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Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 2:19pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Ok, so you recieve a missed call from your man, then knowing full well he never leaves you voicemail a voicemail comes through, curious you call your voicemail to listen, and to your surprise it sound's like shaggin, so you listen and you hear a grown and it sounds like your man, then a few ruffles of the phone and then it's cut. So you sit with your man and say 'babe i got this message it's strange, what do you think it is??' You play it to him and he say's that's people shaggin, so you say really i thought so too, the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message. You tell him that the message will not be deleted until he has a valid explanation. Pretending everything is ok, when you can't stop thinking about it, what do you do?? |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by nikekenny(m): 2:45pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
meaning you dont trust your husband? well lots of men this cheat on there wife, I prefer you leave the matter the way it is, or else you are looking for trouble, that is if you still want the relationship to stay strong though, if he stil loves you the way he used to do from the beginiging then go ahead with life lady. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 2:52pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
It's not about trust, i have no trust issues, but this message is clearly shaggin, he has no explanation and the message was left from his mobile, so how did it come to be? |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by nikekenny(m): 2:57pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
mrs nri, i once used a phone with recording ability about 3 years ago, and I mistakenly recorded one of my girlfriend conversation stupidly on the phone, and my fiancee then got to hear it you know, is always difficult to know what to say, am confused i cant really lie cause she caught up with me. maybe is having an affair, and over did it you know, you should pet him maybe he will open up |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by almondjoy(f): 3:03pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Some people really have time! You need "moaning sounds" from your phone to tell you that your guy is cheating? Then you waste your time asking him. . .expecting to hear "it was the work of the devil"? he he he he Where you deeey since? I would have tailed his arse for a month to get solid proof without saying a word to him. Why play these stupid mind games is what I don't understand. Like I said. . . .some people really have time! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 3:17pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Have time, abi?? This thing only happened last night!!! So wetin i go do?? I'm not playing game's i deal with the issue at hand, i won't tail his arse for a month, i will sort it there and then. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Sisikill: 4:01pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
nikekenny: Lots of men cheat on their wives? Leave matters the way it is? Looking for trouble? You are joking right? Please, please tell me you are joking with this asinine piece of advice you are doling out. The guy is cheating on her but she’s the one looking for trouble. The guy is lying to her but she should leave it alone. And yeah, it’s so obvious he is doing his own part in keeping their relationship strong by cheating on her and she must do her part by turning a blind eye. . .right? Good God! Some Nigerian men never cease to leave me speechless. @ Poster If it talks like a duck… If it walks like a duck… Then your husband is cheating on you. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by uspry1(f): 4:15pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
@poster How long you have been married? Did you know your husband's past background before marriage? I mean does he have the habit of cheating on you many times before marriage, if yes, then you are stuck with your cheating husband for the rest of your life. I have no pity on you if you already knew that your husband is cheating in the past!! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:24pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
2 years, i have sometimes questioned his behaviour but have met a reasonable conclusion after investigation. Like everyone out there couples have their issues, but this has thrown me way off track! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
@poster sorry i dont put my mouth in watever that has got to do with husband and wife |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:32pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
I am just asking for opinions, people deal with things differently, i am not asking you to sort my issues out, it's just to see how other people would react to something like this. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by earthrealm(m): 4:33pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
lol the answer always lies in the past, or he is a first time offender, n the way the human psyche is, u will find it hard 2 trust ur hubby ever again!!, but u dont really hv rock solid evidence,,,,,,,,,, the voices u heard, r u sure his voice is among he cud hv been watching a movie or sumthing. mmeeeen there r a gazillion xplanations, dont jump the gun, try n get solid proof |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by somze(f): 4:36pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
What would you achieve by listening to opinions? Just an innocent question. The fire is in your house, not out here. Two things you can do - 1. Let the house burn the hell down 2. Quench it out. I suggest you take 2 and book a therapy session for the both of you. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:39pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Therapy, right!!! All i am saying is that if that was you, how do you think you would react? Gosh, it's not difficult to offer an opinion! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:40pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Earthrealm- That's what i'm trying to do, upon asking him he said he doesn't know. Surely you would know if you were watching tele or listening to music. I am not jumping the gun, i have not officially accused him, i just asked for an explanation. I hope that if cheating is the outcome he is a first time offender, but more than likely not. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
I am just asking for opinions, people deal with things differently, i am not asking you to sort my issues out, it's just to see how other people would react to something like this. some reactions my dear,might make u do the wrong thing |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by MrsNri(f): 4:43pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
I appreciate what you are saying at the same time whatever i decide to do will be down to me not anyone else. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by somze(f): 4:50pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
Mrs_Nri:Me is thinking the story is a tale, otherwise I dont see how you would be interested in reactionary opinions when just yesterday you suspected your husband of cheating. But in the spirit of playing along . . . I would re-look at the terms of the prenupt and have a meeting with my lawyer. I may just have an excuse to take all my money back and maybe some of hers . . . who knows |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by Sisikill: 5:32pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
somze: ROTFLMAO. . .Love it!!!! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 6:54pm On Apr 18, 2008 |
some people cant stand the "waiting to catch him" game especially when it comes to someone they really love, i wouldn't blame the poster, she probably couldn't stand the thought and thot to confront her hubby, why do ladies expect to hear the truth from men i dont know, I was chatting with a lady, she said one day, she forgot something at home and went to get it during lunch break, she met her hubby shaggin another woman inside the house, since that day, she doesn't go home unannounced whenever she forgets something or its impromptu, |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by almondjoy(f): 1:00am On Apr 19, 2008 |
I say put a detective on him or do the work yourself. Just make sure you have planned what you will do to him when you finally have proof! No need sitting down in one place and wondering. If you have doubts, try to find out the truth for your own peace of mind! I don't believe in playing "wait and see" with guys especially. . .boyfriends or husbands! |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 1:06am On Apr 19, 2008 |
na true o! what will you do when you eventually catch him ? I say give me the benefit of doubt, except if you really know he could have done such, best bet is let the matter be until you get a SUBSTANTIAL proof |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by RichyBlacK(m): 2:13am On Apr 19, 2008 |
Mrs_Nri: @Mrs_Nri, As a guy with extensive experience with relationship issues, I can tell you with 99% certainty that your husband is cheating on you. There are two broad types of cheating: 1. With random girls (unknown, booty-call, prostitutes, girl living next-door, daughter of mamaput around the corner, etc.) 2. With a particular woman (secretary, colleague at work, ex-girlfriend, etc.) Your husband is likely in category 2, cheating with a particular woman. Almondjoy's suggestion is very good. Get a private eye to tail him and report to you. Amass enough evidence and confront him with it. If he behaves like many Nigerian men that believe cheating is his God-given right, then consider all options. Try http://www.london-private-investigations.com/, they're "are based in Surrey and are conveniently placed for assignments in Central London, the Home Counties and Heathrow and Gatwick airports. " |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by chika98: 2:23am On Apr 19, 2008 |
He is cheating on you! I don't know if you want it spelled out in black and white before you understand what's going on. How your gonna deal with it however is up to you. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:25am On Apr 19, 2008 |
sayhi2ay: some people are blessed with peaceful personalities sha. She met her husband shagging another woman in their marital home, and therefore she doesnt go home unannounced anymore? Interesting. God forbid, the house will catch fire that day, if that kind of thing happened to some other women. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by sayhi2ay(m): 2:28am On Apr 19, 2008 |
see no evil, here no evil, |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by chika98: 2:30am On Apr 19, 2008 |
Tpia: Can you imagine? |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:33am On Apr 19, 2008 |
@ Mrs Nri Ok, so you recieve a missed call from your man, then knowing full well he never leaves you voicemail a voicemail comes through, curious you call your voicemail to listen, and to your surprise it sound's like shaggin, so you listen and you hear a grown and it sounds like your man, then a few ruffles of the phone and then it's cut. So you sit with your man and say 'babe i got this message it's strange, what do you think it is??' You play it to him and he say's that's people shaggin, so you say really i thought so too, the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message. You tell him that the message will not be deleted until he has a valid explanation. Pretending everything is ok, when you can't stop thinking about it, what do you do?? is there any way to find out his exact location at the time that voicemail got recorded. Quiet investigation of course. No need to play into someone's hands. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by tpia: 2:37am On Apr 19, 2008 |
chika98: Some women try oh. sayhi2ay: hopefully she wont see the evil of her husband and his girlfriends booting her out of the same house when the time is ripe. Or the evil of STD. |
Re: Evidence Of Cheating Or Not? by TheSly: 2:41am On Apr 19, 2008 |
God forbid, the house will catch fire that day, if that kind of thing happened to some other women the thing is it come from your phone, shocked he asks 'really?' so you return call and his phone ring's. Staying calm you try to search for an explanation and he does not have one and tells you to delete the message------------->Poster This is very fishy. . . . . . means he is cheating on you. . . . . Pls believe that. . |
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