Egba girl: NO it is not. There are other options: traditional and court marriage. White wedding na oyinbo ma tin. There is no need for it. Na just for show. If you want your wedding in the church? No probs! Just get a pastor and a few witnesses, go to church on a monday morning or whatever, and you are done.

Oh and the fact that you dont ave a white wedding doesnt mean you wont have a happy marriage. Two completely different things.A good wedding does not = A good marriage. Wedding na ceremony. It's about how well you can do that. Marriage na instituion.

oh oooo my kind of gurl.wud u marrt me?

Ada Nri1:
Yep. Once married is already married. The only way you get a divorce is if you guys didn't consumate the union.

Wow, i never knew this.. Then again im not catholic. Thnx4d info.
PS: so not even adultery is grounds for divorce??

Wizard_of_Oz:

Wow, i never knew this.. Then again im not catholic. Thnx4d info.
PS: so not even adultery is grounds for divorce??

This may be helpful anyway
http://softskillmentor-vincent..com/2012/06/divorce-learning-from-school-of.html

3direct: hubby payin tax on trad wedding is crap

@ paying tax

Left to me, I want only traditional & Court. At reception, d priest pronounces man & wife.
But if she insists on d saturday morning ceremony, I won't be wearing no fcking suit. I'll be in serious native attire. It'll be creative for her if she uses native materials to sow a gown, even a flowing one.

ice_fish: Of Course,its nt Necessary. I really tink dat its a personal tin as in sum people want to go all out while odas prefer a small n simple ceremony. I dnt really blame those who want a lavish weddin cos its a 1-off tin all things bein equal

LOL

Truth be told, there is nothing white in all those labeled 'white weddings'

White wedding is as unafrican as it is unnecessary. Traditional wedding is african,natural while the is based on western culture and not even christian biased

Its a personal tin.... If u ave ur money and u want ur wedding elaborate,no family member will caution u,sins u aint seekin assistant from dem...

White wedding or Registry all nah marriage,d most important tin is an HAPPY HOME ,when both parties r happy,den it is called a fruitful home

But as 4 me,i wont spend fortune on my wedding,even if am as rich as dangote in my next generation...Tis jus a waste of money or shuld i call it EGO...

I can build a meaningful 3bedroom flat wif N4m,dan spending on a day weddin...

Evrtman to his own opinion sha

Teejayphillip: Its a personal tin.... If u ave ur money and u want ur wedding elaborate,no family member will caution u,sins u aint seekin assistant from dem...

White wedding or Registry all nah marriage,d most important tin is an HAPPY HOME ,when both parties r happy,den it is called a fruitful home

But as 4 me,i wont spend fortune on my wedding,even if am as rich as dangote in my next generation...Tis jus a waste of money or shuld i call it EGO...

I can build a meaningful 3bedroom flat wif N4m,dan spending on a day weddin...

Evrtman to his own opinion sha

i like where your head's at.

Wizard_of_Oz:
i like where your head's at.

Oshey... Waa gbayii

What is “WHITE” about a wedding?

Posted by Y! Editor in Opinion, Website Main Featured on March 28, 2012 2:00 pm / 7 comments
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by Lucas Togan

…if we as a people refuse to do away completely with the borrowed culture of “white wedding” we should at the very least relegate it to Thursdays and promote the “real wedding”, our wedding, to Saturdays

Of the many generic things wrong with the sub-Saharan African the one irking me the most right now is the relegation of our tradition to the back burner and letting imported culture of the West take preeminence.

I was in Ado-Ekiti (The capital of Ekiti state in South West, Nigeria) penultimate weekend to witness the wedding ceremony of a close friend. He had earlier told me that he had cancelled the “white wedding” and that it was going to be only registry at the court and traditional ceremony. As expected, I had promptly asked if the lady was pregnant or whatever his reason was for cancelling the “white wedding”. As I would learn she was not knocked up. He just did not want it. PERIOD!

That set me to thinking: I am all for original, self-generated and self-involved actions. I am totally sold to people, ideas and actions that are unaffected by society, rules or norms.

I spent the entire week leading to the wedding wondering why Africans (especially those living on the continent) bother with “white wedding?” I cannot remember the last wedding I attended that I did not have to buy aso ebi. Aso ebi is a Nigerian thing, where people attending the same function (usually weddings, funerals, birthdays and the like) purchase a fabric and wear it to the function. It is usually worn by family and close friends. At weddings however, the people who wear English clothes usually include the couple, the members of the train and a few of the guests. I make bold to say 90% of the guests appear in one form of traditional attire or the other. This begs the question – what is “white” about a white wedding? Maybe the bridal gown.

What gnaws at me the most is not the practice in itself but the fact that our traditional wedding (the real wedding) which we understand very well is now termed “engagement” and the imported culture is called “wedding,”.

Back to my Ado-Ekiti experience. That Saturday because there was no church proceedings involved, the couple had the liberty to choose a 12pm commencement. This is obviously the same time most guests (who never attend the church for the blessings anyway) arrive to take plush seats at “white wedding” reception venues. It was a most memorable experience personally because it showcased the wealth of the Yoruba culture. Being a Saturday, most people made it to the venue. There was no expensive wedding dress to be returned for half the price (at best), instead there was an expensive lace combination that the bride can wear again to any august occasion. There was no culture war in the pictures. They picked an aso ebi that rhymed and complemented every part of the occasion. For the first time anyone in attendance who wasn’t dressed in traditional attire would have felt out of place.

What I picked from the trip is that– if we as a people refuse to do away completely with the borrowed culture of “white wedding” we should at the very least relegate it to Thursdays and promote the “real wedding”, our wedding, to Saturdays. I believe we can always make arrangement for the Man-of-God to bless our union at whatever venue we choose on Saturday (after all the good book says, “where two or more are gathered in my name there I am with them”) where we celebrate a truly African nuptial that showcases our heritage.

There are so many things we’ve borrowed from the west and benefited immensely from but this is not and should not be one of them.

SPARK! Let’s change it!–

“Everything has a price.”

...Source: http://www.ynaija.com/opinion-what-is-white-about-a-wedding/

White wedding or marriage no matter the nomenclature is alien,if may ask why cant we the blacks be proud of our Gods given features, we hate our hair,nails,skin et al.How many white wil do traditional marriage ? Let us stop this madness of discrediting our values and holding in high esteem foreign values,and these people has no regard for yours.How do you command respect we you see nothing good about your values.Think about it !

white wedding is unnecessary, even those who invented it care less about marriage now. African Traditional wedding is the ultimate way to go.

The only things necessary, IMO, are the legalization and emotional+financial buoyancy for the days after.

But if people no do 'society' and 'one in town', how we event planners want take chop?

Wyt weddin is nt compulsory nor really certify to be important,buh its just an individual choiz n capability:

danikik7: White wedding or marriage no matter the nomenclature is alien,if may ask why cant we the blacks be proud of our Gods given features, we hate our hair,nails,skin et al.How many white wil do traditional marriage ? Let us stop this madness of discrediting our values and holding in high esteem foreign values,and these people has no regard for yours.How do you command respect we you see nothing good about your values.Think about it !

I see where you're coming from and from almost all the responses what people really value more is the commitment and longevity of the union rather than how grand the church ceremony/wedding reception. And from what you said, there a major shifting away from our traditional values and a move towards a more western culture from dressing like them to buying artificial hair to look like them, to "toning" our skin to match theirs, to starving ourselves and undergoing fat removal surgery just to be as skinny as them. I wonder, when will we draw the line if we can't even keep our weddings simple without striving to make it as grand and "white" as Prince William's wedding?

The veils the white man covered our eyes with are starting to fall off.

Not really,I had my court marriage before my tradition. I dnt see anything in white wedding. My marriage is 2yrs nw

Its not necessary. U can call ur priest to pray and bless u on ur trad day. Remember, d whites don't do traditional wedding. Doing trad and white wedding its like doing one thing over again

Come to think of it, White wedding is for Christians.....to say their vows before God and be ordained by the priest. But the reception is another thing......

The court marriage is the most necessary------for the state.
Traditional is mostly for the recognition amongst your kinsmen

according to a movie, its said that a wedding is a festival of lies and pretense, first the bride wears white and pretends to be a virgin, then the groom smiles and pretends he has found the one. then the guest pretend that they are all happy for them. well me personally thinks that the white wedding is not necessary, but which bride go gree? they all want the white wedding more than anything and can even skip the traditional one which is even more important for a wedding dress and a bridal train.

Wizard_of_Oz:
Reali? Does it mean divorces r forbidden& nt valid in d catholic church??

Yes, it is! But, some still de "tear paper", sha!

I comment my reserve till my baby finally pays my bride price.
My hard earned hubby?

Wizard_of_Oz: Holla, Nairalanders!!
Just wanna know, how many of you would prefer, for your wedding, to just waltz into the marriage registry and sign the necessary forms (court marriage) and then host a little party for the family and maybe call a priest (or whatever religious minister floats your boat) to bless the union briefly before the party commences.
Thing is, my cousin did this and had over a few guests in his house, some family, and a priest and that was it. No fancy white wedding, no cutthroat wedding gowns and the associated exorbitant makeuP artist fees, no extravagant reception. Just a few people made the get together special and that was it. He's married for two years now and i've never seen any couple happier.
My question is, does the absence of a flashy white wedding (just after the flashy traditional wedding) diminish the validity of any marriage union??
Thanx.

Which one is black wedding pls??

Wizard_of_Oz: Holla, Nairalanders!!
Just wanna know, how many of you would prefer, for your wedding, to just waltz into the marriage registry and sign the necessary forms (court marriage) and then host a little party for the family and maybe call a priest (or whatever religious minister floats your boat) to bless the union briefly before the party commences.
Thing is, my cousin did this and had over a few guests in his house, some family, and a priest and that was it. No fancy white wedding, no cutthroat wedding gowns and the associated exorbitant makeuP artist fees, no extravagant reception. Just a few people made the get together special and that was it. He's married for two years now and i've never seen any couple happier.
My question is, does the absence of a flashy white wedding (just after the flashy traditional wedding) diminish the validity of any marriage union??
Thanx.

NO, ι† doesn't...infact ι†'s †ђξ reason why some marriages crumble(wen γσυ can't maintain †ђξ same standard γσυ presented on †ђΛ† day). Ι†'s a pity wen a couple saves all they could(ι† maγ̲̣̣̥ ђΛƔ£ taken yrs) ₪ throw a flashy weddin ceremony ₪ afterwards, cudnt enjoy †ђξ courtesy øƒ †ђξ same joy ₪ xcitement they had on †ђξ weddin day. But keepin ι† simple does a lot øƒ trick "REDUCE STRESS, HELP SAVE MORE, LIGHTENS D XPECTATION OF FRIENDS N FAMILY IN OUR MARRIAGE N IT MAKES UR GROWTH AS A COUPLE SEEN EASILY"

My traditional marriage was two months ago and ever since people have been pestering me about a white wedding and when i tell them i'm not having any but a simple court wedding they go on to say stuffs like "u r not properly married" can u imagine that oh well i'm not even bothered the most important thing is i married my soul mate shekena.

stephnina0: My traditional marriage was two months ago and ever since people have been pestering me about a white wedding and when i tell them i'm not having any but a simple court wedding they go on to say stuffs like "u r not properly married" can u imagine that oh well i'm not even bothered the most important thing is i married my soul mate shekena.

I feel you.. 100%.. Enjoy your man, dear.. Forget the haters tht dn't knw the truth abt true love n legal unions.

Sam Milla: Wow!

Nigerians are liberated from white traditions. Great!
Hypocrisy has eaten deep into the minds of our people.
You see it is not necessary to host a white/church wedding but it is the same ladies who are distancing themslves from it here that will pressure the husbands for wedding.
Their flimsy excuses will range from:
My friend did it to my Pastor wants me to do it.
They cannot hold their ground whenthe time comes.
Until our girls are bold enough to face the Pastor or Rev.Father and tell them that they dont need White weddings, And until they are able to face their girlfriends and tell them to mind their own marriages, then white wedding remains necessary.

I have already decided not to do it and i told my girl before she moved to my place.

your girl has already moved to your place?

so, how far since then? Still no wedding?

just asking, thanks!

addictiv: according to a movie, its said that a wedding is a festival of lies and pretense, first the bride wears white and pretends to be a virgin, then the groom smiles and pretends he has found the one. then the guest pretend that they are all happy for them.

such a cynic.

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Not at all. In my place Black wedding is compulsory.