Pls ur candid advice is needed here.A friend of mine have put to bed a baby boy for her exboyfriend bestfriend whom she meant and fell in love with.But right now the guy hasn't shown up to do the necessary things that he is meant to do after promising her marriage to take them along with him,the baby is now 5months and her people are worried becos he has not shown up.Aldo he came and showed interest,buh rigth now she is down as her people are treating to deal with him if he eventually shows up maybe because of the baby.What will she do and she is seriously in love with him,esp now that that she has a baby for him after all they been tru.She went tru the stress of 9mnths witou the father present Cos he had no money to do anything den.Buh rite now he is ok and she is confused y he hadn't shown up.Please Good parents should comment on this let's save this girl cos she has been tru a lot.

@Poster, please re-write all that in English.

Kobojunkie: @Poster, please re-write all that in English.

Please your advice

I first need to be clear on what exactly you are asking for advice for. Right now I don't and I suspect if you typed all that in clearer language, I would have an easier time at that.

Has she tried to contact him? Surely this boy has some family members and did not fall from mars. Why not go to his family home and see what is going on? If they say they don't want the girl, then she should simply move on. Nothing is promised, no matter how many promises people make. Wish you the best.

baby_123: Has she tried to contact him? Surely this boy has some family members and did not fall from mars. Why not go to his family home and see what is going on? If they say they don't want the girl, then she should simply move on. Nothing is promised, no matter how many promises people make. Wish you the best.

Tanks I told her the same thing but the thing is that her people wunt let her go,because they dnt want her to force herself on him and rather move her with her life but the guy in question has come with his peoplefor intro

ucgirl:

Tanks I told her the same thing but the thing is that her people wunt let her go,because they dnt want her to force herself on him and rather move her with her life but the guy in question has come with his peoplefor intro

She should go and find out what is going on. She and the boy made the baby, and at the end of the day its her life. What if something happened to him? She should contact him and find out what is wrong or going on. How do you force yourself on a man you have a kid for? This is not toasting now, a child is involved. The time for shakara has long passed. Its not every advice you take. At least if the guy doesn't want her, she can close that chapter and move on quickly instead of being hung up. Waiting for the day he shows up to come and marry her.

The man has no money or job - how do you want him to support her? Will she find him a job?

She made a decision, she will live with her decision - all her family can do is support their daughter.

baby_123:

She should go and find out what is going on. She and the boy made the baby, and at the end of the day its her life. What if something happened to him? She should contact him and find out what is wrong or going on. How do you force yourself on a man you have a kid for? This is not toasting now, a child is involved. The time for shakara has long passed. Its not every advice you take. At least if the guy doesn't want her, she can close that chapter and move on quickly instead of being hung up. Waiting for the day he shows up to come and marry her.

You know how you men behaves she has tried several tyms to know what the issue is but she kept on gettn a response that everything is ok.This is just wickendness a girl sacrificed for you,and what do u get in the end a slap on her face,I wish I could get to the guy to know what is rong cos she said he wasn't lk dat in the begining.

If she deemed it fit to have a baby for her boyfriend's best friend, she should be able to live with the consequence.

obowunmi: The man has no money or job - how do you want him to support her? Will she find him a job?

She made a decision, she will live with her decision - all her family can do is support their daughter.

Hmmmmmmmm When he was enjoying it nko,somtyms u guys lay up issues for ur self witout known the consequences,the baby is a boy and not a girl only God knows.

ucgirl:

Hmmmmmmmm When he was enjoying it nko,somtyms u guys lay up issues for ur self witout known the consequences,the baby is a boy and not a girl only God knows.

Unless she was raped though - BUT she wasn't. she willingly gave up the kpekus to a jobless man, without a condom. She better #parkwell and maintain. Take care her baby. Thank God she is not with HIV or STD.

obowunmi:

Unless she was raped though - BUT she wasn't. she willingly gave up the kpekus to a jobless man, without a condom. She better #parkwell and maintain. Take care her baby. Thank God she is not with HIV or STD.

Put urself in her shoes waht if is ur sis,daughter or a relative it happened to "I don't care is they saying that people say who have not gone tru this situation"a guy who has bn with u frm the beginig now u nid him most he just left u what will u do?Is seriousl so bad wish I cn do a lot more for her.I love her no be for mouth.

Is the English language now optional in primary school?

Well you made it sound like she had not heard from him. Well obviously he is not interested in marrying her. He should be made to pay for taking care of that child though. She should involve her family to mediate the issue. If not, she should go and meet the boys parents, so that all the little details will be sorted out.

ucgirl: Pls ur candid advice is needed here.A friend of mine have put to bed a baby boy for her exboyfriend bestfriend whom she meant and fell in love with.But right now the guy hasn't shown up to do the necessary things that he is meant to do after promising her marriage to take them along with him,the baby is now 5months and her people are worried becos he has not shown up.Aldo he came and showed interest,buh rigth now she is down as her people are treating to deal with him if he eventually shows up maybe because of the baby.What will she do and she is seriously in love with him,esp now that that she has a baby for him after all they been tru.She went tru the stress of 9mnths witou the father present Cos he had no money to do anything den.Buh rite now he is ok and she is confused y he hadn't shown up.Please Good parents should comment on this let's save this girl cos she has been tru a lot.

Ex-boyfriend bestfriend

This sounds like a ho.

OYINBOGOJU:

Ex-boyfriend bestfriend

This sounds like a ho.

Yea sure, a hoe he made a baby with. Guys marry their bestfriends ex's all the time, so I guess its a get love anywhere thing. The guy may still marry her but may just not be ready. However this does not absolve him from responsibility. You skin dive, you pay.

baby_123:

Yea sure, a hoe he made a baby with. Guys marry their bestfriends ex's all the time, so I guess its a get love anywhere thing. The guy may still marry her but may just not be ready. However this does not absolve him from responsibility. You skin dive, you pay.

Tanks bro for dat,dese days a lot marry like dat,everybody must have slept with some guy or girl before marriage(virgins excluded).So is just destines dat come with different packages if it comes to u u move forward with it.

ucgirl:


Tanks bro for dat,dese days a lot marry like dat,everybody must have slept with some guy or girl before marriage(virgins excluded).So is just destines dat come with different packages if it comes to u u move forward with it.

Not a bro