. Maybe you should read some of my posts in "' anyone trying ivf/iui?" in health section to know that am not just folding my hands. But it is not a do-or- die affair. My wife and i are in this together so i must stand by her, that is why most of the time she has an appointment with our Dr. i use to go with her. THE CHANGE WILL SOON COME IJN.....AMEN.

2scorehigh: For the men, how long can you wait before seeking other options if your wife is unable to conceive after marriage? Which options will you take? Take a second wife? Try to have a child outside wedlock? Seek adoption...?

As for the ladies, how long do you think you can wait after marriage before you start getting worried? Will you pressurize your husband or support him to seek some of these other options? What exactly will you do?

econsult:
@inwangobio: I praise your courage and forthright thinking. Let's be practical here,it is so easy to make comments on real life situations in which you have no personal experience. For me I wouldn't condemn anyone, because we all speak according to our level of understanding of situations in life.But for those who say you should test before marriage and .No pregnancy,No marriage, I believe that's quite childish of such people. They need to grow up. Be that as it may,it is not an easy thing and I don't pray for anyone to go through such.I have been in God's Waiting Room(GWR) for 3years plus.It is when you go through it that you understand what I'm saying.The truth is that there are a lot of things involved. Some are not even medical but spiritual. So how do you solve such? Many times we blame the females but that's not true, men are also culprits. We need to understand that children are gifts from God and He decides to give whomsoever He wants to and He can't be questioned. Whether or not God gives one a child, it does not make God less than who He is. For me I'm ready to wait for as long as it will take me to have them.This is really a test of faith. Didn't the scriptures tell us about Abraham,Sarah, Isaac, Racheal, Elizabeth, Hannah and others.For those going thru this like me, pls don't give up on God and don't put yourself under uncessary pressure and never allow anyone do that to you. Don't be discouraged. Don't be tempted to take another wife.Don't also abandon your wife, she's not the problem. It calls for mutual love and understanding. Mariage is more than just having Children. Though children are an integral part, what about the companionship, friensdhip, fellowship, sense of responsibility and all that marriage brings?Just learn to wait on God, believe in Him, trust Him and put your dependence on Him for He will surely do it. We shall soon smile. This is just a passing phase we shall laugh soon.(Amen).

Mynd_44: If/when I marry, it will be because I love that woman and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. It will be because I could not near to go a day without seeing her face, can't eat without hearing her voice and not be able to sleep without her in the same bed not because of kids.

If I wanted kids, I could as well stay unmarried and knock uo the first girl I see.

Cheers

bright007: ...For God sake..what has happened to testing before marriage?...No pregnancy,No marriage

aweleokolo:

Just shut up and marry me!

Mynd_44:
Huh?

aweleokolo:

Just messing with you.
Nice comment up there. Great perspective.
Cheers

Mynd_44:
After I have ordered for the engagement ring and send you a PM. Too bad I can't take the PM back

bright007: ...For God sake..what has happened to testing before marriage?...No pregnancy,No marriage

tcammy: The God that performs miracles is still in the bussiness of answering prayers! Only believe and hold on. I and my family are living proofs to that. After my parents had me, there was no child again. We waited for 25years before my mum gave birth to my only brother!
@inwangobio: I will encourage you to keep your faith strong and alive, our God is the God that starts when all hope has been lost, the bible says His strenght is made perfect in our weakness. We had lost hope of seeing another child! The very year my parents finally agreed to go for adoption, that was the year my mum gave birth to a bouncing baby boy!healthy!with no operation after 25 years! God is still faithfull! If you are married and still expecting a child,wait on God,the devil's gift is never a gift but a trap. God bless you!

Sagamite:

So basically God denied some child the opportunity of adoption by loving parents?

Mynd_44:
funny how some people change God to suit their arguement

Sagamite:

Abi o!

Nigerians and God!

Mynd_44:
They just can't face facts. Everything they will call God and if the reverse happens, na Devil

Sagamite:

That is what you get in a society where failure of governance has resulted in social and infrastructural breakdown and a total loss of trust, hope and belief in the leaders.

That is when you see people saying:

- Only God saves you when you are ill. (Failed healthcare system)
- Only God gives you security. (Useless police force)
- Only God ensures you have a safe journey. (Bad roads and driving enforcement)
- Only God helps you get a job in the midst of high unemployment. (Collapsed and inefficient economy)
- Only God, only God, only God, only God ........

2scorehigh: For the men, how long can you wait before seeking other options if your wife is unable to conceive after marriage? Which options will you take? Take a second wife? Try to have a child outside wedlock? Seek adoption...?

As for the ladies, how long do you think you can wait after marriage before you start getting worried? Will you pressurize your husband or support him to seek some of these other options? What exactly will you do?

Meridian: Call this no if only u r serious 08033345166

zenith7:
What if after testing you become pregnant and after marriage you lose the pregnancy and unable to conceive again, what would you do? Be careful of what you say because the thins which we cannot see are bigger and greater than what we see.

zenith7:
What if after testing you become pregnant and after marriage you lose the pregnancy and unable to conceive again, what would you do? Be careful of what you say because the thins which we cannot see are bigger and greater than what we see.