Wolison: ....

SenatorJames: Me?

plainmirror: .

fflamingo: may God grant you sense.

Adaeze003: I've heard allot about love and I'm sure you all have too. I've been thinking about all I've heard and I came up with a few questions.

1. Does love exist?

2. Is there anything like 'The One'?

3. Can one really love someone enough to live with the person for ever/is love enough for marriage?
It's a fact that most of our parents and grand parents didn't really 'fall in love' before they got married but they stayed married for long and some till death. But in this generation where people 'fall in love' before getting married divorce is in every corner, why?

4. Can love really die?
How can one say he/she loves someone one day and hate her/him the next day? What kills love?

Adaeze003:
I really doubt this. I think 'attraction' works like magic and not love. Therefore, the attraction fades like magic. Making sense?

acidosisTM:
the type of love that exist between xynerise & skydeep

Love exists.

The problem we have surrounding the existence of love is that it is sometimes misunderstood to be lust or infatuation. Love, lust and infatuation are very very strong emotions, but love is stronger and supercedes the other two. In love, it goes above the physical and the dreamy imaginations and then goes into loving and accepting the flaws and mistakes of the other. Love is not jealous, is not selfish, love doesn't bring tears to the eyes of your significant other, except tears of joy. Love does not exploit the feelings nor manipulate the emotions of the other. Love puts the interest of the other person first and love will never force actions on your significant other.

A surface examination of love will have you thinking otherwise and mistaking it for lust, but when you sit down quietly and think about what will make a woman stick to a poor crippled man who lost his limbs after they got married, you may want to have a re-evaluation.

Adaeze003: I've heard allot about love and I'm sure you all have too. I've been thinking about all I've heard and I came up with a few questions.

1. Does love exist?
I have come across many posts on nl where people said 'love does not exist' and this is shocking to me because I don't believe that people just bump into each other,get married and live happily. Maybe those who believe it doesn't exist can put me through.

2. Is there anything like 'The One'?
Is there someone out there specifically made for each and every one of us? This is a confusing concept because some men become priests and some women rev sisters, a few others decide that they'll remain single because they want to 'enjoy' life. What happens to their significant other?

3. Can one really love someone enough to live with the person for ever/is love enough for marriage?
It's a fact that most of our parents and grand parents didn't really 'fall in love' before they got married but they stayed married for long and some till death. But in this generation where people 'fall in love' before getting married divorce is in every corner, why?

4. Can love really die?
How can one say he/she loves someone one day and hate her/him the next day? What kills love?

All these questions can be summed up in one, how does love work?

Looking forward to informative posts.
Just wanna know what you think.
Yes YOU.

[b]

1. Love exists.

2. No, there's no 'The One'. I always thought there's a 'The One' but that's definitely untrue. Staying - and living - in love with someone is basically a decision, one of a life-time or half- life-time as the case may be, if you believe in divorce.

In actuality, I don't think there's a 'The Compatible'. Almost everyone is compatible and it boils down to a decision shaped by,
"Can I really live with this?"

"Can I live with this guy who undresses at the door immediately he unlocks it?"

"Can I live with this lady that watches Telemundo like her life depends on it?"

"If she has smaller b.re.asts tomorrow or if they slack, can I stick with her?"

"If his income earning power depreciates for 2 years, can I stick with him through the tough times?"

"If we get married, can I see her as a companion not like a servant?"

"If there's no money for rice on a Sunday, would I happily soak garri with him?"

"Can I help her achieve her dreams?"

"Can I help her grow physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, sexually (can I help him help me satisfy me in bed), etc. and can we grow together in a form of synergy?"

Conclusively,
"Does he/she make me happy - or not?"

3. Yes, one can. Love is somewhat enough.

4. Love - true love - can't die even if you bomb it.

How does love work? I don't know.

Three cheers.[/b]

acidosisTM:

we have two types of LOVE...
1. symbiosis-type of love
2. agape love

The agape type of love is the type God has for his children.. the type he asked us to show our neigbour 's daughter.

[size=15] The symbiosis type is that kind of LOVE that leads to either a broken relationship or a broken home, either way, something must break.. Its the type where you love someone for what you can get (recharge card, s. €x, money, cars, marriage, children, ring, etc) [/size]



Yes there is something like "The One", but bear this in mind - anyone can be "The One", even a mad man/woman can be the ONE.. and you can have as many as possible "The One" anytime you loose the present "The One".



Our grand parents never had access to the social networking sites like Nairaland, facebook, twitter etc and Education these are the reasons for break - ups. A typical 9ja girl has atleast 3 boyfriends on each social networking site plus 2 boyfriends each in different offices around her and one boyfriend each in her bank locations.. one in her church, one on campus...one in different faculties

now, when shes ready to get married, it becomes very difficult to settle down with ONE..
Its like eating turkey and all of a sudden you are asked to start eating N30 stock fish..



LOVE knows no HATRED.. People that claims to love you would hate you when they stop getting that ONE thing that made them love you.. It means they only love a part of you [money, looks, beauty, character, the way you make her smile, your ability to crack jokes, humility, etc]

tuagbo: "The concept of "love" is an impossible dream for men but an extremely effective weapon for women"-"Tuagbo" To a woman,"love" means power.To a man,enslavement."Love" provides a woman with an excuse for financial exploitation.Man,with an emotionally charged excuse.For the sake of "love,"woman will do things that are of advantage only to herself while man does things that will harm him.