As a female, how do you feel when your younger sister got married before you...its really painful but what will you do ?

Its a thing of the mind.

but very touching

Ndi igbo si onye ji ego kwaa nna na oburo diokpara gbulu nna!
Y would i feel different? Its normal na, its not abnormal. Afterall sometimes younger sisters gain admission, get phone, etc first so y should their marrying first be issue? If it happens but god forbid o lol, i'll feel somehow sha but i'll get over it and moreover she has a different destiny from mine...na wa o, live and let live joor...onye na way ya tins lol

yea, the destiny is different but the lady in question does not even have a boyfriend not to talk of marriage.but she is depressed

This is not strange. What is strange is the African society which has made it stereo-typical that an older sibling should get married before the younger. The older sibling is then put under so much pressure and scrutiny. This is the period to show her love. I mean more love and respect than ever before. Remember that at this time perceived hurt could be seen as gloating and her displeasure would be heightened if she perceives that you are using your new status to lord yourself over her. We were not all born the same day and we all have our paths carved out for us. For every man, there is a season...

coldgate: This is not strange. What is strange is the African society which has made it stereo-typical that an older sibling should get married before the younger. The older sibling is then put under so much pressure and scrutiny. This is the period to show her love. I mean more love and respect than ever before. Remember that at this time perceived hurt could be seen as gloating and her displeasure would be heightened if she perceives that you are using your new status to lord yourself over her. We were not all born the same day and we all have our paths carved out for us. For every man, there is a season...

i believe this...thanks

zangiff: yea, the destiny is different but the lady in question does not even have a boyfriend not to talk of marriage.but she is depressed

she should relax, she'll get married afterall

her time will come

This is one of d wrong reasons for getting married,,,,,,"ehnnnnn, all my younger ones are married, i must get married this year by fire, by force, therefore, if any guy should come my way, i wont even hesitate before marrying him"

if one is not careful, and end up caging him/herself because of frusration, desperation and pressure from pple, it is that person that will suffer for it, it is better to wait for one's time than rushing into marriage without necessary consideratin, consultation and preparation. Destiny differs, d bible says, even, if d vision tarries, it shall surely come, and also that there is time for everything.....time to learn, may be God is preparing you to learn. So, relax, everybody's time will definately come, dont be bitter, dont be frustrated and dont be too hasty or desperate. As for those who are already married, rejoice with them, learn from them and you stand a chance of even knowing more than them before getting married, which is always an added advantage.
I, as a person got married at d age of 30, and thank God, i never regretted getting married at that age, i was able to learn more from my married friends and siblings, which is one of d things im applying and enjoying in my marriage.

Above all, you deserve to be happy, life is more important than marriage, i mean, its better to remain single than go into marriage for wrong reasons and experience hell in d marriage. If you ever see who is in wrong marriage, ask d person, he/she will tell you that, it is better to remain single than get entangled in a bad/sour marriage.
May God help us all.

thanks for the word...very encouraging

Nothing, Life is not a 100 meters dash, it is a marathon, sometimes you are ahead sometimes you are behind what is most important is you run your own race and stop looking at others to see if they have passed you or are behind you, if you do that you will surely come last.
Marriage happens only when you have found someone worth it who can make you happy and not because others older or younger are married.
Stop competing with anyone, live well, serve God, serve the poor and live the life God has planned for you stop looking side ways and pitying your self.
There will always be others better than you and others you will be better than. Live with it, pity party does no good.
Celebrate with your younger ones and facce your own life.
Marriage is not a competition

zangiff: As a female, how do you feel when your younger sister got married before you...its really painful but what will you do ?

Though destiny differs really but most ladies of now adays they believe they are still young when MR RIGHT comes at 23-28 even when they have gotten what they 'needed' (graduated, successful business, etc) they still believe that there's still time for them to enjoy life which is not true but when they believe they are 'ready' (may be seeing others getting married) they will now go and fall victim.
I'm not a female anyway, but the truth is;
you need to be careful, don't be desperate about it and when you get someone, study him and be honest don't double date because it ruines.
Have this in mind that, there is no marriage without issue either small or big, there must be an issue. It all depend on how you handle it.
I am married before my elder brother and he is happy about it and now he's getting married next month of which am his best man.

TAKE YOUR TIME LADY AND BE PRAYERFUL, GOD'S TIME IS THE BEST

thanks

I LIKE THIS COMMENT HERE...THANKS

at times very frustrating but she gat move on..she will surely get hers

it happens many times

keep it coming..i appreciate ur comment

What's the big deal?
BTW,great post@ Greatgod. I also got hooked at 30. Years after graduation. Mine was I had to wait till hubby travelled to school and back. I never felt left out,instead I used the time to sharpen my baking and catering skills.
Everyone has their appointed time. There's no race when it comes to marriage. The important thing is to end up with YOUR own partner.
The lady should occupy herself and time with useful things,her man will soon come and sweep her off her feet (if there's anything like that).

If she likes. . . she can h-enter HEAVEN OR HELL before me.
Not my gaddem business!
I LIVE IN MY OWN WORLD. . . no competition with ANYONE. . .in life or in death!

true talk

thanks for the comment...learnt so much