My story

I met this 34 years old guy from Mbaise and we got talking both on phone and Skype because i live in north America while he lives in the south America. He told his parents about me when he traveled to naija. He invited me to his place and paid my flight ticket. I spent two days with my girlfriend that stayed in same state with him before I met him (it was our decision). The first day I saw him, he looked like he was not too happy to c me (he likes to hide his emotions). He took me round the town and spoilt me, then took me to the hotel he booked for me and said goodnight. I taught he would spend the night with me but he did not. The next day he came and took me out again and then took me to the house to meet his kid sisters that were home. That was where it all started. The sisters are married; they bombarded me with questions his parents were supposed to ask. Questions like: are u an American citizen or u came with visa, what are u doing here, when is your visa expiring, who are your parents. I got angry but did not show it, picked up my iPhone and started playing games while they were still asking me questions. To my surprise, he touched me to say his sisters were talking to me. I looked at him and asked the girls wat they were saying. I expected him to tell the sister to shut up and stop asking me those questions since i am same age with them but he did not.
His mom calls from naija and they told her I was there, she requested to talk to me but they said what do u wanna ask or tell her and dropped the phone. I was so upset that I told him to come take me to the airport since my flight was that night. He told me he cannot take me to the airport since its an hour drive. He said he would rather drop me off at my girlfriends house that is an hour drive than drop me at the airport. I accepted cos I didn't blame him but blamed myself for flying down to c him. I got to my house the next day and regretted y I made the trip. His elder sister in Naija called me to apologize on behalf of what happened.

This happened last year and now I’m with the US army about to get my citizenship. He still calls me till date and still want to marry me.

I find it hard forgetting the experience I had in his place wot do u advice I do?
Do u think such a family is good, do I stay the way I am and have peace or be married to a man that is controlled by his family?

I need your sincere advice pls

Why do you want to marry him?

Sometimes people dont haave answers to our confusions. I am going to advice you that you pray, ask your parents about it and seek your inner soul, your spirit I mean what it wants. You may get answers.

Besides, nowadays, people are so confused they dont even understand the script they act because of the experiences associated with modern life. Confusion everywhere so he may be a good man who wants to be sure of who you are and feels the sisters would make the best judgement.

It will surprise you that his family dont control him but you failed by acting that way. You should have discovered more about yourself or stretched yourself more by being patient.

It is well with you.

Are you marrying him or his sisters? Learn more about the remaining members of the family first

Haba! I am only going to address the picking of phone part...my dear, that was quite rude. There are better ways to have dealt with that situation...
Besides, you didn't even say what you like(d) about the guy, the both of you were wrong in some ways...figure yourself out and what you want, therein lies your answer.

I don't understand, did you fly to Nigeria or south america? why didn't you want to talk to his sisters? whatswrong with the questions they were asking you (well i can understand the whole are you a citizen talk being rude) You are with the ARMY and about to get your citizenship: what exactly does that have to do with the guy? why are you still talking to the guy who refused to take you to the airport in a strange town. why is he still on your radar?

you already got off to a bad start with his family members and you already saw how they treat their own mother. How do you think you will fair with these people.

KateSpade: Why do you want to marry him?

i loved him before this thing happened cant tell if i still do

omega25red: I don't understand, did you fly to Nigeria or south america? why didn't you want to talk to his sisters? whatswrong with the questions they were asking you (well i can understand the whole are you a citizen talk being rude) You are with the ARMY and about to get your citizenship: what exactly does that have to do with the guy? why are you still talking to the guy who refused to take you to the airport in a strange town. why is he still on your radar?

you already got off to a bad start with his family members and you already saw how they treat their own mother. How do you think you will fair with these people.

tnx alot

Op from ur intro I can deduce u guyz ve met only once,if yes personally I think u should plan on seeing each other more in order to discovered how compatible u re.
By d way op this is Nigeria,d sister-in-laws maybe ur agemate but as long as u re coming in as a wife they are no longer ur agemate.So u ve to drop dat pride.

OP, he kinda love u, but he's still confused if you are the right woman for him. As for the phone thing, that shakara and boning was way too much, U should have listened to all the 'trash' u think they were sayin, and complain to ur man later instead of all that. Anywayz i dont think u and him can stay married, cos u have got ur own problem (pride n ego) and he's got his too (ego)....except offcourse u guys want to quarrel for the first two yrs of marriage and divorce on the third, with regrets....countin all ur years spent together as wasted yrs.

My own tots tho n i think i'm entitled to it

omega25red: I don't understand, did you fly to Nigeria or south america? why didn't you want to talk to his sisters? whatswrong with the questions they were asking you (well i can understand the whole are you a citizen talk being rude) You are with the ARMY and about to get your citizenship: what exactly does that have to do with the guy? why are you still talking to the guy who refused to take you to the airport in a strange town. why is he still on your radar?

you already got off to a bad start with his family members and you already saw how they treat their own mother. How do you think you will fair with these people.

make sense