[size=14pt]hello nairalanders...my fiance was in an accident and now she is lame and not very presentable. Should i marry her.
i don't think that in her condition she can give birth to children but i still pity her and i know that my life would
turn into hell if i will marry her. i am just starting life and i am not very rich,,infact i have spent most of my
money trying to remedy her condition..please what would you do if you were in my shoes[/size]

[b]Thous says the lord...your wealth shall be multiplied in quantum..you house shall last forever....her womb will be expanded and the
fruits quantified..you shall no no shame and neither shall you know sorrow for the angel Micheal have been sent with the sword to guide your
household and no demon how great shall be able to harm you for your name have been written in the book of life and therein shall it reside
until the end of time...All this is the promise of the son of man unto you and it shall come to pass only if thou marry your wife in a church
build upon the mount by the Jewish temple of all nation in Nigeria.
But if you refuse,
It shall come to pass that you house shall be shatters beyond repair and the seven fiery demons from the bottomless pit shall be sent forth by
the damned lord of darkness and the queen of the coast and her cohorts shall attack you from within and your spiritual shield would be shattered
and then you would understand the greatness of his might and you will speak forth like Nebuchadnezzar confirming the folly of your ways..
Hear me today and your name shall forever be in the book of life and refuse and you will be torn apart by vultures and forever you will be damned.[/b]

Please marry her and God will bless you. God will make a way for you to be able to ease up any pains that you will encounter. God will surprise you with children and a happy home. You will rejoice in your marriage in jesus name. Amen.

When she was beautiful, you loved her. Now she is lame, you wanna run? I want you to understand that it could be u that accident happened to. Mtcheeew!

@OP,what if the doctors calls tomorrow to announce she would walk in 2 month after a therapy? Or she miraclously begins to walk as we speak? Its obvious you don't really love her and from your attitude,i can infer you don't knw what marriage is all about,yet u proposed.So boy,grow up before speaking of marriage.

tpacalipse: When she was beautiful, you loved her. Now she is lame, you wanna run? I want you to understand that it could be u that accident happened to. Mtcheeew!

[color=soyouquotedme]God bless you, I was about to raise the bolded sentence.

@Op, how would you have felt if she left you.

Besides what if she had the accident after you got married, would you have divorced her. [/color]

It is very easy to tell the op to go ahead and marry the crippled lady. But we should all learn to have empathy whenever we want to usher out advice.

Morally, it will very wrong for the op to leave her cos he was on the verge of tying the knot with her before the unforseen accident crippled her.

However, it will be a bad idea to go ahead and marry her out of pity. As the man will later start feeling disgusted at the sight of her. He would threat her like thrash that she would even contemplate suicide. So it is better she gets heartbroken now, than be in a terrible and loveless marriage.

BTW, what make us think she would have agreed to marry him if he was in such condition?

OP, please follow your heart, if you feel marrying her is what you think is right, so be it. I wish you best of luck in whatever decision you will finally make.

boron10: It is very easy to tell the op to go ahead and marry the crippled lady. But we should all learn to have empathy whenever we want to usher out advice.

Morally, it will very wrong for the op to leave her cos he was on the verge of tying the knot with her before the unforseen accident crippled her.

However, it will be a bad idea to go ahead and marry her out of pity. As the man will later start feeling disgusted at the sight of her. He would threat her like thrash that she would even contemplate suicide. So it is better she gets heartbroken now, than be in a terrible and loveless marriage.

BTW, what make us think she would have agreed to marry him if he was in such condition?

OP, please follow your heart, if you feel marrying her is what you think is right, so be it. I wish you best of luck in whatever decision you will finally make.

#GBAM
Very brilliant post

Don't marry her out of pity. You will begin to resent the decision.

boron10: It is very easy to tell the op to go ahead and marry the crippled lady. But we should all learn to have empathy whenever we want to usher out advice.

Morally, it will very wrong for the op to leave her cos he was on the verge of tying the knot with her before the unforseen accident crippled her.

However, it will be a bad idea to go ahead and marry her out of pity. As the man will later start feeling disgusted at the sight of her. He would threat her like thrash that she would even contemplate suicide. So it is better she gets heartbroken now, than be in a terrible and loveless marriage.

BTW, what make us think she would have agreed to marry him if he was in such condition?

OP, please follow your heart, if you feel marrying her is what you think is right, so be it. I wish you best of luck in whatever decision you will finally make.

So marriage is now all about maintaining or retaining as much as possible your look and if by accident something bad happened and u lose a part of your body, then gbam, no more marriage. If u loved someone in d first place, I don't think being lame now will make you resent her and also to the level of calling off the marriage. Mtcheeeew!

Let us call a spade a spade. There was not an atom of love for her before from him, it was all about the physical, hence, the reason for the present resentment.

tpacalipse: So marriage is now all about maintaining or retaining as much as possible your look and if by accident something bad happened and u lose a part of your body, then gbam, no more marriage. If u loved someone in d first place, I don't think being lame now will make you resent her and also to the level of calling off the marriage. Mtcheeeew!

Yes, in Nollywood movie it is highly feasible for a man to fall in love with a disabled lady. But in reality, I don't think so.

One thing is to come here and write what you think is right, another thing is to act it. Don't forget that he's yet to get married to her.

If they were already married before the accident, then it would be a very nasty decision to dump her.

Talking about calling a spade a spade, even if he loves her, he also deserves to be in a happy marriage. Search your mind very well and come back to tell me you will not contemplate ending the relationship if you were in op's shoe.

SniperInADiaper: Don't marry her out of pity. You will begin to resent the decision.

bad advice from a badt sniper

Truckpusher: bad advice from a badt sniper

I only snipe humans

@ OP,does she still want marriage?
Do you think she will reason along with you when you leave her?
Are you ready to carry this cross for life?
Marry her cos you love her nt cos of pity and no matter your decision always check on her!

If you can't handle her condition and cannot(or will not) be supportive, then don't marry her.
It's the most insensitive thing to do but it sure beats the alternative: you living in hell n her living with a man who married her out of pity n can't see beyond her disability.

If i were the lady and knew your thoughts, i would not want you to marry me.

I bet if you asked her now she would say no, as she likely can feel your pity and not love.

^^^^^And you dug this up because