playmode: I have lived in South Africa for close to 13 years but have been planning to return to Nigeria with my family for the past two years. Over the past two years i have sent money home to arrange a place for me and my family to reside in and have done a lot of research to determine what I will do when I get to Nigeria.

All my plans however have been put in disarray with the worsening Political, Infrastructural and Security problems in Nigeria. I just learnt yesterday that there has been close to 10 kidnappings in the lekki axis where i own a property and this just worries me.

Living abroad all these years has definitely "spoilt" me. Now i am used to constant electricity & water, good roads ,clean open market, parks , cheap ADSL internet, advanced security , strong currency , efficient service providers ,quick access to modern technology , world class medical facilities e.t.c All these things makes my life easy and enables me to earn a decent living. My wife is South African just as my kids are and they are also spoiled by the easy life in South Africa.

The recent state of kidnappings in Nigeria has scared my wife who was once eager to move to Nigeria to become reluctant to move. As everyday passes I see the hope of moving to Nigeria with my family fading away. My In laws have even made it clear to me that they do not want their daughter moving permanently to Nigeria because of the kidnapping situation. I have tried defending Nigeria in their presence but everyday news of bombing or kidnapping emanates from Nigeria.

My question to all Nairalanders especially the ones in Nigeria is this :

(A) If you were in my shoes what will you do?

(B) Is it worth it to come back to Nigeria at this time or should I wait a few more years till the security situation get better?

(C) Should I leave my family in South Africa, come back to Nigeria and visit SA once every two months?

Please only serious minded people need reply and please none of that “I am the first to comment” nonsense. This is a thread directed at mature adults with some level of intelligence. Thank you.

playmode: I have lived in South Africa for close to 13 years
Living abroad all these

nosike3: [b]Chairman!!! Shut the f up!!!! 'I am used to the luxurious life bla bla bla bla bla!!! [/b]You first of all condemn the country u want to come to and then praised your present location.. It is obvious u have made your mind and just want to inform us how ur scr*wed up life is is SA.. For ur info!! If them don deport u,simply tell us and stop all this fronting!!! All this drug pushers in south Africa that give nigerians (igbo) bad name... Relocate to hell for all I care.

Dreamflyin: And please who said Naija is safer dan SA?
Please, please n please, are we really in d same Nigeria?
I walks home from Gondwanas at 3am. I enters PE township(ghetto) at 1am; can i walk tru Aj at 2am, or even my ole nice Onitsha at 2am?
Come on!
If d media is to report all d crimes happening 4 naija ehhh... Na run u go run.

sobastical: This man must be a learner, please kindly come to nigeria only on vacation. That's only the best option for now.

nosike3: Chairman!!! Shut the f up!!!! 'I am used to the luxurious life bla bla bla bla bla!!! You first of all condemn the country u want to come to and then praised your present location.. It is obvious u have made your mind and just want to inform us how ur scr*wed up life is is SA.. For ur info!! If them don deport u,simply tell us and stop all this fronting!!! All this drug pushers in south Africa that give nigerians (igbo) bad name... Relocate to hell for all I care.

50calibre: Returning home should depend on what is waiting for you at home. Weigh up the pros and cons before taking any decision.

Since you said you have a stable and comfortable life in South Africa and with a South African wife, then consider yourself lucky or accomplished as that is something many black people in south africa cant boast of, you are at least in the middle - upper echelon of the South African society, do you wanna throw that away and come battle unemployment, insecurity, lack of power supply, dangerous roads, corruption, erratic/unskilled/lazy/incompetent/foolish police?

Please returning home without a rock- solid long term plan is tantamount to suicide.

playmode: I have lived in South Africa for close to 13 years but have been planning to return to Nigeria with my family for the past two years. Over the past two years i have sent money home to arrange a place for me and my family to reside in and have done a lot of research to determine what I will do when I get to Nigeria.

All my plans however have been put in disarray with the worsening Political, Infrastructural and Security problems in Nigeria. I just learnt yesterday that there has been close to 10 kidnappings in the lekki axis where i own a property and this just worries me.

Living abroad all these years has definitely "spoilt" me. Now i am used to constant electricity & water, good roads ,clean open market, parks , cheap ADSL internet, advanced security , strong currency , efficient service providers ,quick access to modern technology , world class medical facilities e.t.c All these things makes my life easy and enables me to earn a decent living. My wife is South African just as my kids are and they are also spoiled by the easy life in South Africa.

The recent state of kidnappings in Nigeria has scared my wife who was once eager to move to Nigeria to become reluctant to move. As everyday passes I see the hope of moving to Nigeria with my family fading away. My In laws have even made it clear to me that they do not want their daughter moving permanently to Nigeria because of the kidnapping situation. I have tried defending Nigeria in their presence but everyday news of bombing or kidnapping emanates from Nigeria.

My question to all Nairalanders especially the ones in Nigeria is this :

(A) If you were in my shoes what will you do?

(B) Is it worth it to come back to Nigeria at this time or should I wait a few more years till the security situation get better?

(C) Should I leave my family in South Africa, come back to Nigeria and visit SA once every two months?

Please only serious minded people need reply and please none of that “I am the first to comment” nonsense. This is a thread directed at mature adults with some level of intelligence. Thank you.

exxell: Story Of My Life..... from this write up, all I was able to deduce is one thing: YOU HAVE ALREADY MADE UP YOUR MIND NEVER TO COME BACK TO NIGERIA.YOU JUST WANT CHEAP PUBLICITY STUNT. I know that Nigeria is not perfect but slow and steady; we are getting there. It is better to be a king among my "poor" brothers than a slave among "rich" foreigners. When you die, I hope you will be buried in SA or will they kidnap your corpse too ?

SUMMARY, WE DO NOT CARE!

redsun: If only crime is the problem of nigeria.It could have been easily taken care of[b].The problem is "subhumanic" leadership and hapless followership that grounds all human intelligence,cooperation,resoucefullness and empathy[/b].

Fadelex: No matter how bad d situation is, Naija is stil d place, even though everyone is his/her own government i.e u mst av a generator, a bore-hole, pay waste disposal, pay skl fees, pay medical bills, pay for gas, pay for road usage, hire vigilante or opc for security and so on bt most importantly, there is freedom for you here, if u'r ready to become ur own local govt. Come home, nt wit ur family ooo... @least wen u spend like a year or two here den u can relocate dem

playmode:

Since when is having basic amenities a luxury or an achievementSo constant electricity ,good roads and cheap high speed internet are luxuries? Jeez some people hen! Even the poorest people here enjoy some of these things i just mentioned. You need to re read my post and comprehend the message in it.There is no part where i rated SA over Nigeria.I simply stated facts and my genuine concerns.By the way i am Yoruba from Lagos with legit businesses that pay tax to the South African revenue Service so please stop your tribal bashing and childish accusations. I am sure you saw the part where i requested for mature adults to give me advice.Since when is asking for honest unbiased advice a crime or an insult to Nigeria

Pataki: South Africa is abroad?

Orisirisi sha!

Dreamflyin: U wanna come home?
Really?
I was in humewood, PE for 6months, and i bet u, SA is next to heaven co pared to this riot called Nigeria.
Nigeria is good if u've got a big biz u wanna do here, but coming down wit ur Xhosa wifey is a NO NO!! She'll run bak to SA wit d kids after few months. No Boardwalk, parks for d kids. They'll just hang u as d dad, seriously.

They'll also stick out, and dat in naija is nt gud ooo among their fwllow kids. Nw wat about d noisy generator u'll hav to get? Hw about d potholes u'll drive dem on, or wil u just stick ur family in Lekki?

Sir, to avoid future fence off wit d family, it's better they visit dan stayin bak. Marrying a foreigner is a one way highway. D kids will neva come n settle bak home. U'll nt b d first or d last. Please, let ur family stay bak.

Pataki: South Africa is abroad?

Orisirisi sha!

coogar:

if you don't have enough money or a steady stream of income that can give you a mirror image of what you currently enjoy then never go to nigeria. people would build castles in the air for you with their mouths but they are all lying. only 1% of the population are actually living, the others are only existing!

home is where you make it - i dunno how people get home sick. i love nigeria but i don't miss it to the point of thinking about relocation. the time is not right at all so stay put until you can afford a nice house in a well-secured area....if you are married to my sister and you relocate her to nigeria and something terrible happens to her, i would kill you!

sobastical: This man must be a learner, please kindly come to nigeria only on vacation. That's only the best option for now.

kekerazi:


My Broda,we in Nigeria did not hear of any Kidnapping in Lekki.I wonder were you got that news from.And from Your post You'll be Residing in Lekki when you come Back.I can assure you Lekki is safer and more comfortable Than were you are staying in S.A - I might not be too sure though-

DJDOLA: Heyyyy bros don't mind them ooo..don't even try 2 come niger now..nigeria is more worst morethan before no light no gud road no water our police are somthin else no security...all dis fork sayin nigera is gud if they give them sa visa they wil live nigeria sharp sharp..if nigeria is gud why millions of nigeria que at embasy for visa nah..I weep for u if u try 2 come