After a few decades of marriage, you might
think you know someone, but that's not
what happened to one man who
discovered that his wife of 19 years was
actually born a boy. And she'd been hiding
it from him for their entire relationship.
When the man, named Jan, and his wife
Monica moved to Belgium from Indonesia,
where the she was from, immigration
authorities thought something was fishy
with her paperwork but eventually gave in.
Turns out, they were right. Something was
wrong. Something was very wrong. And the
truth didn't surface for nearly two decades.
Jan told a newspaper that the couple had
decided not to have children since he had
two from a previous relationship, but
Monica had pretended to menstruate for
years. " Even during sex, I never noticed
anything," he said. WHAT? Gah. What
Poor Jan, who is now 64, says his life feels
torn apart. And it's understandable. Hiding
the truth about your gender and genetics
from the person you've promised to spend
you life with is a serious betrayal. Even
beyond genetics, it was part of who Monica
was, an important part.
Things were normal until Monica started
clubbing and wearing skimpy clothes. Then,
rumors surfaced that she wasn't a woman
at all -- but rather a " sex-changed man."
Imagine this scene that Jan says went down
with Monica.
I pushed her against the wall and
said: 'Now I know the truth. Are you
a man?' She then announced that
she was born as a boy and that she
had been operated on. She was now
a woman, and so she did not need
to tell me about her past as a man.
My world collapsed. That evening
came to blows. The police came.
The pain of a betrayal like that would be
hard to bear. Jan is trying to get his
marriage annulled, but after 19 years, it's
not like he can just pretend it all never
happened. Both he and immigration
authorities were scammed by this woman
who pretended to be someone she wasn't.
I have respect for anyone who chooses to
go through with sex-reassignment surgery.
It's your right as a person to live the life you
want. But... But I really believe that's
information your partner deserves to know.
Hiding it is cruel and usual.
Do you think Monica should have told her
husband she had been born a boy?


Source : thestir.cafemom.com/in_the_news/147156/man_discovers_wife_of_19?utm_medium=sem2&utm_source=disqus&utm_campaign=disqus&utm_content=disqus_jan

Omg! Sounds pathetic, she made the man a fool for years. This is absurd.

Smartie gurl: Omg! Sounds pathetic, she made the man a fool for years. This is absurd.

He not she...

nbright: He not she...

LOLZ! Heshe.