Les: Ogologo akúkø!! Mr o.p, love doesn't exist, actually i tot it was till i discovered dat i dont truly love d sharp babe am dating now, ol am after is her virginity, once she gives it to me, Off i go!!! Potential predator= potential prey

Hey mister, it irritates me alot to see such a post; don't b a disgrace to manhood. Why go into a relationship with a girl u do not love, talk more of taking away her virginity. Pls just let her be. Remember, man would always reap what he sows. A word is enough...

@OP: By "...restrain urself from love?" I guess u do not mean True Love, else u need a 'shrink'. I believe in true love and will NEVER be in a relationship without it for I'ld rather stay single then, even as I've gladly been.

hollas2jnr:
Hey mister, it irritates me alot to see such a post; don't b a disgrace to manhood. Why go into a relationship with a girl u do not love, talk more of taking away her virginity. Pls just let her be. Remember, man would always reap what he sows. A word is enough...

i tot i did love her b4 goin into it....
P.s- i dont know how many times i've to quit dis relationship but she wont lemme go, owk o.

'Fall IN LOVE'?,
i wouldn't allow my neck,hands,legs and my HEART get broken!

What the op has been doing is "falling in like", reason for the frequency.

When you find yourself falling in like, the best thing is withdraw from the person, try taking your mind away from her/him, engage in things that better other aspects of your life, do what brings you joy, laughter and happiness like hanging around good friends ...

Time and decision to love are critical factors to falling in love

I also have to say stop the "single and wanting" thingy you're doing. Another reason for your frequent "falling in love" might be from the fact that you're wanting a partner, u feel like u need someone/something to make you whole. Anything that passes by starts to feel like "the one"

its always gud 2 stand by love or walk in love instead of falling in love!

[color=#990000][/color] a wise man once told me "one GF is one wahala bt when u hav r rite one, its heaven", xo pls fall in love only that when ur head breaks and ur heart shatters, u'l feel d pain alone, nd dont bother telling anybody cus its not gonna help matters.

I fall in love with ANY FEMALE FRIEND, so what I do is that I try as much as possible to avoid those I dont want to fall I'm love with.

u cn only restrian 4rm falling in love after several experience of wot u tink love is nd u later finds out that it is not so. Den u begin to regret falling in love!
This happens mostly to people who takes love to be just sex nd money, without an inner feeling nd @ a time,gets irritated with it.
Such kind of love will only cause one to flirt... U cnt love wen u flirt until u learn to love!
Restrianing 4rm love results after heartbreaks with d wrong partners.Wait 4 ur right partner,dnt rush.;-(

Someone to care,
Someone to share,
Lonely hours
And moments of despair,

To be loved, to be loved!
Oh, what a feeling,
To be loved!

Someone to kiss,
Someone to miss,
When you're away
To hear from each day.

To be loved, to be loved!
Oh, what a feeling,
To be loved!

Les: The way ppl tak de generate theory for nairaland d fear me o.

If you had done some googling before posting this, you'd have known that I didn't just make this up (the brain part), it's a known fact. The human brain/mind can't distinguish between reality and imagination.

Why do you get arous.ed when you imagine being sexually involved with someone? It's because your brain/mind can't tell if it's real or not. Same applies to this subject.

D fear of being rejected
Or ur love not being reciprocated.

Some people restrain themselves from falling in love not because they are diehard or dont ve feelings but because of their past experience. Most times their partners dont agree with them on certain acts(sex) wic affects their relationship wit God.

@OP ur post is quite wrng, cos u cnt refrain 4rm falln in love, bt u cn avoid nd pretnd nt to b in love.This is a broad thn which has a gr8 deal to do wth perspectv nd understading.
First I'll like to say dt 'faln in love' is a hype. Ovrrated issue. When u fall in love, u'll break ur leg or worse ur neck nd die
whethr fall in love, or u be in love wth smone, true love xists. Nd I believe nd knw dt it only can b kept fully nd acievd in God tru a godly life. Nw, u msnt b in a relationship or hv SEX wth evryone u r in love wth, it's sin nd evil nd deadly (dis is why; assumn dt persns' charactr nd persnaity is disgustn nd ditastable, then a part f u wll b joind nd b wth dt persn,nd d urge wll b strngr nd impossible to resist,dis nw mite turn to hatred cos u mite nw desire d erotic distructv sex bt nt shown d true love to dt persn).
U cant resist falln in love,bt u sure can love more than one women wthout going into a sexual or serious relatnshp wth them. So, NO! Cos evn those dt hv been heart-broken or hurt stll one wy hv thr heart wth d predator/heart breaker, nd even wen they stll latr gt to b in love, mt restrain themselves from lettn themslvs in. Bt in sm cases, d persn mite grown numb, nd dis state is a confusing state whr the persn wll b unable to tell his/her heart from his/her kidney

Some very good responses here.

usermane: :-)
It shouldn't have to be that way. All girls are not the same

May be you live in the moon. To me o all naija babes are the same. Chikenna.

I'm single presently because I'm trying to focus on my future. For the main time I see girls as speed breakers on the road to my destiny, that alone refrains me from any relationship presently. I have been in a couple of relationships back in school that didn't lead anywhere, probably I didn't give much attention because of my studies.

tpacalipse: May be you live in the moon. To me o all naija babes are the same. Chikenna.

To you right? Buh that doesn't make them the same. Stop generalizing please...

tpacalipse: May be you live in the moon. To me o all naija babes are the same. Chikenna.

stop generalizing please. say you have been attracting a particular type.

i dont restrain myself. i believe in giving myself the chance to truely love someone, and when i see they dont want it, i bounce. simple.

there re many fishes in the ocean.

i_am_model: I'm single presently because I'm trying to focus on my future. For the main time I see girls as speed breakers on the road to my destiny, that alone refrains me from any relationship presently. I have been in a couple of relationships back in school that didn't lead anywhere, probably I didn't give much attention because of my studies.

correct!

Soglad: Some people restrain themselves from falling in love not because they are diehard or dont ve feelings but because of their past experience. Most times their partners dont agree with them on certain acts(sex) wic affects their relationship wit God.

i believe we have all had past experiences, but then, we shouldnt let those pasts destroy the future naa, after all its an experience that happened in the past.

if u meet someone who doesnt agree with u on certain acts, its just an indication that u need to flush him out quick and move on to the one who will agree.

in life, to get to best, u will meet "just there, manageable, okay, chance, lets see, lets try, good, can be better, better, then best". we cant just stop at good and say good broke my heart, we give up. lol

I consciously decided to restrain myself from falling in love after my last breakup. Now I am praying to even learn to at least like the opposite sex cos it now seems like nothing fazes me anymore, I'm so hard now that most people around me think I'm a lesbian, I used to be the girly mushy kind of person but now its almost like I do not have a heart and I honestly do not like it.

MO25: I consciously decided to restrain myself from falling in love after my last breakup. Now I am praying to even learn to at least like the opposite sex cos it now seems like nothing fazes me anymore, I'm so hard now that most people around me think I'm a lesbian, I used to be the girly mushy kind of person but now its almost like I do not have a heart and I honestly do not like it.

pele dear, do urself a favor, move on. it should be easier to think n be in love now that nothing fazes u. thats d whole idea.

MO25: I consciously decided to restrain myself from falling in love after my last breakup. Now I am praying to even learn to at least like the opposite sex cos it now seems like nothing fazes me anymore, I'm so hard now that most people around me think I'm a lesbian, I used to be the girly mushy kind of person but now its almost like I do not have a heart and I honestly do not like it.

Ehya...

Les: i tot i did love her b4 goin into it....
P.s- i dont know how many times i've to quit dis relationship but she wont lemme go, owk o.

Ok but then let her know how u feel about her, take ur stand and u both go ur ways, its that simple bro.

djeezy: I formerly created a thread asking if anyone has ever been single for more than a year and the comments proved that most people have been single all their lives. This got me perplexed and incredulous wondering if they have a heart made of stone or something. Whether it's a conscious deliberate attempt or principles that I do not know.
Falling in love is natural and sometimes we cannot control how it happens and it's indeed a wonderful feeling, however there are some people who restrain themselves from falling in love due to personal conviction or religion, hence making them remain single. So my question is how do you stop yourself from falling in love? Does the belief "that true love doesn't exist" restrain you? Mature responses pls.

op what u got to understand is dat friendship has level by level,and peoples(MEN) behaviour towards women differs,as 4 me I can b single 4 more dan a year or 2 and can b engaged in a relationship if a girl dat understands me betta comes along.back to d levels of relationship.d level I know as at now is #w a level of jux been a causal friend with a girl and #2 a level of jux been a sex partner of d girl as in bed mate,notin more than jux sex is what is holding u guys together,#3a relationship of profound understanding and great knowledge of who ur partner is and what he can do,dat what I call calling a genuine relationship.SO OP WITH ONE R U ASKING ABOUT?

are u single or married?

dmcdad: True love exists and will continue to exist till the end of time...

You don't force yourself to refrain from falling in love. Love is more sweeter than honey. The thing here is, it is not a must that one should be in a relationship, especially when you know what you want and it's not coming handy, what do you do? Do you just go by whatever you see around? No! That would be awkward of you. The fact that people are falling in love or being in a relationship is not a yardstick that you have to be in a relationship..

If there is no reason for you to go into a relationship, do you think it's advisable to go into it? Even if you have your reasons and all that, there is still need to look for someone that will complement you and make you achieve whatever goal you have in mind for going into that relationship.. If you can't find someone that will fill up that space in your heart that is void of feelings and emotions, then going into a relationship will be redundant.

So, if love comes knocking at your door, give it a chance. But don't ever force it or try to go into a relationship at all cost just because others are going into it. Do you know if they are even enjoying it or enduring it

Think and act wisely...

Nice piece