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The thing is, men cannot ALWAYS be right. No human can always be right. Sometimes you are right and sometimes you are wrong; that is how life works so it might be wiser for the husband to let his wife have the final say sometimes. The woman might also be more knowledgeable or experienced in certain things they want to decide on.

It might also be that the wife is more intellectually sound than the husband (she might be smarter than him-yes it is possible) and I think this would make her better at decision making than him.



That is easier said than done. Why should they BOTH return to the drawing board when the man was the one who made a mistake.

coogar:

of course, men cannot always be right.....and when he is wrong, the partner should come to his aid. she is expected to work with her partner to put things right and minimize the consequences rather than using them to prove a point or as an excuse for rejecting him in some way. a man who has a submissive wife acquires a greater sense of self respect because he knows that she respects his authority in her life and she is not in any way trying to belittle him.



if a man already knows the woman he's married to is smarter than him, there won't be any argument. for instance, i am a quack in the kitchen - it's not possible for me to argue at what point should salt or pepper be added to a pot of stew. it's not my forte so whatever my wife decides to do won't be contested by me - she's superior in that field....same principle applies if the subject is my area of my specialisation!




marriage is not a competiton.....it's a journey undertaken by the husband and the wife in which they have to take decisions on which road to take at every junction in their journey. there's going to be a time when the couple would desire taking different roads - this is where mutual respect is expected to kick in. if there's love between them, they would work it out between themselves which road to take. if they both decide on road 1, then road 1 it must be regardless of what the outcome is. they would either succeed together or fail together.......there's no shame in that!

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Shouldn't our actions be logical before we decide to follow them? Should they not make sense to us first? Do we just follow them for following sake?

50calibre: Submission of my wife to me means

- She accepts and appreciates my superiority and never challenges nor contradicts my decision rather she can let her opinions known politely.

- She respects and see me as her priority coming second in her life after God and can only pray to God and hope that I reciprocate the respect.

- She sees me as her supreme leader, and should always make herself available without second thoughts or hesitation for her conjugal duties, cooking, or anything else should I demand it of her.

- She should see my love for her as a privileged and not a right, and should work tirelessly to earn and keep my love.

Mowire:
If you truely are a xtian (which I'm beginning to doubt) you'll realise that the LOGIC of your actions is in their conformity with the WORD of God; which was where you started your discourse.

coogar:

you still don't get it.....
whatever decision the husband takes must have the wife's blessings. of course, she might not have agreed at the first but the husband was able to convince her to let them do it his way. the argument had stopped - they made a decision to take one road....it's now their decision not his decision. there were 2 roads - obviously, one of them must change his/her decision for the other party. the most important thing is that they both agreed to proceed with the decision they have taken.

Shollypopz: Submission of women without sugar-coating:

If a home has to hv a head, then let the smarter one take the role. The role shouldn't be defined by gender.

50calibre: Submission of my wife to me means

- She accepts and appreciates my superiority and never challenges nor contradicts my decision rather she can let her opinions known politely.

- She respects and see me as her priority coming second in her life after God and can only pray to God and hope that I reciprocate the respect.

- She sees me as her supreme leader, and should always make herself available without second thoughts or hesitation for her conjugal duties, cooking, or anything else should I demand it of her.

- She should see my love for her as a privileged and not a right, and should work tirelessly to earn and keep my love.

surveyProf: The model for husband and wife relationships is found in Ephesians 5:25. Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and be willing to lay down their lives for them. So, it is a self-sacrificial love, and the husband should put the wife first and look out for her and protect her. In Ephesians 5:22, it says that wives are to be in submission to their husband, that does not mean that she is a doormat; it means that a woman is submitting to a man who is fulfilling his God-given role.

Does these answers your question?

coogar: submission is a gift my wife chooses to give me...it's a free will, a decision she's made to be led by me, to accept my authority and to be my helper whenever i need aid.

50calibre: Submission of my wife to me means

- She accepts and appreciates my superiority and never challenges nor contradicts my decision rather she can let her opinions known politely.

- She respects and see me as her priority coming second in her life after God and can only pray to God and hope that I reciprocate the respect.

- She sees me as her supreme leader, and should always make herself available without second thoughts or hesitation for her conjugal duties, cooking, or anything else should I demand it of her.

- She should see my love for her as a privileged and not a right, and should work tirelessly to earn and keep my love.

zannie:
So I'm expected to submit even when u beat me, abuse me in front of our children, cheat on me and show me absolutely no respect? Hahaha those days r long gone.
Submission is a beautiful thing required from a wife. But the husband should never forget the the first part which says husbands should love their wives. If you love someone you will respect the person deeply. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction

dinachi: For submision to work the couple must know that they are not competing with each other but complimenting each other. This mindset makes submission very easy. It means the wife puts her desires and authority under that of her husband.It is a willing and concious effort. Let me also add that submission is only for the strong , the weak cannot submit because it requires alot of self control. Any woman who cannot submit lacks self control. The husband also must show the kind of love to the extent of laying down his life for his wife. These simple steps outlined above is the secret of great christian marriages.

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So what you are saying is that people should follow whatever laws they find in the Bible without bothering to check if these laws are logical/commonsensical?