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When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by smartmom(f): 4:06pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
I had this heated argument with a friend when she came griping of a neigbour who conceived after 3 months after delivery. Our bone of contention is when is the appropriate time? she thinks as early as the new mother is comfortable to resume 'duty' I think not! can we educate new mothers here please? |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by seasonedmom: 4:19pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
Matter of fact, I think our parents had more sense than their 'modern'offspring! call me old fashioned but I firmly believe all amorous gestures should be held back till at least 6 weeks. A woman's body goes through a major ordeal during delivery so she should take time off to heal and recuperate abegi! 3 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by babysnogls: 4:28pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
If its a normal delivery, i'l say a month. If she had tears or episotomy, i'l say 3 months(wen d wound is healed). If is CS, 6months to a year. Some husbees too get pepper body. I had episotomy with my 2nd child and my hubby wanted it b4 a month. He almost loosend d thread! |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by donchris369: 4:39pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
babysnogls: If its a normal delivery, i'l say a month. If she had tears or episotomy, i'l say 3 months(wen d wound is healed). If is CS, 6months to a year. Some husbees too get pepper body. I had episotomy with my 2nd child and my hubby wanted it b4 a month. He almost loosend d thread! Hahahahah.... Your hubby dey vex oooo. Anyway na mann na. You know men na and their high testereone. Hahahahaha. Abi you want make him go outside? |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 4:45pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
smartmom: I had this heated argument with a friend when she came griping of a neigbour who conceived after 3 months after delivery. Our bone of contention is when is the appropriate time? she thinks as early as the new mother is comfortable to resume 'duty' I think not! can we educate new mothers here please? a full year! 2 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by seasonedmom: 5:08pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
I remembered an article/post in which a mom( I think?) gave this very detailed intimacy resumption plan which I did not fully agree with but I do admit had a few merits: http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/topic,154.0.html under the category child delivery and resuming sexual intimacy. We must take care of our bodies o! if e spoil now the men would just dreeesssss out and look elsewhere for 'greener pastures'. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 5:13pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
I resumed with my wife 1 year after delivery. I waited that long because I wanted to be sure there will be no harm to her. But it was not easy waiting for that long. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by DANILSA(m): 5:16pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
virtuoso01: I resumed with my wife 1 year after delivery.UTUOKU |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by k2039: 5:19pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar: [color=soyouquotedme]If I have to wait a full year to get se.x, I'll rather not give birth. [/color] |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 5:25pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
k2039: so if your spouse travels for a year or incapacitated to have sëx due to illness, you would commit suicide? better learn some sort of self control going to marriage otherwise you would be dicking your housemaid or that teenage orange seller called comfort 6 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by smartmom(f): 5:25pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
virtuoso01: I resumed with my wife 1 year after delivery. Kudos to u! but the danger of that is the possibility of another pregnancy after all that stored up..... seasoned_mom: I remembered an article/post in which a mom( I think?) gave this very detailed intimacy resumption plan which I did not fully agree with but I do admit had a few merits: I agree with that link/author esp. the methods which should help the likes of Virtuoso and his 'patience' |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 5:34pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
The medically recommended time is usually 6 weeks, I don't believe there is a difference whether you have a C-section or vaginal delivery. The vagina/cervix area should typically be ready by 6 weeks. Whether the woman is emotionally ready or interested is another matter. If more health issues complicate things, that will also put a wrench to the plans. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 5:38pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
ileobatojo: The medically recommended time is usually 6 weeks, I don't believe there is a difference whether you have a C-section or vaginal delivery. The vagina/cervix area should typically be ready by 6 weeks. Whether the woman is emotionally ready or interested is another matter. If more health issues complicate things, that will also put a wrench to the plans. 6 weeks? why not carry a chainsaw and hack the woman to death? a woman is not ready 6 weeks after delivery unless you are insinuating women are domestic animals. anything between 9-12 months is the standard! the state of the sushi sef won't appeal to any man unless he's a räpist! 3 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by k2039: 5:45pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar:[color=soyouquotedme]So you didn't d*ick any girl for a year. Sincere answer please?. I have to wait till then though to know what I'll do in that situation. [/color] |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 5:47pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
k2039: nah.....i am a faithful husband besides, my spouse is an expert with her hands and tongue. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar: Lol! Wetin concern me with domestic animals. Did I give any man automatic freedom to jump on his wife at 6 weeks? I am telling you the fact of the matter. By 6 weeks, the cervix has closed, any tears have healed and the woman won't be bleeding anymore. The va*gina is ready to receive the pe*nis simple. Like I said, whether the woman is in the mood or not is another matter. She may be fatigued, may have suffered other complications medically and psychologically that prevents the act. The does not change the fact that the va*gina is ready for sex by 6 weeks in majority of cases. 3 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by k2039: 5:51pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar: [color=soyouquotedme]I have a alternative then, I will stick with oral. [/color] 1 Like |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Geomac: 5:52pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
k2039: lol |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 5:54pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
ileobatojo: most women don't stop bleeding until 8 weeks(lochia) so how can she be ready to take a man then? there are many issues involved here my friend including physical and psychological issues. child birth is like a grenade going off inside a woman. everything in her uterus has been bruised, torn, damaged and sex after 6 weeks is ideal to you? ileobatojo, what are you not telling us? |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 6:05pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar: Says who? Lochia has usually stopped by 4-6 weeks. When did I say it is ideal after 6 weeks? It has to be individualized once cleared by your OB and that clearance typically happens around 6 weeks. Everything in her uterus is damaged? Where are you getting this info from, baba biology? Even if the uterus were damaged, do you realize the uterus is a separate structure from the v*agina? I'm not trying to tell you anything. You can rest assured poor Mr Ileobatojo needed the patience of a saint after my kids. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 6:14pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
ileobatojo: ask around - that stuff takes about 6-8 weeks!!!
worn and torn......not damaged(literally).....
i bet he did! a gentleman would wait for as long as it takes.... |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by mjconcept(m): 6:14pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar:Who is Comfort? |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 6:19pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
mjconcept: Apparently the orange seller. coogar: No need to. I already know the facts. coogar: Btw, the presence of lochia doesn't prevent a woman from 'taking a man'. 1 Like |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by feminineA: 6:19pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
Different women with different strength. it all depends. I know a woman that resumes sex with her husband at 8 days after delivery. I resumed a moth later infact i was the one that asked for it though he was a bit skeptical about it. Expect the woman had a CS she can resume as soon as she feels like |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by greatgod2012(f): 6:30pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
coogar: yee, coogar, im a virgin o, pls, dont corrupt my mind....oh no, my eyes. On a serious note, if nothig serious happens to d woman after delivery, then 3-4 months will do, well, im expecting your bombshell, because me and hubby dey do am after 4 months. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by coogar: 6:31pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
ileobatojo: you know yourself - you can't speak for everyone.
ewwww sick sordid grotesque only a räpist would do such to a woman still bleeding... greatgod2012: a granny like you is a virgin? still trying to figure out who is older between you and the land of canaan.
cheiiii! if the coast is clear and both parties are willing then why not? my missus is fragile so i gave her 12 months without harassing her. |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by greatgod2012(f): 6:32pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
feminine A: Different women with different strength. it all depends. I know a woman that resumes sex with her husband at 8 days after delivery. I resumed a moth later infact i was the one that asked for it though he was a bit skeptical about it. haaaaaaa! 8 days after delivery......hhhhmmmm, i no go talk, but 1 Like |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by TableLeg(m): 6:33pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
smartmom: I had this heated argument with a friend when she came griping of a neigbour who conceived after 3 months after delivery. Our bone of contention is when is the appropriate time? she thinks as early as the new mother is comfortable to resume 'duty' I think not! can we educate new mothers here please?Straight after delivery is fine .... Immediately the baby comes out, the hubby should dive in! 2 Likes |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 6:41pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
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Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
virtuoso01: I resumed with my wife 1 year after delivery. Pls give us hint on what you where doing during this one full yr. Na hand job abi blow.jo.b. We are here to learn and am interested! |
Re: When Should A Couple Resume Love Making After Delivery? by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jan 02, 2013 |
chaircover: This cooger sef. One doesn't know when he is joking and when he is serious Don't mind him. . . . anyway, unless there are complications, the woman should be physically ready to recommence sex after 6 weeks . . infact that is one of the questions they will ask you at your 6 week post natal check Thank you o! I applaud him for patiently waiting a year after his wife's delivery but that doesn't change the fact that she had been physically ready way, waaay before that. |
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