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Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by TYtayo1: 8:20pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
just as the preacher said 'let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: fear GOD.' this issue revolves around the fear of God. If you truly honour your creator, you know what to do. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by tny60(f): 8:24pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days". she's 34 so she can't be picky at this point. If she can find someone else she should. otherwise, let her get pregnant. but i'm sure it will hurt the marriage in the long run because she will be resentful of the whole thing. If I were her,at such an age, I will be aiming for older divorced/widowed men because: 1. he'll probably already have kids and the pressure will be less for her to get pregnant 2. she will look young in comparison |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by hidee20(m): 8:25pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Different strokes 4 different folks,but religious wise(xtian),its a sin against God as it takes fonication to achieve d pregnant. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by mkoabiola: 8:26pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Abegggi,hw many ppu de follow quran or bible. Everybody de do wateva he likes .no 1 cares again. An civbilization we de claim now* |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 8:28pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Florena: That this is coming from a woman makes this comment more poignant. Is destiny the same for everyone? Are all the fingers on your hand the same? Does God give a date that a woman/man must be married by. These limits (age, fertility, wealth etc) are designed, driven and instituted by man. No wonder chaos reigns. If you look at your life through the eyes of what other men have achieved , you can never achieve anything in life. You will never be happy too. Always looking at others achievements instead of appreciating what you have. 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 8:34pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
omo_to_dun: @SELFWORTH Obatalas forgiveness is for you not me. You obviously believe in it. You are the one deriding what you have not seen nor witnessed. I was merely asking for your evidence. I have nothing to prove on a faceless forum and you have nothing to prove to me. No offence intended . |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by zanga420: 8:34pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
berem: my cousin is very complete as a human.we are very fertile in my family.my cousin isn't the type that keep male friends.The man in question loves her so much but he is insisting on getting her preggy first.My cousin missed so many chances of getting married by her stubborness.She is an introvert to the core.Her mum is very worried because her other sisters are trying to follow her footsteps.Her younger sister also turned a guy down that wanted to marry her just because the guy is short! Well,I don't really know the kind of advice am gonna give her.There are some other women that would gladly accept but .......I don't know.am kinda confused.I think its high time women get out of this norm that men must be the one "wooing" a lady. I dont see anything wrong with a girl seeing a guy he likes n letting him know n d guy can take over from there if he likes the lady, this clearly what I'm seeing in this lady's case. Those that has been coming to her she didnt like them 4one reason or the other. But I know there are guys available she had liked in her 34yrs life, only to be stopped by "its not proper for a lady to show/say I like you norm". Now that makes them look like commodity showcased waiting to be sold. Which is not supposed to be. @Op I think she's has made her values known n should not be pressured otherwise. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by ocelot2006(m): 8:35pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days". I can you're in quite a dilemma there. Well, has your aunt even considered the possibility of your cousine's so-called fiance dumping her once he has "tasted the goods"? Anyway, I strongly suggest that your cousine stick to her guns on this one. No sex before marriage. The right man will come at the right time. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by tny60(f): 8:37pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
WAM?: haha it's the symptom of "baby daddy" "baby mama" epidemic waiting to happen. because how many of these men will follow through to marry the unfortunate pregnant ladies. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by faceit: 8:41pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
iamtheprincipal: This issue has always been one that has raised certain concerns from different quarters as it's unbiblical but the waywardness and lost of values in our present day young ladies leaves much to be desired as it has eroded the 'trust' factor that existed in the days of our fathers and made most men absorb this concept of pregnancy before marriage.do u think dat getting pregnant b4 marriage is d solution? where there r wayward girls, there r also girls who r decent. but d wayward girls didnt make themselves dat way, guys r also contributing factors to d degree of waywardness of some ladies. its just d extreme decadence of d society brought by both sexes dat made pple sleep with eachother b4 marriage as if d commandments of God dose nt stand again whereas d words of d Lord r sure and notin can change dat.may God almighty help us all 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by faceit: 8:55pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
stillwater: By sleeping with the lady before marriage is he not contributing to this so-called 'waywardness'? Nigerian men are hypocrites! Freaking razz things.i wonder too o, who turn girls to been wayward..no b men or can girls turn demselves to wayward entity..nigerian men r hypocrites and proud. if u dont want a 'wayward girl' den stop impregnanting girls and telling dem to go do abortion....after u don do abortion for 5times for each girl u sleep with, u go com dey look for new brand..men sha, den funny die 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by ferhyntorlah(f): 8:56pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
kulyie: Ehen,if she's 34 nko? The way some people think beats me and this one will claim he is a graduate. I don't see any differenve between your intelligence quotient and that of a vulcanizer on the street. This is so funny! What a comparison! 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by NEROSKY(m): 9:03pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
freecocoa: Since when is the matter about me biko? To ur question : Yes i wasn't refering to u, i was talking about what all of you is using as a refrence supposing she agrees to get pregnant, gets pregnant and losses the pregnancy, what happens then? He calls off the wedding or what? |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by acume: 9:05pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
look, lets be realistic, you are all blaming men for this and that, the society is changing to something else, that is y men are skeptical about who to spend the rest of their life with, come to think if it, a lot of marriages ended up not having children because of carelessness on the part of women. My dear, if the lady in question is sure of herself and feel that the guy is the right person, pray over it and take a bold step, do your guy's wish, because i'm very sure that you cannot be a virgin at 34. You don't have all the time to start selecting men remember. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by faceit: 9:08pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Richvkunt: The problem now a days is that single girls dey waka waka too much.pls let me ask...who impregnants ds girls? its nt as if dey get d sperm dats fertilizes d egg from spermbank now. nigerians r full of hypocrisy...a man will impregnant a girl five, six times, will tell her hes nt ready dat dey shd abort, pays for d abortion, leave d girl, move to d next girl, does d same, den later he will now say 'its now time to settle down, let me get a girl and ensure she gets pregnant before marriage, forgetting d fact dat God watches us all and will reward us according to our deeds, either good or bad 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by frank317: 9:15pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
chaircover: Its the hypocrisy that makes me laugh. Men complain that women are wayward, but in actual fact how did the women get wayward? its not as if the women sleep with themselves.unfortuntely humans generally lower their reasonable standard just to get what they want, especially when its getting late and they could lose their desire of affection. the problem with us is that we always look at life from our own point of view, i,e from our own present condition. u have probably thought or believed that u would never b 34 and still searching, making u not able to imagine what 34yrs old single ladies are going through. pls will ur brother marry a 34yrs old lady and woulnt want her to get pregnant first? wont the pregnancy be a relieve to u, who would want to oppose him for marrying 34yrs old lady, and even his own family? my sister got married at the age of 35 and her husband insisted she must get pregnant first, i understoond with him. luckily for us all, she got pregnant (with twins, a boy and a girl). |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by warrior101: 9:17pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
ciphoenix: She's a human being not a piece of equipment about to be bought. She has as much right as the guy demanding a child. She should stick to her values. before you buy fairly used cars you must try am well right? EVERYTHING IS FOR SALE... |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:18pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
redsun: As if they do what they hear from church.Women value church only when marriage is in the offing. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by mantote: 9:25pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Me my woman must born all the pikin sef before we marry Infact,my son will be my best man |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:25pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
chaircover: Its the hypocrisy that makes me laugh. Men complain that women are wayward, but in actual fact how did the women get wayward? its not as if the women sleep with themselves. rod? but at that age, she doesn't have much room to manoeuvre unless she will stay single. No getting kids outside oh. If your man wants kids, give him kids, but if you can't, wait for ur type. However society pressure na fire. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:27pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
SpicyMimi: The truth is Most Men are selfish human beings, so they careless abt others xcept themselves! Xpecially those ugly rich ones.... Why do u still consider them? Why? |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by frank317: 9:32pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
ocelot2006: now ur advice has a serious problem since u dont know the right time and who the right man is. where was the right man since she was in her early 20s, late 20s and even early 30s. yet u are asking her to wait for the right man. how do we know hat the right man is. if u are a woman will u b thirty and still b waiting for the right man? dont advice because u are not wearing the shoe and because u believ that u will never wesr the shoe |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:32pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: Ur own na advice. Na u go come marry 34year old? I remember one time my boss was telling me how good an older woman was, she was coming to our office and I asked him to ask her out..........osu ataa! |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by warrior101: 9:34pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Impulse80: Honestly i don't see why all the fussing i want my baby gurl to be pregnant before we wed and someone is quoting bible for me lol |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by back2sender: 9:35pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Its apalling wen pple come on nairaland to exhibit holier than thy attitude. D truth ofd mata is dat dis is d trend in d society even supported by d church dat conducts such weddings. Al my colleagues took in befoire wedding. How did we know» in less than 7mths dem don put to bed. Dis r pple dat claim to knw God pass us for office. Make uir cousin carry go ooo because 34 na injuryy time she dey oooi |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Urine: 9:36pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Lolaabokoku: must a lady get pregnant b4 marriage? I wonder wat men took ladies 4 oppa gbagaun style 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:39pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
k2039: U dey mind them? When a short guy comes, they laugh and he goes and when the expected one comes and with a demand, they come out quoting and citing bible. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by AZeD1(m): 9:44pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Urine:Lol |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by warrior101: 9:46pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
vanstanzy: lol. so our fore fathers were not wise people? bro, there is nothing new under the sun... 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:48pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
dapo338: There are lots of what u should do 2gether before getting married, If u ain't compatible before marriage, u can never be except God's intervention....... I beleive couples should know everything abt his or her partner before getting married.... What if she or he's not ur type in bed, and u never had the chance to know that before marriage..that is when the husband looks outside for a better partner in bed...... If u want to do anything in life, do it with ur senses. No be for here o....even pple that dated for yrs still separate........nothing works.....it's just u. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by ogahope(m): 9:51pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!Does church wedding take priority to traditional marriage? After traditional marriage, are you still barn by any law from having sex with ur wife.traditional marriage is what d Bible recognised. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 9:53pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: for which hous?...u must go build ur own huz ooo |
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