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Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 2:19pm On Apr 18, 2008
Ok, so you recieve a missed call from your man, then knowing full well he never leaves you voicemail a voicemail comes through, curious you call your voicemail to listen, and to your surprise it sound's like shaggin, so you listen and you hear a grown and it sounds like your man, then a few ruffles of the phone and then it's cut. So you sit with your man and say 'babe i got this message it's strange, what do you think it is??' You play it to him and he say's that's people shaggin, so you say really i thought so too, the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message. You tell him that the message will not be deleted until he has a valid explanation. Pretending everything is ok, when you can't stop thinking about it, what do you do??
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by nikekenny(m): 2:45pm On Apr 18, 2008
meaning you dont trust your husband? well lots of men this cheat on there wife, I prefer you leave the matter the way it is, or else you are looking for trouble, that is if you still want the relationship to stay strong though, if he stil loves you the way he used to do from the beginiging then go ahead with life lady.
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 2:52pm On Apr 18, 2008
It's not about trust, i have no trust issues, but this message is clearly shaggin, he has no explanation and the message was left from his mobile, so how did it come to be?
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by nikekenny(m): 2:57pm On Apr 18, 2008
mrs nri, i once used a phone with recording ability about 3 years ago, and I mistakenly recorded one of my girlfriend conversation stupidly on the phone, and my fiancee then got to hear it you know, is always difficult to know what to say, am confused i cant really lie cause she caught up with me. maybe is having an affair, and over did it you know, you should pet him maybe he will open up grin
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by almondjoy(f): 3:03pm On Apr 18, 2008
Some people really have time!  You need "moaning sounds" from your phone to tell you that your guy is cheating? Then you waste your time asking him. . .expecting to hear "it was the work of the devil"?

he he he he cheesy

Where you deeey since? cheesy I would have tailed his arse for a month to get solid proof without saying a word to him. Why play these stupid mind games is what I don't understand.

Like I said. . . .some people really have time!
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 3:17pm On Apr 18, 2008
Have time, abi?? This thing only happened last night!!! So wetin i go do?? I'm not playing game's i deal with the issue at hand, i won't tail his arse for a month, i will sort it there and then. wink
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Sisikill: 4:01pm On Apr 18, 2008
nikekenny:

meaning you don't trust your husband? well lots of men this cheat on there wife, I prefer you leave the matter the way it is, or else you are looking for trouble, that is if you still want the relationship to stay strong though, if he stil loves you the way he used to do from the beginiging then go ahead with life lady.


Lots of men cheat on their wives?
Leave matters the way it is?
Looking for trouble?



You are joking right? Please, please tell me you are joking with this asinine piece of advice you are doling out.

The guy is cheating on her but she’s the one looking for trouble.
The guy is lying to her but she should leave it alone.
And yeah, it’s so obvious he is doing his own part in keeping their relationship strong by cheating on her and she must do her part by turning a blind eye. . .right?

Good God! Some Nigerian men never cease to leave me speechless.


@ Poster
If it talks like a duck…
If it walks like a duck…
Then your husband is cheating on you.
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by uspry1(f): 4:15pm On Apr 18, 2008
@poster
How long you have been married? Did you know your husband's past background before marriage? I mean does he have the habit of cheating on you many times before marriage, if yes, then you are stuck with your cheating husband for the rest of your life.

I have no pity on you if you already knew that your husband is cheating in the past!!
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:24pm On Apr 18, 2008
2 years, i have sometimes questioned his behaviour but have met a reasonable conclusion after investigation. Like everyone out there couples have their issues, but this has thrown me way off track! sad
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Apr 18, 2008
@poster

sorry i dont put my mouth in watever that has got to do with husband and wife lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:32pm On Apr 18, 2008
I am just asking for opinions, people deal with things differently, i am not asking you to sort my issues out, it's just to see how other people would react to something like this. cheesy
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by earthrealm(m): 4:33pm On Apr 18, 2008
lol

the  answer  always  lies  in  the  past,

or  he  is  a  first  time  offender,
n the  way  the  human  psyche  is, u will find  it  hard  2  trust  ur  hubby  ever  again!!,

but u dont really  hv  rock solid  evidence,,,,,,,,,,
the  voices  u  heard, r u sure  his  voice is among

he  cud  hv been  watching  a  movie  or  sumthing.
mmeeeen  there  r  a  gazillion  xplanations, dont  jump  the  gun, try  n  get  solid  proof
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by somze(f): 4:36pm On Apr 18, 2008
What would you achieve by listening to opinions? Just an innocent question.

The fire is in your house, not out here. Two things you can do -

1. Let the house burn the hell down
2. Quench it out.

I suggest you take 2 and book a therapy session for the both of you.
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:39pm On Apr 18, 2008
Therapy, right!!! All i am saying is that if that was you, how do you think you would react? Gosh, it's not difficult to offer an opinion! angry
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:40pm On Apr 18, 2008
Earthrealm- That's what i'm trying to do, upon asking him he said he doesn't know. Surely you would know if you were watching tele or listening to music. I am not jumping the gun, i have not officially accused him, i just asked for an explanation. I hope that if cheating is the outcome he is a first time offender, but more than likely not.
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Apr 18, 2008
I am just asking for opinions, people deal with things differently, i am not asking you to sort my issues out, it's just to see how other people would react to something like this.

some reactions my dear,might make u do the wrong thing cool
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:43pm On Apr 18, 2008
I appreciate what you are saying at the same time whatever i decide to do will be down to me not anyone else. grin
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by somze(f): 4:50pm On Apr 18, 2008
Mrs_Nri:

Therapy, right!!! All i am saying is that if that was you, how do you think you would react? Gosh, it's not difficult to offer an opinion! angry
Me is thinking the story is a tale, otherwise I dont see how you would be interested in reactionary opinions when just yesterday you suspected your husband of cheating.

But in the spirit of playing along . . . I would re-look at the terms of the prenupt and have a meeting with my lawyer. I may just have an excuse to take all my money back and maybe some of hers . . . who knows
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Sisikill: 5:32pm On Apr 18, 2008
somze:

But in the spirit of playing along . . . I would re-look at the terms of the prenupt and have a meeting with my lawyer. I may just have an excuse to take all my money back and maybe some of hers . . . who knows


ROTFLMAO. . .Love it!!!!
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 6:54pm On Apr 18, 2008
some people cant stand the "waiting to catch him" game especially when it comes to someone they really love, i wouldn't blame the poster,
she probably couldn't stand the thought and thot to confront her hubby,

why do ladies expect to hear the truth from men i dont know,

I was chatting with a lady, she said one day, she forgot something at home and went to get it during lunch break, she met her hubby shaggin another woman inside the house, since that day, she doesn't go home unannounced whenever she forgets something or its impromptu,
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by almondjoy(f): 1:00am On Apr 19, 2008
I say put a detective on him or do the work yourself. Just make sure you have planned what you will do to him when you finally have proof!

No need sitting down in one place and wondering. If you have doubts, try to find out the truth for your own peace of mind! I don't believe in playing "wait and see" with guys especially. . .boyfriends or husbands!
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 1:06am On Apr 19, 2008
na true o!

what will you do when you eventually catch him ?

I say give me the benefit of doubt, except if you really know he could have done such,

best bet is let the matter be until you get a SUBSTANTIAL proof
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by RichyBlacK(m): 2:13am On Apr 19, 2008
Mrs_Nri:

I appreciate what you are saying at the same time whatever i decide to do will be down to me not anyone else. grin

@Mrs_Nri,

As a guy with extensive experience with relationship issues, I can tell you with 99% certainty that your husband is cheating on you.

There are two broad types of cheating:
1. With random girls (unknown, booty-call, prostitutes, girl living next-door, daughter of mamaput around the corner, etc.)
2. With a particular woman (secretary, colleague at work, ex-girlfriend, etc.)

Your husband is likely in category 2, cheating with a particular woman.

Almondjoy's suggestion is very good. Get a private eye to tail him and report to you. Amass enough evidence and confront him with it. If he behaves like many Nigerian men that believe cheating is his God-given right, then consider all options.

Try http://www.london-private-investigations.com/, they're "are based in Surrey and are conveniently placed for assignments in Central London, the Home Counties and Heathrow and Gatwick airports. "
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by chika98: 2:23am On Apr 19, 2008
He is cheating on you! I don't know if you want it spelled out in black and white before you understand what's going on. How your gonna deal with it however is up to you.
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:25am On Apr 19, 2008
sayhi2ay:



I was chatting with a lady, she said one day, she forgot something at home and went to get it during lunch break, she met her hubby shaggin another woman inside the house, since that day, she doesn't go home unannounced whenever she forgets something or its impromptu,

some people are blessed with peaceful personalities sha.


She met her husband shagging another woman in their marital home, and therefore she doesnt go home unannounced anymore?

Interesting.

God forbid, the house will catch fire that day, if that kind of thing happened to some other women. angry angry
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 2:28am On Apr 19, 2008
see no evil, here no evil,
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by chika98: 2:30am On Apr 19, 2008
Tpia: Can you imagine? shocked
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:33am On Apr 19, 2008
@ Mrs Nri
Ok, so you recieve a missed call from your man, then knowing full well he never leaves you voicemail a voicemail comes through, curious you call your voicemail to listen, and to your surprise it sound's like shaggin, so you listen and you hear a grown and it sounds like your man, then a few ruffles of the phone and then it's cut. So you sit with your man and say 'babe i got this message it's strange, what do you think it is??' You play it to him and he say's that's people shaggin, so you say really i thought so too, the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message. You tell him that the message will not be deleted until he has a valid explanation. Pretending everything is ok, when you can't stop thinking about it, what do you do??

is there any way to find out his exact location at the time that voicemail got recorded. Quiet investigation of course. No need to play into someone's hands. undecided
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:37am On Apr 19, 2008
chika98:

Tpia: Can you imagine? shocked

Some women try oh. undecided undecided



sayhi2ay:

see no evil, here no evil,

hopefully she wont see the evil of her husband and his girlfriends booting her out of the same house when the time is ripe. Or the evil of STD. undecided undecided
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by TheSly: 2:41am On Apr 19, 2008
God forbid, the house will catch fire that day, if that kind of thing happened to some other women angry angry
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin


the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message
------------->Poster
This is very fishy. . . . . . means he is cheating on you. . . . . Pls believe that. . wink

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