baby_mama:

Hehehehe
Now I am jealous
You got the earrings with the necklace?

ileobatojo:

Unforgivable IMO.



Lmao! Brutal!

davidylan:

I wonder why you've chosen to take things personal now lol. I suppose it really did hit home that your spouse is just as violent (well he doesnt hit you abi) and irrational as the OPs ba?
Baby mama is happy at her gift... whether it hit the store shelves in 2012 or 2009 is not the issue. I would rather be in a marriage where i am happy (as a woman) to go home than one where i am treated no better than a sniveling mouse despite all the gifts. I know a woman whose husband was rich enough to buy a mansion with an auto generator as far back as 2002... they are divorced today.

davidylan:

I wonder why you've chosen to take things personal now lol. I suppose it really did hit home that your spouse is just as violent (well he doesnt hit you abi) and irrational as the OPs ba?
Baby mama is happy at her gift... whether it hit the store shelves in 2012 or 2009 is not the issue. I would rather be in a marriage where i am happy (as a woman) to go home than one where i am treated no better than a sniveling mouse despite all the gifts. I know a woman whose husband was rich enough to buy a mansion with an auto generator as far back as 2002... they are divorced today.

jidegirl12:

Eeeeesh ..... I'm married to the most decent man you could ever imagine...... not like you bunch of hypocrites .... doesn't hang out with blacks either ....he was the best thing that happened since Clinton regime.

jidegirl12:

Eeeeesh ..... I'm married to the most decent man you could ever imagine ...... not like you bunch of hypocrites .... doesn't hang out with blacks either ....he was the best thing that happened since Clinton regime.

baby_mama:

There is another man in Nigeria,a one time politician married to a friend of a friend
He not only beats her up but he urinates on her while she is wriggling in pain from his beatings
There are some men that have no business being married
Women should learn to weed these animals out at courtship because they display these signs even then

ileobatojo:

Imagine? What the relevance of that to the discussion at hand for fecks sake?

coogar:

then proffer solutions to her and let's leave divorce out of it. i doubt the op said anything about the husband using fisticuffs or drop kicks on her. he has likened his spitting on her to cunninlingus.......the husband does not seem to think he's doing anything wrong so i suggest the wife should start spitting on him too. they deserve each other

davidylan:

and?

Certainly you have issues that go beyond this story. Its amazing how everyone here has the best marriage in the world. I wonder how you have the time to be with these "decent" spouses while spending 90% of your day camped on these boards.

davidylan:

and?

Certainly you have issues that go beyond this story. Its amazing how everyone here has the best marriage in the world. I wonder how you have the time to be with these "decent" spouses while spending 90% of your day camped on these boards.

davidylan:
I didnt ask that she get a divorce. Rather i ask that she starts to take an active role in changing her husband. Men are emboldened to do what they do because they have wives like the OP who take the abuse and do nothing... rather blame themselves for the man's poor behavior. She needs to give him an ultimatum... either you stop and behave like a grown adult or face serious consequences.

baby_mama: Coogar I hope you are not a wife beater or abuser
Your aggression scares me even from an electronic stand point

jidegirl12:

Oops so you're now watching me? Get a lazyboy will ya?

You're the one with issues.... I'm an adult and can do what I want .... Doesn't concern you how spend my leisure time.... I don't owe you no Fvcking explanation!

coogar: so jidegirl and davidylan don't hang out with negroes? y'all are racists! jidegirl, i am visiting your city in february and you are hosting me. lest i forget, i am black!!

davidylan:

I try not to hang with blacks too. enjoy.

I'm not really watching you by the wa[/b]y... just couldnt help notice the proliferation of "i have the best marriage in the world" posts from people who spend WAY more time here than those of us who dont even have a spouse to be responsible to. You dont owe me an explanation neither did i request for one. Its your life... dont use it as a template for others since [b]we have no idea what worms are under all the pretence.

davidylan:

I guess i could say i dont date blacks either. See Jidegirl, me and your hubby are even.
For the life of me i had no idea why that came up... i had no idea it was now a thing of pride for blacks to say they dont hang out with blacks. clear case of a neo-colonial mindset if you ask me.

coogar: so jidegirl and davidylan don't hang out with negroes? y'all are racists! jidegirl, i am visiting your city in february and you are hosting me. lest i forget, i am black!!

davidylan:

I guess i could say i dont date blacks either. See Jidegirl, me and your hubby are even.
For the life of me i had no idea why that came up... i had no idea it was now a thing of pride for blacks to say they dont hang out with blacks. clear case of a neo-colonial mindset if you ask me.

coogar:

now, this is what i like to see on these pages....

Davidylan: Men are emboldened to do what they do because they have wives like the OP who take the abuse and do nothing... rather blame themselves for the man's poor behavior. She needs to give him an ultimatum... either you stop and behave like a grown adult or face serious consequences.

coogar:

she needs to discuss at length with her husband

Coogar: and if that method fails, she should start spitting too. what works in household b will not necessarily work in household g. different strokes for different folks jare. there's no hard n fast rule to a happy marriage. as long as the 2 parties are comfortable with their spitfest, who are we to decide how they must live their lives?

Winneygirl: I dnt knw who 2 react 2.
We are all getting personal here!
Ileobatojo, baby mama, davidylan, jidegirl, coogar...let's put references 2personal issues/marriages aside.

Ileobatojo and babymama ar advocating divorce.
Jidegirl,coogar, winneygirl And davidylan say 'work it out'.

Let's base our advises on how much we knw abt Op and her hubby.
@Op, u hav som questions 2answer...Am sure U knw dat...

coogar:

you don't date blacks?
ol' boy, you are missing o - there's nothing as good dating black women especially nigerian chics. they are sweeter than licorice. firm butt, luscious boöbs and errrrrrrrrrrr......

jidegirl12:

Maybe it is a pride to avoid mixing up with guys like you.

Winneygirl: I
Ileobatojo and babymama ar advocating divorce.

ileobatojo:

Really? Show me where I advocated divorce please.

ileobatojo:
This is what you like to see?....

So what are the serious consequences? And how will it be different from what some are saying?

She already did, see the original post.

If she is comfortable with being spit on, why would she be here complaining? Obviously, the man has no qualms about their arguments becoming a spitting competition, that doesn't mean the wife is okay with continuing to spit and be spat on. What manner of disgusting solution is this you are proposing?

davidylan:
Believe me bro, the last time i dated a nigerian woman was 9 yrs ago. With women like jidegirl, i dont believe its been a bad decision.

davidylan:

As they say, the internet is the greatest leveler.

coogar:

so she should leave her husband because she cannot have a spitfest? if everyone left their husbands at the first sign of trouble then there wouldn't be married folks on the planet. she can manage this crisis without going through a divorce. personally, i think divorce is for losers.