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Do I Walk Out? by fragancegel: 8:36pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
My 35 old boyfriend usually often gives me cold shoulders for no reason. I would ask what the problem is and he won't be able to tell me a thing. most times he snaps back to normal when I threaten to walk out of the relationship.it has happened so many times without number. This attitude is killing me,I have calmly talked to him to open up if I offend him so I will apologize instead of blanking me for days but no avail,our wedding is coming up november.I am really confused,how do I handle this. right now he isn't talking to me and is putting up different heartbreaking messages in his dp on bb. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by coogar: 8:42pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
your boyfriend is a baby... |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 8:47pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
What types of heartbreaking messages has he been posting? |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by coogar: 8:55pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
ileobatojo: What types of heartbreaking messages has he been posting? end of the road - boyz II men water run dry - boyz II men irreplaceable - beyonce move bïtch - ludacris kill you - eminem. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by biolabee(m): 8:58pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
coogar: Madt bad messages |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 9:01pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
coogar: Lol! Lets hear from the horse's mouth jo! |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by coogar: 9:02pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
ileobatojo: amebo! this horse has no mouth....... |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
coogar: |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by fragancegel: 9:20pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
“I hate the feeling dat I am not good enough”. “if u aren't sure of your feelings pls let me be” “a great relationship is about two tins 1.find out the similarities 2.respect out the differences”.“I may not be the best so if u can't accept me pls walk away” To the best of my knowledge I haven't offended him and he didn't tell me I did .he just started putting Up this funny messages and stop calling. I know if I threaten to call the relationship off he would start apologizing and would start behaving himself. I have told him marriage isn't a do or die affair,if his is scared he can postpone it but he won't hear of dat.but he continues with this silly attitude.pls how best do I handle him |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by greatgod2012(f): 9:24pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
@op,Probably, your hubby-to-be has been hearing a lot of sad marriage stories, and the thing is scaring hell out of him. If he has refused to talk to/with you and psting crazy messages, you can send message or e-mail to him to express your feelings, and if he doesnt change, you too can start posting crazy messages and facebook posts on your facebook wall, maybe, that will push him into asking questions, which will also serve as an opportunity to voice out your mind to him. I wish you goodluck. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by baby124: 9:35pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
You are dealing with someone that likes unnecessary attention, and is most likely cheating. Maybe those messages are for the other girl. Will advice you to put the marriage on hold so you can figure out what is going on. You try sha. Give him space, don't call, don't beg, and approach his people to put things on hold. Do you see yourself playing such manipulating games for a lifetime? If he can't be mature at 35, then you both have a long way to go. Pray to God to give you someone sane, and on your maturity level. This guy is not stable. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 9:48pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
fragancegel: “I hate the feeling dat I am not good enough”. “if u aren't sure of your feelings pls let me be” “a great relationship is about two tins 1.find out the similarities 2.respect out the differences”.“I may not be the best so if u can't accept me pls walk away” Could he be looking for a way out of the relationship but doesn't want to be the one to call it off? Sounds like it to me. What can you do? Just try to get him to open up in a neutral and non threatening atmosphere and go from there. Don't nag or smother him though. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Mayflowa(m): 10:54pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
Are you sure is he not bipolar? Does he act stable when with you? Do you think you can continue being with this personality for life? I assure you- he is going to be more moody in the marriage. Think very well babe. You seem to be the soft one here whose emotion is being toiled with. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 11:09pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
Mayflowa: Are you sure is he not bipolar? Does he act stable when with you? Do you think you can continue being with this personality for life? My thoughts too...when he snaps out of it, does he feel bad about it or just sees it as normal? |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 11:37pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
Very hard to say but I think he is not into it again.develpd cold feet and want u to act first.unless u r desperate,give him gap jor! Headache so soon!never ignore d smallest negative sign in a r/ship. Still wish u luck |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by fragancegel: 11:54pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
He is usually loving and a sweet person when he is normal.most times when I Threaten to walk out he cries begs and even promise not to repeat it,but three weeks later he starts up again and we go thru the same circle all over again.I have calmly told him if he wants a break I would give him.he is the one bringing up the marriage issue.I am not desperate in any way |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by aejaywhite: 11:59pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
One thing u should have at d back of ur mind is that his behaviour is childish and can only get worse wen u guys are married. IMO, take a long break frm d rship. Marriage no be beans o.... |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 12:02am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Then chill cos I tell u,marriage will bring out even yet something worst than dis!unless ur personalities match and u can handle dis cool,u can go ahead,but no dat he is not goin to change dis.if u can't,take a walk.its good to be real anyway.d best of luck |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 9:10am On Apr 22, 2013 |
baby_123: You are dealing with someone that likes unnecessary attention, and is most likely cheating. Maybe those messages are for the other girl. Will advice you to put the marriage on hold so you can figure out what is going on. You try sha. Give him space, don't call, don't beg, and approach his people to put things on hold. Do you see yourself playing such manipulating games for a lifetime? If he can't be mature at 35, then you both have a long way to go. Pray to God to give you someone sane, and on your maturity level. This guy is not stable. True talk. |
Re: Do I Walk Out? by Nobody: 9:59am On Apr 22, 2013 |
A f00l @ 35 . . . 1 Like |
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