[b]What would make a Marreid woman still want to keep "male" friends even after marriage?.Does the Nigerian context accept this?.Is it "legal"?.Most of these male friends may be her ex boy friend during school days and all other acquaintances at the office,social media or even peer?.Is it okay if such male friend is allowed to even pay her a visit at her Matrimonial home for any reason?.If so,what's the take of the husband in such actions?.[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

you didnt trash this out b4 the wedding??

and of what purpose if i may ask is this friendship ?

help you do your job?

any correlation btw light and darkness?

taiyesoul: What would make a Marreid woman still want to keep "male" friends even after marriage?

What would make a woman want to dump her old friends automatically just because she is married?

if you don't trust your wife around her male friends, why did you marry her?

This topic again?

It is totally unacceptable to me for both a married man and his wife to keep friends of the opposite sex.Of what use is such friendship?Their is no point keeping friendships that is of no benefit to the marriage.If you are contented with your spouse,what other friendship do you seek with the opposite sex?

@op it depends on your definition of friendship if its just the hi hi friend is very ok,but to the point of paying each other visits or having unnecessary and meaning less long calls is un acceptable,there are different kinds of friends and each one has a different meaning to it.there just as to b a limit to all contact to all opposite sex friends.and such friends should also be matured enough to know the right thing. am sure you do have opposite sex as colleagues at work or business place. It can not be avoided there just has to be respectful limits to it.

Its not bad, but the friend has to be known and accepted by the two of us, infact, such friend becomes a family friend, the same way my hubby's female friends/colleague friends have to be known and accepted by us.
Why will i deny my male friends because of marriage, any man infuriated by such is suffering from INSECURITY and insecurity is one of the cankerworms eating up marital trust.
May God help us all.






P. S......this topic has been trashed many times, @op, you can use local search to get more reply if you arent satisfied with the ones you get here.
Shalom!!!

Is it acceptable for a woman to breath when her husband is nowhere near her?

In my opinion it is not acceptable because a married woman is not allowed to have a life outside her husband, so when she breaths when her husband is not around, she could be breathing in air that may have been mixed with another man's own and it defeats the purpose of the whole "living only for her husband".

Keep the ones you know are good friends, but respect your union by always being open about meeting them to your spouse. The ones you know want more, and cant respect themselves no matter what the situation, drop them straight.

So am guessing the husband does not have any female friends. God Help the Nigerian Woman.

taryour: @op it depends on your definition of friendship if its just the hi hi friend is very ok,but to the point of paying each other visits or having unnecessary and meaning less long calls is un acceptable,there are different kinds of friends and each one has a different meaning to it.there just as to b a limit to all contact to all opposite sex friends.and such friends should also be matured enough to know the right thing. am sure you do have opposite sex as colleagues at work or business place. It can not be avoided there just has to be respectful limits to it.

I understand u,tayour.i have this experience of a brother's wife,who came accross this guy whom she's one dated at university days.They exchanged PINs' and the guy once in a while visits her at the office,and trust men,he asked her out.This woman has got 3 kids already!,and this intruder is also happily merreid with 2 kids.In a matter of days,this woman's attitude to her hubby changed suddenly.She hisses,nags and snubs her hubby a'home,which is very unusual.The husband then got suspicious,and placed a close watch on her.She got hold of her wife's phone and saw everything!.This housewife and this guy are already in love!.According to their bbm converstaions,the wife now refers to the guy as "my love" and the guy also refers to the woman as "Ife mi'.She started pleading and begging her husband to forgive her,that she didnt knew when she started falling in love with the guy.Can u justify these?.What is realy the heart of this miatter?

taiyesoul:



I understand u,tayour.i have this experience of a brother's wife,who came accross this guy whom she's one dated at university days.They exchanged PINs' and the guy once in a while visits her at the office,and trust men,he asked her out.This woman has got 3 kids already!,and this intruder is also happily merreid with 2 kids.In a matter of days,this woman's attitude to her hubby changed suddenly.She hisses,nags and snubs her hubby a'home,which is very unusual.The husband then got suspicious,and placed a close watch on her.She got hold of her wife's phone and saw everything!.This housewife and this guy are already in love!.According to their bbm converstaions,the wife now refers to the guy as "my love" and the guy also refers to the woman as "Ife mi'.She started pleading and begging her husband to forgive her,that she didnt knew when she started falling in love with the guy.Can u justify these?.What is realy the heart of this miatter?

Nothing what so ever justifies her actions, its was very silly of her to have exchange pins in the first place with an ex, as far as am concerned an Ex should remain an Ex/enemy. If by chance u meet an Ex after marriage,you should totally snub him or her or just say hi.there should be no roon for any talk or smiles. You shouldn't even do business with an Ex. A woman that did such a thing after 3 kids is a shame to woman hood and her kids,what example is she laying as a wife,mother,friend,sister and a role model? She has the cheating blood in her and had waited for the opportunity,she deserves whatever treatment her husband gives her.

Ordinary Friends/ colleagues .....yes


Ex boyfriends/lovers.....No

Yep,there is nothing wrong with it! Hubby has friends way back from school! Will I stop them from gettin along cos I'm married to him,hell no! I hv mine too. We hv collective friends.there r things one should not worry abt unless its choking,then u can treat it accordingly.

taiyesoul:



I understand u,tayour.i have this experience of a brother's wife,who came accross this guy whom she's one dated at university days.They exchanged PINs' and the guy once in a while visits her at the office,and trust men,he asked her out.This woman has got 3 kids already!,and this intruder is also happily merreid with 2 kids.In a matter of days,this woman's attitude to her hubby changed suddenly.She hisses,nags and snubs her hubby a'home,which is very unusual.The husband then got suspicious,and placed a close watch on her.She got hold of her wife's phone and saw everything!.This housewife and this guy are already in love!.According to their bbm converstaions,the wife now refers to the guy as "my love" and the guy also refers to the woman as "Ife mi'.She started pleading and begging her husband to forgive her,that she didnt knew when she started falling in love with the guy.Can u justify these?.What is realy the heart of this miatter?

. Her greatest fuckup was exchangin pins.why is she beggin? Abi her eye don clear,there r friends u can keep but surely not an ex! Well,I hope they resolve it and she must hv learnt her sweet lesson!

Sisi_Kill: Is it acceptable for a woman to breath when her husband is nowhere near her?

In my opinion it is not acceptable because a married woman is not allowed to have a life outside her husband, so when she breaths when her husband is not around, she could be breathing in air that may have been mixed with another man's own and it defeats the purpose of the whole "living only for her husband".

Hahahahaha *dies*

....continues laughing in heaven

yellowpawpaw: Yep,there is nothing wrong with it! Hubby has friends way back from school! Will I stop them from gettin along cos I'm married to him,hell no! I hv mine too. We hv collective friends.there r things one should not worry abt unless its choking,then u can treat it accordingly.

hey!."ex",not casual friends mind u!.what is the benefit of a woman still reaching out to an ex after wedlock?

taiyesoul:



hey!."ex",not casual friends mind u!.what is the benefit of a woman still reaching out to an ex after wedlock?

. Can u pls go back to d topic before attacking me. Thanks

Its to the man or woman that is wearing the shoe.
But if u ask me, its unacceptable cos it can lead to murder case.

Vikin: Ordinary Friends/ colleagues .....yes


Ex boyfriends/lovers.....No

Some ex-boyfriends/lovers can still be friends worth keeping......at a distance though.

slimyem: Some ex-boyfriends/lovers can still be friends worth keeping......at a distance though.

"worth keeping"?.for what?.over what?.and what's the gain from keeping such?.to fall in love or lust again and sack the hubby?.Nope!

Why do u wana do away with them in d first place And even if u do, who do u expect to see wen u wana do your anniversary Let rememba no1 is an island of knowledge. Your lover cant play 2roles(lover and a friend) perfectly... Atleast...

simdam500: Why do u wana do away with them in d first place And even if u do, who do u expect to see wen u wana do your anniversary Let rememba no1 is an island of knowledge. Your lover cant play 2roles(lover and a friend) perfectly... Atleast...

Bigamy, so to say?