The rate at which couples cheat on each oda is alarming

because marriage dis days is not given greater tot, pple get married because they want to, n later realize they re not meant. 2. they see marriage as a contract job. 3. some do it to get fame

Did u asked the reasons for high divorce rates? There are so many reasons

1. Money
2. S*e*x
3. love and respect
4. Not preparing for marriage
5. Trend and fashion
6. The devil never wanted the success of the marriage institution
7. Pride and status
8. Wrong impression about marriage

Princeparix: infidelity na the only reason for divorce?

dear,dat is just one reason.I know there are a lot of reasons.just wanted to hear comments for our discussion on a programme on air,93.5fm

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I wish to marry a man that i can tolerate and he too can willingfully do same to me. A man whose weakness, i can compromise, mine he can compromise too but cheating is a no no no to me. So i guess cheating is responsible for the high number of divorce cases in the society. Biblically, one can divorce on this area.

marriage is no child's play. its about two people who truely want to be together and are prepared to fight for it. you can never force anyone to stay coz its a 2 way street

modern civilization (today music- all about sex, sex, sex! today movies, sex, sex, sex. internet- sex, sex, sex!) making it easy for couples to find better alternatives...and the modern media making couples to be comparing their partners with those they see on media...plus social network platforms- facebook, twitter, BBM, whatsapp, 2go, badoo, twoo, etc, etc...it takes strong level of self control and Godly discipline to remain faithful in marriage with the aforementioned reasons.

sunny t: Did u asked the reasons for high divorce rates? There are so many reasons

1. High quest for Money
2. S*e*x marketing in every sphere of today life (music, movie, office, market, TV, internet, etc)
3. lack of love and respect for cultural discipline
4. Poor preparation for marriage
5. Wayward Trend in today fashion
6. The desire to live celebrity life by all people of today even when they aren't
7. Pride and status
8. Wrong impression about marriage

Just edited your points to edify it...and you are not far from the obvious truth, well done

I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ quite unfortunate...durin ur great grand father's days,accorfing to my dad,women were usually contempted wit wateva dei had and wateva d husbands had to offer,bt am afraid,tins have changed.dis days,pple r scared of commitment in marriage dat I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ why u see alot of singles

DailyNews: modern civilization (today music- all about sex, sex, sex! today movies, sex, sex, sex. internet- sex, sex, sex!) making it easy for couples to find better alternatives...and the modern media making couples to be comparing their partners with those they see on media...plus social network platforms- facebook, twitter, BBM, whatsapp, 2go, badoo, twoo, etc, etc...it takes strong level of self control and Godly discipline to remain faithful in marriage with the aforementioned reasons.

i so agree wit d point u made on comparison..alot of couples compare their relationship with others unknown to them dat every couple have their own challenges..and also pride!...some couples will not bring themselves low to apologize to each oda and settle differences..some couples can keep malice for close to a month..

effisyman: The fight for freedom and power by women.

can u pls xplain more on dis point?

Princess zoe: I wish to marry a man that i can tolerate and he too can willingfully do same to me. A man whose weakness, i can compromise, mine he can compromise too but cheating is a no no no to me. So i guess cheating is responsible for the high number of divorce cases in the society. Biblically, one can divorce on this area.

may your wish be granted dear

Princeparix: infidelity na the only reason for divorce?

Abeg help me ask am ooo

The reasons for high divorce rate in our society is selfishness and us not willing to compromise certain things to have a successful marriage.we go into marriage expecting just too much forgetting marriage is working hand in hand to make things work.

stargal_ameena: i so agree wit d point u made on comparison..alot of couples compare their relationship with others unknown to them dat every couple have their own challenges..and also pride!...some couples will not bring themselves low to apologize to each oda and settle differences..some couples can keep malice for close to a month..

very correct...and the foundation too....most men aren't married to their dream woman, and I would place the blame on the women for so many reasons big enough to be contained here...just my own perspective, remember, I had been a member of a team that have tried to unveil why many relationships and marriages of the 21st century fail earlier than expected...and during the cause of our research, we interviewed so many youth and adults, and we also made several visits to both campuses and corporate offices and you would be amazed at our results....

There is fire on the mountain, everyone needs to just be careful and prayerful. nice thread, kudos to op for bringing up such a vital topic to be discussed

^^ o boi, how far?

Dailynews so when a man marries a woman who isn't his heart desire, you pass the blame to the woman. Maybe i don't understand this your ideology. Could you please throw more light on this your conception?

Princess zoe: Dailynews so when a man marries a woman who isn't his heart desire, you pass the blame to the woman. Maybe i don't understand this your ideology. Could you please throw more light on this your conception?

Modern civilization has changed the world negatively....naturally, women are meant to conform easily with certain situations than men, and nature also made women to be convinced more easily, to adapt to a situation or to develop passion or love for someone they hardly knew, and thats why you see it possible for a guy to just walk up to a girl he hardly knew and start cooking up stories and before you know it, the girl starts falling for him and admiring to be with him for just telling her words...thats very difficult for a man...a woman can hardly get a man to fall like that, thats nature's handwork, and that was why in the past, most men married their dream women cos the women weren't so insatiable, and were easily convinced without too much expectations and daydreaming/fantasies like the women of today who expect a man to be:

1. very handsome
2. very rich
3. very romantic
4. very educated
5. good in cooking
6. good in bed
7. very popular

and the list continues, before they could consider to date or marry him. haven't you wondered why guys of today are marrying late? Incase you don't know, its because the women of today have all set high standard that guys are now hustling to meet up, and of course before most achieve those qualities, they may have clocked 30 years and above.....and maybe, end uo marrying a woman who isn't their dream woman, and also ends up supplementing their romantic/love life outside the shores of their matrimonial home...

From what is obtainable in today world, I pity the unborn kids cos there is fire on the mountain...and people seem not to know or care...until their hands gets burnt someday, soon.

I hope you got my point I don't just know how best to put it anyway for you to understand better.

I love this topic....nice one

Marriage isn't the problem. People are the issue.

Mrs..Chima:
Marriage isn't the problem. People are the issue.

summarized truth....try and broaden it to give people a better and clearer understanding.

@dailynews in as much as i concur with few of your points, i still hold the opinion that men who choose wrongly are responsible for their choices. You talked about a man fabricating some sweet notings just to make a woman fall for him, how about a girl borrowing cloths, make ups, woven, jewelries, just to look prettier and seduce a man. False life i guess. Every body is at the receving end. These days evil has increased. Women has been dealt with in many ways. More than 40percent of women were raped at tender age, who did the raping? These days women have been subjected to white and blue colar job so as to share expenses with their husbands whereas in the older days women give birth and take care of their children while men go out and hustle for the family upkeep. The scripture assigned responsiblities for the couple respectively. Genesis 3 vs 16-17 made the duties very clear. But now women do their own parts and still help the men with theirs yet they get beaten, cheated on and negecleted, so why wouldn't she cheat or misbehave in other ways or why wouldn't the single ones and the new generation look before they reap? Or better still develop resentment against men who fall into such category? Most grand mothers who were maltreated by their husbands but couldn't do anything to help themselves, go to the end extend of advising their daughters not to settle for less, am talking from what i know. Evil that most men do has been totally uncovered by the sun so why wouldn't ladies/women act fast to save themselves. Majority of marriages are in shambles due to selfishness, ducking of responsibilty, unfaithfulness, passing the buck to the other person instead of owning up to your wrongs, wickedness, the list are endless. In all these, there are happy marriages, yes, marriages were the two parties are faithful, responsible, understanding each other, knowing their responsibilites, above all, walking in the will of God. Now my brother, the only person that can help you to realise the true character needed before venturing into marriage is God. The best and ultimate matchmaker is God. Get more close to Him, leave for Him, obey Him, walk in His will, hate evil and always acknowledge Him so that He will direct your path otherwise...hmmmmmm.

Hello @princess, that was thoughtful I must confess....that was why I said THERE IS FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN NOWADAYS!!! Fingers crossed

people nowadays spend too much on the actual ceremonies and not
enough time on the relationship. they also confuse lust for love...

The mentality of people, the perception & consciousness about marriage, unconsciously prepares them for divorce even before the marriage begins..........

The reason for the high divorce rate is in Tony Blair's voice "Inflated expectations". A lot of young people today have this idea that once they get married, everything will be blissful. They don't factor in the fact that people have mood swings, some peopl want to play loud music on Saturday morningwhile the other wants to sleep. One wants to go curbing and the other wants to stay home and cuddle. It is these little things that turn into huge issues.

The man believes that when he is married, the wife suddenly becomes his house help and the woman thinks the husband is her private ATM machine and so they both become like strangers. More and more couples are then see that life is not what they think it is but instead of sitting down to address the issue from the roots, being humans, they attack the leaves.

Marrying who they want me to marry and not who I really love to marry because of religion,ethnic or wealth leads to many divorce



Marry who you really love and not who your pastor or Imam or parent tell you to marry , don't blame anybody for your unhappiness

^^
True

DailyNews: summarized truth....try and broaden it to give people a better and clearer understanding.

Summarize these nuts.