Pinky lives in Nigeria.

it sooooooo... does happen in nigeria!!

And how would you know?

Because nigerian girls in Nigeria go thru the same thang. At least i remeber that the last time I was in Nigeria...i was walking and a guy kept saying: O baby, how far now? Wait make we talk now, she me lon she shakara fun abi?

I was totaly irritated.

i'm talking about guys that just do it casually for no reason


i've seen?

and there's this guy in particular that always does it in my former church. i think those guys do it because they think it's cool or something especially when they're walking

I think they do it because it works sometimes!

Majority of times it doesn't work. So why won't they stop?

what works? you meant what H-Angel said?

haven't you seen any guy do it at all esp. on the streets? they hold that place when they walk it's stupid and funny at the same time

You are describing so many things but the truth is that each of them is different. From a girls point of view they are all equally "annoying", but from the male' point of view they are all different actions for differing aims.

Catcalling on the streets is just a means of having fun, you know. But some of the other things you've described sometimes work to impress ladies to go out with a guy. They really shouldn't be classified together.

pintos:

Please girls don't blame the Men,
it is in men's nature, jumping into getting to know a woman with both hands and feet
Be nice to us and say no politely if you don't feel like it,
try not to be bitchy
because experience has shown women saying No when they mean Yes,
this has greatly confused men.
We like to start things fast and furious,
that is what being manly is all about,
but sad enough we don't last long with same tempo as you do.
- most men are under the illusion that perseverance wins the race,
so naturally they refuse to take No for an answer....
The man you treated badly today could be your husband tomorrow..

Almost all men have done it at one point or the other including my humbleself plus your Daddy.....
I beg take it easyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy jo
Na me send you to be a fine girl?

pintos:


Almost all men have done it at one point or the other including my humbleself plus your Daddy.....
I beg take it easyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy jo
Na me send you to be a fine girl?

Hmmph...okay oo.

Gurl,i'll say ignore them but to think of it i think its hurting other people's feelings...
they give you their number, gurl just play along ..i call them if u must know and they email u back yada yada yada, so when they start asking you shytty questios, either just act like you dont understand or just give them an answer they dont wanna hear
its men u know

those guys u described are having a complexity problem, they are just forming...

lol..dont get u

Sayin u r a lezzy is a turn-on to most guyz.
When a guy u don't like start stalking u (never say die), my word (4 d ladies) is Ignore. He'll back off after a while. Trust me.
Truth is, u aint angry they appreciate u (who wont appreciate an hot-angel like lizzy ). U just not down with the stalking. The fault is with u ladies. Communication is communication whether bad or good. So long as u respond, most men get the illusion that they've got a chance and they'll keep stalking.

If U don't want him. Never respond. (igi lo n soro)

Remember, if u r good lookin..u'll always be approached. Guyz are stalked as well.

Gettin attracted to one another (guy-to-gal-guy) is a natural thing, what then is important is how the attraction thing is accepted when passed. Some men have no self control so dey do whatever comes to their mind, while some gals have no manners whatsoever. They mistake every calls for "TOASING" and before you say JACK you hear i'm not interested. ha ha

Tke it easy sweetheart, the pendulium swings both ways....

Hmmph, yes it does.

the best thing to do is ignore them. it is common with Nigerians and Jamaicans.
i look at them when they say their trash and keep walking away. its a dump, rude and nasty way to get a gurl (guys like that dont have style and action). i wld never fall for something like that.

The most annoying thing is when u r waiting for a bus then one stupid dude says hi, i love u. What is ur name, i wld like to know u better. how can u love me when u dont know me or hardly know me. I classify guys like that as First Class Freaks from the core..

I am a big time Snop when i wanna be but am also nice and friendly.

hot angel.dont think u're right.sometimes ur wrtongs could b right.all u need is to determine what u want.never wanted to write but just felt encouraged

That's more like it. Stalking instead of taking time to proove you really like her. Don't be talking abt love in just two weeks. That's like Whack! And it just makes the girl think, you nuttin but a jobless stalker.

NIGERIAN GUYS like most women put/call them are like puppies you have at home that shit allover the house but still you love them so much that you can't get rid of them! I wonder how your future husband or boyfriend will approach you? For the girls that believe guys are stalking them or whatever you call it! believe me you're being stalk by the wrong guys! when you see/meet a guy you like, you won't even recmember the word STALK not to talk of ING! you will be the one stalking him if shakara go gree you! even when you no call am, everytime your phone rings, you'll pray and wish it was him calling! so pls, flip the page and let talk about something else no be today we see women/girls with their shakara!
What will you call it when you like the guy and pretend you really don't so that he'll keep calling and trying? I guess it'll be KINGSTALK! make I find something interesting read jareee! stalk my yassss!

hey hot angel,are you really hot,welll first am new here,and you dont need to be so harsh on that guy,you can always give it a shot,and being miles away doesnt matter,if you worok something out,then you qill see that distance is not a threat, well i aint HITCH<the love doc.>

hey pintos,nice write up,am impressed,thats wat is called THE GOSPEL TRUTH,

girl i've been there it's so annoying!
guys why d'u tell a girl u luv her when u don't even now her and hvn't even met her it's soooooooooo sick!

When a guy tells you he loves you does not mean that he has seen you or he must see you, maybe from the discusion you made with him, he might say I love you, I don't see the reason girls go angry about guys action towards them, some guy believe that they need to press continues to get what they want, what about the ladies that later come back for that kind of calls, some ladies wants to know how serious the guy is before responding, when a guy trys to make an approach to you some girls feel like they are now queen, some who has not been called before, it might be their first time, you will see them walking like, they never go to toilet, men will start calling them sorts of name,

u don't understand, i'm tlkin of some1 meeting u 4 d 1st time n tellin u they luv u
luv does not work like dat

hey girls,

about all the "privates-grabbing" guys flocking all around you, and which pisses you off, you are very wrong in making such generalizations on the totality of Nigerian guys whether at home/abroad.

Nigerian men are decent minded people. Usually, its the way you present yourself that they'll react to you.

Yes, admitted, there are many miscreants, guys who just want to have fun and run, but its true for girls also. They might not grab their own privates, but they do something else just to crave for a guys attention.

If in your day to day life, for example, all/majority the guys that see you immediately grab their privates, then you better go look into the mirror and check the way you are dressed up. If you are exposing what should not be exposed, then why the hell shouldn't they grab their privates. What else should they grab in the first place. If they don't grab it, then it might just,  now, thats not funny, its the reality.

I was in a bus one day and a girl came in and OMG, twas just too much. It would have been better if she was completely nude. I was quite happy when one of the ladies in the bus told her to get down, go home and change her clothes. The girl blurted back, insulting the elderly lady and then the bus conductor took up the challenge, insulted this half-naked girl, and oh, twas too much, she had to get down, and leave in anger.

Yes, a girl can still dress gorgously and be decent, and would still command respect wherever she goes, but if "privates-grabbing" is the respect you receive, you better go change, especially on the streets.

And mind you, someone who has a good education, whether still a student or in the professional line already, wont grab his privates upon seeing a girl, even if shes nude, its all a matter of how much is upstairs, which is also an indication to you of the type of people you are getting attention from, as a girl. If youre getting attention from the wrong guys, then you better see what the problem is,
cheers!!

I agree totally with Kimba. I can not imagine any of my friends treating a lady the way most of the men implied by the post do.There are loads and loads of decent Nigerian men that I know of who will not do that.

Some men have issues, I agree but do not generalize this as a male attribute.I have nevr grabbed my crotch at lady not matter how beautiful she is.I will never stalk a woman.NEVER!! And I speak for so many decent guys out there who chersih the woman God gives them!

hecky yea so freaking tired of those shit sometimes they just dont know when to bakk up that is when they turn all irritating ans shit.xpecially some naija boiz sending me e.mail and their number and adding im me telling me all sorts of rubbish saying i love you and stuff i look at them like wat d heck do you know bout love.dat shyt be getting on my nerves sometimez

ohh this topic. I remember those good ol days.

Well i kept telling few i was a lesbian, and just ignore some, while u talk to some.

Ohh and now i kinda have more knowledge on things like this. We as girls mostly count little things that a guy is doing to please us to be annoying (sometimes).

I mean a poem isn't that bad an idea to send to a girl, a good poem that is. And actually sometimes, we mis-intereprete little things that mean "lets be friend" and take it to be "Let's fxck".

Okay kimba is also right when he said a guy would treat a girl the way the girl presents herself to be. Now that's word right thurr.