Hello peepz, your candid advice please.
I met this girl few months after my youth service, and we became acquainted shortly after. Not more than one month since we started dating and she told me something very scary. We were together in my house and the following conversation ensued.
she: I have prayed for many people and they become successful.
Me: that's great.
She: and you know what, they usually come back asking me to marry them
Me: so why didn't you marry any of them
She: I didn't like any of them. I know who I am going to marry.
Me: how is that possible
She: I know because I have "seen" him even before we met physically. He was revealed to me.
Me: and who is this man
She: you. I have known you would husband even before we got to know each other.
At this point, I had some ill feelings and scary sensation.
She continued: I am a very spiritual person, and as a matter of fact, I am doing prayers for you. Just keep attending church service and weekly programmes as well, you will see a very big change in your life. The day I catch you with any other woman, I am gone. You have been ordained to marry me.
Now, being scared was an understatement. In my heart, I shouted - holy ghost fire.
The truth is I like this girl. She is nice, God fearing and obedient, but she is not really my kind of a woman when it comes to marrying. She is timid, a little bit naïve and a virgin as well (@ 25). I have been thinking about this whole thing or bullshit rather.

dnt b scare, pray for d battle is not urs, but of God. pray to God n he will guide

Most girls who are still virgins at 25 are always praying for marriage and once they see a guy who seems to like them small they start all this nonsence talk. Guy run away from that lady now before you get deep

Religious blackmail
God is not a confussionist, if He had revealed you to her, He wil also reveal her to you so tell her you will like to have your own vision

@ sweetpost...thumb up n @ op run as fast as ur legs can carry u

Op its either u like her or not. There's nothing like not liking a person enough to marry her. Men should not be afraid when women say some certain things cos its all talk. Your a man, you should be able to take charge and not let anyone use their spirituality to bully you into making certain decisions

firetrap: Op its either u like her or not. There's nothing like not liking a person enough to marry her. Men should not be afraid when women say some certain things cos its all talk. Your a man, you should be able to take charge and not let anyone use their spirituality to bully you into making certain decisions

Well said

this is funny and scary as well
but come to think of it "if she sees you with another woman"

at that point, i didn't see someone who say saw her husband
but someone who has made up her mind to manipulate you into marriage.

so i would say you keep some distance for now
because i don't think she would tell you abt the revelation at all if she had it
but will wait until it manifests to tell you about it

me no understand that kin revelation
and seriously God has NEVER being a confusionist

Darlene babe: @ sweetpost...thumb up

Thank you O jare

Thanks for your advice guyz. I am a bit confused abt this whole thing. I almost called off the relationship yesterday, but on a second thought I changed my mind and decided to wait and see what crops up next.

boborosky: Thanks for your advice guyz. I am a bit confused abt this whole thing. I almost called off the relationship yesterday, but on a second thought I changed my mind and decided to wait and see what crops up next.

Thats cool but keep a close eye on her and make sure you don't get manipulated into doing what you don't want to do. Goodluck!

sweet-tease:

Thats cool but keep a close eye on her and make sure you don't get manipulated into doing what you don't want to do. Goodluck!

Thanks dude

sweet-tease:
Religious blackmail
God is not a confussionist, if He had revealed you to her, He wil also reveal her to you so tell her you will like to have your own vision

how did u knw? Did He tell u dt?

SLIDE waxie: how did u knw? Did He tell u dt?

And dats my point, he didn't say he will reveal a life-partner to just one person to be involved in the union either. In all my days of going thru His word, i hav not known Him to be a confussionist. Jesus didn't just come out of the blue to claim he is the messiah, even his coming was prophesied, which means the other party(i.e the people he was coming to save) knew about it to prevent confussion and it was left for them to believe or not. They are also other instances in the bible like Samuel asking for a sign to convince the Isrealites, Gideon, Moses, etc so i know

She is gradually putting a robe around the neck of the OP and like a lamb to slaughter, the OP meekly follows.

This is classic

Hmmmm

sweet-tease:
Religious blackmail
God is not a confussionist, if He had revealed you to her, He wil also reveal her to you so tell her you will like to have your own vision

well said! @OP, Dis is weird... Until dat revelation comes to u too, I'll advice u flee

Don't let her scare you. Not sure why you yourself are still dating her when you know she's not the type of woman you would like to marry.

boborosky: Thanks for your advice guyz. I am a bit confused abt this whole thing. I almost called off the relationship yesterday, but on a second thought I changed my mind and decided to wait and see what crops up next.

You really are confused.

"when a woman is desperate for marriage, RUN RUN RUN"

but then op where U planning to get marrd soon? cuz i don't how God will bring U wife when U ain't ready

This is where the problem lies. God does speak to men but how many singles hear from God? That's the ONLY way to have personal conviction. I hope the OP has been hearing from God before now, else, you subscribe to a Pastor.

I think she has got familiar spirit, only them talk and boost like that. Mind you, they are good people but just don't hurt them. Go check yourself up dude.

Guy,ignorance can make you lose what you will never regain in your life,and in the course of being ignorance you can cut your life short. In a situation like this,you don't need to come on nairaland because it is a polluted forum. All you need is to be prayerful and listen to your inner man,he is a great campanion and best adviser I ever know,and if possible meet a father in the Lord for a godly advice.

D-Explorer:
This is where the problem lies. God does speak to men but how many singles hear from God? That's the ONLY way to have personal conviction. I hope the OP has been hearing from God before now, else, you subscribe to a Pastor.

I think she has got familiar spirit, only them talk and boost like that. Mind you, they are good people but just don't hurt them. Go check yourself up dude.

Ok dude

omiobo: Guy,ignorance can make you lose what you will never regain in your life,and in the course of being ignorance you can cut your life short. In a situation like this,you don't need to come on nairaland because it is a polluted forum. All you need is to be prayerful and listen to your inner man,he is a great campanion and best adviser I ever know,and if possible meet a father in the Lord for a godly advice.

Hmm. This is not an easy ride

Guy u must marry. she is a spiritualist o.

u dont blame her 4 her desperation she is a woman.it doesnt make her evil.weigh up ur emotions trwds her as a man.its simple.be Honest.

Pedagogue: This is rather lame.

It is evident that the Op does not wan2 marry her...so,why are u wasting the poor girl's time!

Many think the girl is desperate ..how is that so? The Op has probably been feeding the gal with lies 2 mak her believe the world starts and ends at her doorstep ! Since the gal is a virgin (and probably inexperienced in relationship matters) , she thinks d Op is her much awaited husband!!!

And why are ppl so quick to label d girl a confusionist ? I think , in actual fact, d gal mite have heard from God...and to earlier posters that said d Op must hear from God too? I beg to disagree also ! God does not relate anyhow with ppl...Do we know the Op's relationship with God? If the Op has not been 'hearing' from God b4 now, how can he hear from Him now?


Methinks its high time d Op stopped deceiving the gal...if u don't like her enough to marry her, kindly let her go!!! Believe me, d gal mite be your God ordained wife...but since u dnt love her enough, God in His infinite mercies can give her a replacement !
1 thing u should however not do is to marry her because you think she's your God ordained wife...ONLY MARRY ON D BASIS OF LOVE! What some people label as 'God's voice ' might be a powerful familiar spirit at work!

Cheers

noted sir.

Pedagogue: This is rather lame.

It is evident that the Op does not wan2 marry her...so,why are u wasting the poor girl's time!

Many think the girl is desperate ..how is that so? The Op has probably been feeding the gal with lies 2 mak her believe the world starts and ends at her doorstep ! Since the gal is a virgin (and probably inexperienced in relationship matters) , she thinks d Op is her much awaited husband!!!

And why are ppl so quick to label d girl a confusionist ? I think , in actual fact, d gal mite have heard from God...and to earlier posters that said d Op must hear from God too? I beg to disagree also ! God does not relate anyhow with ppl...Do we know the Op's relationship with God? If the Op has not been 'hearing' from God b4 now, how can he hear from Him now?


Methinks its high time d Op stopped deceiving the gal...if u don't like her enough to marry her, kindly let her go!!! Believe me, d gal mite be your God ordained wife...but since u dnt love her enough, God in His infinite mercies can give her a replacement !
1 thing u should however not do is to marry her because you think she's your God ordained wife...ONLY MARRY ON D BASIS OF LOVE! What some people label as 'God's voice ' might be a powerful familiar spirit at work!

Cheers

noted sir.

na TBJ church she dey go?

She get mind pass u......... She has decided to take her hubby by the horn, so play along or u quit.

@OP
let me say that you are a brave man, as i would have certainly been very scared of this obviously deranged lady......the only thing in my mind at that moment would have been:" how to get this crazy aasss psycho out of my house ASAP!"