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| Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by ELff: 1:07pm On May 06, 2013 |
I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now and there's this girl that has always been on his neck, always sending him love msgs and constantly calling, I cme to his house few days ago and met the girl in my bfrnd's house wearing his shirt, I expected that he would sharply discharge the girl since I was around but on the contrary, she actually took her time to take her bath and he even walked her to the bus stop to pick a vehicle, all the while this was happening I stayed in the guest room just gathering all my stuffs bcus I made up my mind that there was no use been in the relationship. He's been begging me but he says how would I end a relatnshp bcus I met a girl in the house, afterall he didn't sleep with her that I am over reacting, pls am I really over reacting after the drama I met in his house that morning! Pls I need matured responses and construtv criticisms. Thanks |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by lecturerdabo(m): 1:22pm On May 06, 2013 |
Did I hear OVER REACTING? Well U can wait for the real heart-break! |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by ohaleoghene(f): 1:25pm On May 06, 2013 |
My dear , truth be told , will talk to you as a sister and a long time frnd . We can't always leave one relationship to another , else you might keep jumping , because no relationship is without its own tussles, u might meet worse in the next one , and if you are lucky , it might work out . Whatever kept you guys together for one year , I will assume is not a child's play . At this junction , u shud call your man , ask him what he wants from the relationship, from his answer you will make your decisions ...you shud let him know how much he shud respect your feelings ...I am not saying you shud over look some attitudes in him , cause if you do , it will always come to hurt you . If he wants you for real , he shud begin to take your feelings into consideration . 1 Like |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 1:25pm On May 06, 2013 |
You are doing the right thing. 2 Likes |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by remecy(f): 1:27pm On May 06, 2013 |
The best way to over react is to end the relationship. The reasons are in your story. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Sapphire86(f): 1:37pm On May 06, 2013 |
First of all, hw do u know he did not sleep with her? The fact is his story might hold if it was anoda girl but a girl that has been sending him love messages is now passing the night, wearing his shirt and is even being escorted 2 the bus stop  U beta put an end 2 it cuz it is obvious he takes u 4 a fool. He wants 2 eat his cake and also have it. If u did such, wld he accept it? 1 Like |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Acidosis(m): 1:40pm On May 06, 2013 |
ohaleoghene: My dear , truth be told , will talk to you as a sister and a long time frnd . We can't always leave one relationship to another , else you might keep jumping , because no relationship is without its own tussles, u might meet worse in the next one , and if you are lucky , it might work out . Whatever kept you guys together for one year , I will assume is not a child's play . At this junction , u shud call your man , ask him what he wants from the relationship, from his answer you will make your decisions ...you shud let him know how much he shud respect your feelings ...I am not saying you shud over look some attitudes in him , cause if you do , it will always come to hurt you . If he wants you for real , he shud begin to take your feelings into consideration . What more can I say..? |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by ELff: 1:49pm On May 06, 2013 |
Thanks everyone for ur responses. @Sapphire86, I don't actually know whether or not he slept with the girl or not. I feel he's not remorse, he says what if we were married, that's how I would move out of the marriage, and I ask him, do u intend bringing girls to ur matimonial home. He hasn't evn shown enough remorse to make me change my mind about not leaving, on the contrary he's telling me I am over reacting. I got really confused and I needed an unbiased opinion that's why I came here. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by ezemoses(m): 1:50pm On May 06, 2013 |
okay so maybe he is telling the truth that he did not sleep with her but what if you are just the girl he is using for sex and she is the girl he is sparing for marriage. open your eyes n do not make a mistake. sometimes being desparate or loving someone blindly might be harmful 3 Likes |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by vizboy(m): 1:54pm On May 06, 2013 |
The guy is a player. My sister find ur way cause u cant tell he didnt sleep with the girl when the girl slept through the nite at his place. If na me nothing go stop such hot S. E . X |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Sapphire86(f): 1:56pm On May 06, 2013 |
ELff: Thanks everyone for ur responses. My dear It is beta 4 u 2 ova react and ve a peaceful mind. Hw can he say if u were married bla bla bla, does he intend 2 bring women in ur house 2 ve a sleep ova while u move 2 d guest room and even prepare dinner 4 them A woman's intuition is more often than not right. Make up ur mind whether u want apologies or sum1 u can trust. Or did her house burn down ovanight? Was she robbed of her bag and ur boyfriend just miraculously came 2 her location? |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 2:01pm On May 06, 2013 |
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| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by 190: 2:05pm On May 06, 2013 |
Probably he's cheating on you cos u not Good in bed  |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Sapphire86(f): 2:07pm On May 06, 2013 |
190: Probably he's cheating on you cos u not Good in bed R u freaking kidding me right now |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by ELff: 2:47pm On May 06, 2013 |
Thanks everyone once again for ur candid opinions, I really appreciate them and I am grateful. I can now make a rational decision with y'all responses. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 6:47pm On May 06, 2013 |
Op the truth is that your guy slept with that girl am talking from experience, why because it was a free offer. it is not something he worked hard for, it came on a platter of gold. your story points to the fact that he slept with her. He is using sense on you so that it would seem as though it was your fault. My advise give the relationship a break and re-access yourself. you don't need such baggage right now. I can tell you that if such opportunity present itself again, he will happily latch it into it. You need somebody who will respect your feelings |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 11:11pm On May 06, 2013 |
this is why most women will always fail in life......the guy was there, the girl was there, BUT instead of asking them direct questions about whats going on etc, she went to pick her stuff, and afterwards come to NL with questions. NONSENSE!!!! - why didnt you ask what you wanted to know directly IN FRONT OF BOTH OF THEM? - why pack your stuff from his house if you are NOW thinking of STAYING WITH HIM? - why act in front of them like you have a mind of your own, if you clearly DONT? i can only blame the OP for what is happening to her. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by 190: 10:02am On May 07, 2013 |
Sapphire86: excuse me |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 10:52am On May 07, 2013 |
You guys need to work on respect in your relationship. He might not be cheating with the lady but i'm sure if the roles were reversed, he'll be spitting fire already. First of all, you're not over-reacting. He went outta line. As someone has said, don't call it quit just yet. Relationships need an effort to sustain them. I'll say this time around, leave him alone and let him calm down, when everything calms down, use your feminine power  to calm him down sometimes and tell him gently that he's hurting you and you don't like it. Ask him in a nice way if he would be happy if you're doing same. This one that he's going defensive on you, trust me, shakara will not work. And when shakara fails, we use other methods. Good luck! |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by clemz85(m): 11:01am On May 07, 2013 |
no, you okey reacted |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 12:15pm On May 07, 2013 |
Girls should know that there is no such thing as "there is this girl bugging my bF",for a girl to courageously and consistently call your bf,it means he has committed himself one way or the other.isnt it obvious that he has little or no regard for you?can't you deduce from his comment that this is a potential ego crazed cheating male that won't see anything wrong in sowing his wild oats even after vowing to be committed to you?be wise now you still have the chance to choose. Many women toured this road and ended up with hopeless philanderers who continuosly infect them with STDs,emotionally molest them until they have lost all sense of self worth.The rubbish talk that there is no faithful man is an absurd generalization.Atleast there are better men other than what you have now(if you ever had him).Open your eyes and search. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 12:35pm On May 07, 2013 |
IMO,I can't go back to a cheat that doesn't know how to hide it It shows clear signs of no regard!You did the right thing and obviously the sex has been going on before u were lucky to catch them red handed.He slept with her and that's a FACT!!!Move on if you can. |
| Re: Nlers Pls Am I Over Reacting ? by Nobody: 1:22pm On May 07, 2013 |
You are doing the wrong thing! Seriously? Better run for your dear life! |
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