ayobase: Two 'wrongs' can never make a -'right', so also two 'rights' can 'never' make a wrong.

As far as this case is concerned, the man is doing the 'wrong' thing (he considered it the 'right' thing though), and the woman trying to do the 'right' thing (which is gonna be termed 'wrong' by the husband) is gonna bring HEAVY clash in the home.

Two 'wrongs' can never make a 'right'

What you need do is making sure you accept your husband's RULES and REGULATIONS!

Make sure you are always there for him, get his food prepared at the right time, set out time to attend to his laundry, don't argue with him, watch his favourite programmes with him as often as you can, send him msgs at reasonable intervals (like asking him what he is gonna like for dinner, how much you love him, and the likes), and above all, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM AND YOUR MARRIAGE!

The fact is this, God respects the wives more than the husbands in any marriage...the success of a marriage is determined more on the wife, likewise its failure!

About the joint a/c issue. Try to cooperate to an extent (maybe a certain percentage of salary every month). I wouldn't advice you to give in all. Be wise in this regard!

U wanna catch the monkey, then you are gonna need to be like a monkey.

Man is known with his ego, trying to break it is gonna cause more harm....allow him....let him have all the scenes to himself....nobody is gonna tell him before he starts asking questions from his wife about some certain things when the chips ae down.....and the you wife should always be ready to give SOUND and SPECIFIC ANSWERS....don't talk much!

Above all things, the husband is the head of the house, yield to his COMMANDS (its not hard at all, just take off your pride...its for your husband u love so much) and be more LOVING and CARING than ever.
PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.

U can do away with my pieces of advice if u want your marriage to pack up, or you want out, or you want your man to bring in another woman!

BE PRAYERFUL, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM.
AND ALSO DO A PROPER CHECK ON YOURSELF TO BE SURE U AINT DOING SOMETHINGS WRONG AFTER YOUR WEDDING!

God bless you!

Winneygirl:
Obviously!! That is Y she is complaining. She is soo in love and d respect is swelling her head, she just can't help but complain.

"Oya go to Ur room".

That is wat U tell children!

P.S: Na where She go carry dis stone-age man from?

Winneygirl: In my opinion, this going back-and-forth by members is wat RooneyBoy actually wanted.

D 'woman' is his friend who complained 2 him. He opens a thread seeking advice 4 her. And He hoped that He will show her the thread once constructive advice comes in. Then He takes a firm stand behind d husband.

If his stand is so clear, Y pretend 2 need advice on d womans behalf?

baby_123:

No, I do understand clearly what you mean. You are just emotional about the mental health issue that was brought up, because at the base of all this argument. You support separate rooms. I don't think you took the time and patience to actually read our threads and understand. Besides, I am responding to you because I mentioned mental health issues here before ileobatojo did.

Ivynwa:

I am sorry dearie, I don't wish to continue the conversation as you are just talking about stuffs irrelevant to what I and the lady talked about besides we already ended that conversation peacefully. No need to keep stretching it. Thanks.

Ivynwa: I am just seeing your post now because I wasn't really paying you attention when I was conversing with Ileobatojo. I wasn't talking/discussing with you then lady. You barged in on our discussion and started agitating and vibrating over nothing.

You seem to have time to mock around and abuse others, I don't have time for that. Go ahead, look for others to abuse and mock. My skin is hardened to such so don't waste your time. I am tempted to give it back to you the way you are ogling for but I am not allowing you tint my vibez with all that. As you can see I've got peace and love in my heart and you ain't breaking that peace. Au revoir.

Ivynwa:
I can easily abuse you back but I am not stooping to your level. If you like you can find all the abusing words of the earth and paste them here for Ivy . Go in peace Babes.

Ivynwa:

Striding on..........
#Vibezunbroken
#Vibesuntainted
#Vibespositive

Rooneyboy: [b]She forward this message to my mail box this morning and frankly speaking I don't know how best to advice this my friend, that's y I seek professional advice here.

- - - - I would refer her to this page as soon as meaningful replies starts pouring in.

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*My marriage is just three months old. But the kind of problems we are already having is making me tired already.

When my husband and I were dating we used to share his room and bed so I assumed after marriage we would share a room. But to my amazement, after a week, he told me to move my things into the next room. Even though the rooms have doors that link them together through the bathroom and toilet, I didn’t like the idea of sleeping on a separate bed from my husband at night.

The more I tried to argue the point, the more determined he appeared to be. Since it was too early for us to be fighting over such a matter, I didn’t push it beyond registering my displeasures.
Besides, I reasoned there is no way he would protest my sleeping in his room.

But I reasoned wrongly as that night, he told me after making love to relocate to my room that he wanted his peace and space. He didn’t stop there; he told me it was a taboo for him to share his bed with a menstruating woman or a nursing mother. He also said by his upbringing, a serious minded man doesn’t allow a woman near him all the time. Finally, he told me that he would be the one coming to my room whenever he has the urge to make love.

When I asked what would happen if I feel like making love, he didn’t give a reply.

I thought he was joking but his attitude of the successive days showed he wasn’t. After I tried to force myself into his room once or twice, he took to locking his side of the two doors. He only opens the door when he felt like easing himself or taking
his bath.

It is so confusing. Another thing is the issue of joint account. He wants us to have a joint account. I don’t want it due to the experiences of my friends. He is equally adamant about it. I am honestly getting fed up with all these challenges. We dated for two years. I never knew he was this rigid and so traditional.

We appear to be worlds apart. I don’t know what to do at all because the man I see daily in the house is a complete stranger who doesn’t have semblance to the one I dated and married. [/b]

Ivynwa:

I only smile at people like you that think that they can manufacture bullets with their word, and go about throwing it at others in the forum.
You actually feel like you ripped somebody apart? Amazing! Ewoo Ivynwa just got shot some rounds of bullets of words by you. #mostpowerfullady
Ain't I happy for you, swag on girlie!
I am stronger than you think and you can't get to me with whatever negative word in the world.

jidegirl12: Ladies now now enough!

Ivynwa: It all boiled down to how it started, abusing other posters because they don't agree with your own opinion.
What I was discusing with the other lady is "Why consider others that don't agree with her opinion as having mental issues?". It concerned you in no way, you jumped in querying and attacking me for having a different opinion to you. My opinion in my post that having separate bedrooms by couples is not such a bad idea have you boiling up all over the place because I must agree with you. Why do some people come to a public forum and want to enforce their opinion on others like I can't have a mind of my own anymore? Wow. A human being that goes about abusing others for their opinion is the same person here telling others that they have mental issues. #Ridiculousness
Stay here and be making a fool of your self. Don't stop, keep bringing it on. Try hitting your head on the cyberwall if you like. It will not make me have the same opinion with you but that may help you remember more vocabs to use as bullets in your gun that is pointed at Ivy. I use to avoid absorbing/reading vilewords and bullets being used in the internet by bullies like you but that makes your likes feel like the other persons cannot stand up for themselves. Ain't no internet bully getting me down. I am standing here with my Akpobi shield girl. Keep shooting --------Odeshi (Abeg make I laugh).

Heyi! You are actually feeling like a masquarade with a cane running down the roads of nairaland flogging everybody that disagrees with you on the threads. #The-Champion-lady-fighter-fights-on-and-on. Jeez!.
Just make sure that you entertain the audience and give them enough to laugh about. The floor is open for you again----A-c-tion. Don't tell me that you are not taking this bet? You know you can't resist it? Hehehehehe hahahahaha, you are so entertaining.

miredia: Rooneyboy i am under intuitive compulsion to believe your piece resonates your present circumstance. There is nothing clumsy in having seperate rooms under healthy conditions that justifies a genuine need for privacy. However, where i fail to have an inkling is your defiance to rationale, selfishly gratifying your se*xual appeal damning her own appetite and feelings. This is utterly inhumane. Compounding this dastardly psyche is ushering her out upon ur satisfaction thereafter requesting for a joint account, that there depletes your machoism. I was worse off and for a long time always had subservient mates. I never wanted to be around a woman for too long or talk too much, a recourse was growing to be more empathetic. Sculpting a better rooneyboy will be according some regard to her and be more hearty and trust me when i say that union is engulfed in a lot of puerile and infantile tendencies. Cheers man