Hi Landers,

Pls how can I know when a man is really serious about settling down? It is very difficult 4me to believe men now; cause I've been cheated and deceived many times and I dont want disappointment again. This is really affecting my emotions to be harsh on men am meeting now. Pls mature response will be highly appreciated.

Thank you.

danity:

Girl - you will never know when a man really wants to settle down unless he starts mentioning his future with you.
If a man doesn't see himself having children with you, he's not ready to settle down with you.
If you mention marriage and he avoids it, he's not ready to settle down.

Then again - Guys will tell you whatever you want to hear just to get in your pants. You just have to trust that the right man is somewhere waiting to settle down with you. I'll never think a man is serious about settling down until he proposes, meets my parents, and opens up to me completely without any form of inhibition.

You're very right.

@ danity
very true

Girl - you will never know when a man really wants to settle down unless he starts mentioning his future with you.

supported

Thank you danity, efuah, onyeka.

But why are the men not responding?

kemisuga:

Please how can I know when a man is really serious about settling down?

1 when he is 27 yrs and above.
2 when he has a job, good one preferably.
3 when his close friends are getting married or married.
4 when he talks about marriage with her most of the time
5 when he can cater for her needs financially and emotionally.

the list is inexhaustible

gurl, ur profile age says 19yrs, n me thinks thats a lil too early 2 be looking 4 a serious man??



or landers, what do u think/

@ Poster

Patience is a virtue,

U need to be patient and I think when the right time comes u just know.

Best Wishes.

Thank you toyosi.

Earthrealm the age you saw on my profile isnt mine. I am very ripe to have a serious man.

kemisuga:

I am very ripe to have a serious man.

Do you have a serious man NOW in your life? If not, may I apply? I am very very ripe and serious minded

@POSTER

Have you checked youself?

Your previous relationships; what are the causes of the break ups?

You could be your problem.

God help u!!!

Dr Ferlie:

Do you have a serious man NOW in your life? If not, may I apply? I am very very ripe and serious minded

ehem ehem

@ hammers, I dont have any problem with myself. Only that I dont know when a man is serious or to deceive.

A serious man is easy to spot at the same time difficult to spot if care is not taken ! u have to calm down and simmer so that, u can get ur own man. for the fact that, u have been cheated so many times doesnt mean u shud be mean to guys ! Just take things cool, reciprocate good gestures, be careful and calculative, free ur mind by being ur real self and i believe things will fall in place for u. U'll also need to guide and guard against ur heart but ofcourse, its not about being mean or in - accessible to guys.

I wish u the very best of luck.
Cheers

Postpone the time when you normally open your legs. Then the real man will reveal.



A man may be serious but your personalities may not match. You will be able to find that out after about 5 to 6 months if sex does not take center stage and blur your vision.

faketan:

Postpone the time when you normally open your legs. Then the real man will reveal.



A man may be serious but your personalities may not match. You will be able to find that out after about 5 to 6 months if sex does not take center stage and blur your vision.

Brilliant !
U couldnt have said it better

@poster

Dont look too desperate
Be attracted to only the serious looking ones
Dont put toomuch into a fresh relationship
Your emotions must never overcome your reasoning
pray hard
hope for the best
expect the worst and you will never be disapointed.
life itself is not perfect.

Gool luck

Thank you Micklplus and hammers