Oko_AGB: we have dated for over two years. now we want to move to the next level and her family are adamant she must marry an Igbo man because she is the first daughter. Am so confused.

Pls how do we get around this hurdle? she is from Anambra and i am from Benue

Oko_AGB: we have dated for over two years. now we want to move to the next level and her family are adamant she must marry an Igbo man because she is the first daughter. Am so confused.

Pls how do we get around this hurdle? she is from Anambra and i am from Benue

Abagworo:

It is very likely an Igbo family outside the East. I have noticed a kind of secluding tendency among diasporan Igbos and it is rather a good thing. "Ada ejila ala na mba".

NRI PRIEST: In a core Igbo family setting the first girl is viewed as the pride of her family and she is suppose to set a good example for others,hence the emphasis on marrying from your own people.

Blyss: That's not true. My wife is her parents first daughter, and they were more than happy to marry her off to me.

SAFO:

Yes and we see how that turned out

Oko_AGB:




you mean marrying from another tribe is a bad example?

@ aturugo grow up kid

PAGAN 9JA:


ofcourse it is a bad thing! we dont want the tribe to go extinct or become a half-bred akata tribe!

Eze Promoe: It's a big lie! Maybe since you mentioned Benue, they concluded that you're Hausa. The common Igboman (that hasn't travelled out) thinks that anything coming from the north is Hausa. But its not their fault, when their relatives' corpse are being brought back home from the North on daily basis. They feel that their daughter is likely to face the same fate. If it's a man from South South, they will accept him (if him get money o)

NRI PRIEST: In a core Igbo family setting the first girl is viewed as the pride of her family and she is suppose to set a good example for others,hence the emphasis on marrying from your own people. Nevertheless,I have seen some first girls who married from other tribes. Note; the first girls are the real "Ada" na eli ukwu anu and they control a lot of respect in the family.

odumchi:

I wouldn't necessarily say that Igbo people think of Benue people as Hausa. Come to think of it, there isn't much difference between an average Nsuka man and an average southern Benue Idoma man. In fact, many of the communities in southern Benue along the Benue-Enugu border are Igbo-speaking, and vise-versa. If the South's boundaries were redrawn, I think it should include Benue.

odumchi:

I wouldn't necessarily say that Igbo people think of Benue people as Hausa. Come to think of it, there isn't much difference between an average Nsuka man and an average southern Benue Idoma man. In fact, many of the communities in southern Benue along the Benue-Enugu border are Igbo-speaking, and vise-versa. If the South's boundaries were redrawn, I think it should include Benue.



Kpom kwem.

In an Igbo household, the oldest daughter has her fair share of responsibility. She and the okwara (first son) are expected to become the leaders of their household.

Oko_AGB:

the tribe is not complaining

Oko_AGB: we have dated for over two years. now we want to move to the next level and her family are adamant she must marry an Igbo man because she is the first daughter. Am so confused.

Pls how do we get around this hurdle? she is from Anambra and i am from Benue

rhemal:


well,that is a big lie.I am the Ada of my family married to Yoruba.Almost 5 years of marriage with 3 kids and my husband is considered the best in-law in the family.I am not bragging.

odumchi:

I wouldn't necessarily say that Igbo people think of Benue people as Hausa. Come to think of it, there isn't much difference between an average Nsuka man and an average southern Benue Idoma man. In fact, many of the communities in southern Benue along the Benue-Enugu border are Igbo-speaking, and vise-versa. If the South's boundaries were redrawn, I think it should include Benue.

Afam4eva:
You're right. But i think the keyword here is "Average Igbo".

Malawian: when God was creating languages and tribes, was he foolish? everybody should marry from his tribe jare. it is even an old jewish custom to marry from your tribe only. i am just hearing about this "first daughter must marry igbo" here for the first time sha.

Oko_AGB:

Whatever rocks ur ego. make una carry-on