Case 1.
Your husband’s younger brother who is seven years younger than you comes to live with you. The following morning you see him in the sitting room and knowing you are older than him you expect him to say, “Good morning.” Instead you receive the shock of your life when he asks you if you can’t greet. That don’t you realize that you are married to his brother and that gives him a higher status in the family. You report the incident to your husband expecting him to address this incident immediately. Instead he tells you that his brother is right. You have to be the one that should greet first. That is how it is done in their culture. Now you know that you are married.

Case 2.
Six months after getting married your husband tells you that you should plan to go and spend a week or two with his mother so as to help her with the domestic chores, that all his elder brothers’ wives came back home after getting married to help their mom. It is what their family tradition demands and he cannot be different. All your effort to make him realize that times have changed falls on deaf ears. He cannot afford to be seen in a bad light if his wife does not do what all other wives in the family have done. You must go alone to spend two weeks with his mother. Now you know that you are married.

Are you scared yet? No you are not. Let’s get naked.

Case 3.
It’s your wedding night. You and your husband courted for two years before you got married and not once did he make any sexual advances towards you. He was the perfect gentleman or so you thought. Tonight you are ready to give him your all. You count yourself blessed to have found such a wonderful man. The romance was great. He knew all the right places to touch you. Then you realize the pre-intimacy is getting too long. He is still not inside you yet. You ask him to get in and he tells you he can’t get it up. He gets on his knees and begs you to understand. He loves you so much but he is impotent. He cannot even get an erection. Now you know that you are married.

Case 4.
You are just about to resume work after the three weeks leave you took for your wedding and honeymoon. You are fully dressed up for work when your loving husband started making advances for sex. You both have a quickie before you finally leave for the office. You shrug it off that it’s probably a one-off thing. Then it happens the next day, and the next day, and the next day. Then it finally dawns on you that your loving husband is turned on by your corporate look. You will have to find a way to live with this for years to come. Now you know that you are married.

Case 5.
You’ve been married for two years and everything has been fine so far. Your loving husband returns from an evening out with the boys. And that night he makes advances for sex. At least that is what you think he wants, only this time he asks you to give him a Mouth Gig. Something he has never asked for in the past two years you’ve been married. He is your husband so you give him a Mouth Gig. Then he asks you to bend over, he wants anal sex. It finally dawns on you that some weird stuff was discussed in his time out with the boys and he wants to practice them with you. Now you know that you are married.

Are you scared yet? No you are not. Let’s get naked.

Case 6.
You’ve been married for a few months when you discover that your loving husband frequents a brothel. You confront him and he tells you he is sorry but he cannot stop the habit. You ask him why? And he says he cannot sleep with just one woman in bed. He only enjoys sex when there are two ladies in bed with him. If you want him to stop going to the brothel then you have to let him bring another woman home with him on the nights he wants to have sex. That is the only way he will be satisfied. Now you know that you are married.

Case 7.
You’ve been married for some years. Your daughter will soon be two years old. You get a call at the office from the preschool that you have a situation. Your soon to be two years old daughter has been violated. While they were trying to change her diapers that morning, they noticed semen and blood around her private part. The police is alerted. Further investigation revealed it was your loving husband that violated your daughter, his own daughter. When asked why he did it he says it was because your vagina is not tight enough for him anymore. Now you know that you are married.

Now you are really, really, scared.

I wish I could tell you that none of these scenarios will be your portion in Jesus’ name, so you can scream, “Amen!” But I can’t do that. The seven cases you just read were not made up. They are real cases experienced by real people. In fact, every one of those cases happened in Lagos. And they are happening everywhere around the globe. What is the guarantee that that tall, dark, and handsome guy you are courting will not be one of them?

The time for dating and courting is not just time for KFC and Silverbird Cinemas. It is also time to study yourselves and detect behavioural patterns that will be indicators of “Danger Ahead.” But how do you know what to look for? That is the big question.

If all you know about relationship and courtship are the five sentence paragraphs people place on their facebook walls, then you have serious issues. Ninety-eight percent of those people don’t have a clue what they are writing about. Getting married is much more than saying “I do.”

The Real Woman Foundation will be organizing a Family School where they will be teaching on How to Build a Successful Home. Several issues including but not limited to the following will be discussed in the school:
1. Gender differences
2. Sex in marriage
3. Sexual perversions
4. Managing family finance
5. Conflict in marriage
6. Social vices
7. Managing in-laws

If you reside in Lagos, whether you are single or married, male or female, that is where you should be from Monday, 18th of March through Friday, 22nd of March, 2013. The fee is just N5,000 for the five days. Remember, if you are still trying to get ready when you should be ready, then you are already late. Marriage is not supposed to be a painful surprise. It should be a beautiful experience.

I have been through this school. In fact, I have done both the basic and advanced modules of the school and it has changed my entire perspective on marriage. There are lots of things that happen in marriage that most singles have no idea about. This is an opportunity to take your eyes off KFC and Silverbird Cinemas and prepare for the challenges that will come.

For more information contact:

The Real Woman Foundation,
Life Skills Training Center,
6, Jubilee Road, Magodo,
Off CMD Road,
Close to NEPA Bus Stop,
Magodo, Shangisha, Lagos.
Tel: 0810-859-2659


The one whom Jesus loves,
Mute Efe,
Twitter: @mute_efe
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+234-803-874-9796 (SMS Only)

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