DailyNews: Gymmaster, I would advice you to stay away from exchanging words with people u meet on nairaland and online generally, some of them might be your secretary or even your cleaners...or some teenagers, stay focused and avoid exchanging words with ppl online.

Just take d good suggestions and discard any u find ignorant.

Meanwhile, the lady that said sth abt a 30something year old lady here searching wasn't wrong, its true, I even commented on her thread, she is really determined to make a home of her own, which shows she is ready to settle, so search for her and dnt just be too optimistic o pls, just give it a try, who knows like d lady that told u abt it said.
...but pls put ur wisdom guard on while u do...zip ur pocket, throw away ur atm card, any lady that can't cope without them shud go to where Perdition!!!

Her name is happiness chima or sth like that, search her and PM her and see what's up...she is Igbo frm her name n I am guessing ur Igbo too...

Goodluck my man, dnt let this weigh u down, u have already finished ur battle in life- finance, so be thankful to God and make the right choice of wife, there are plenty of them out there, just go to the right places and avoid kids.

DailyNews: Gymmaster, I would advice you to stay away from exchanging words with people u meet on nairaland and online generally, some of them might be your secretary or even your cleaners...or some teenagers, stay focused and avoid exchanging words with ppl online.

Just take d good suggestions and discard any u find ignorant.

Meanwhile, the lady that said sth abt a 30something year old lady here searching wasn't wrong, its true, I even commented on her thread, she is really determined to make a home of her own, which shows she is ready to settle, so search for her and dnt just be too optimistic o pls, just give it a try, who knows like d lady that told u abt it said.
...but pls put ur wisdom guard on while u do...zip ur pocket, throw away ur atm card, any lady that can't cope without them shud go to where Perdition!!!

Her name is happiness chima or sth like that, search her and PM her and see what's up...she is Igbo frm her name n I am guessing ur Igbo too...

Goodluck my man, dnt let this weigh u down, u have already finished ur battle in life- finance, so be thankful to God and make the right choice of wife, there are plenty of them out there, just go to the right places and avoid kids.

gymmaster: why do some people just like posting whatever they like?

mondi_cheeks: are another unmarried 40year old who wasted many years chasing unimportant things instead of looking for the right person...wen those pple were still available

lola.luv:
@OP
Money cannot buy love. If you're hoping to purchase some, you're on a long thing. It is God that blesses with a good wife and there is NOTHING like having a woman that has your back. A woman that will pray for you always and love you truly and deeply.

I know a 36 year old man. After maltreating a chick who stood by him, he started jumping from one relationship to the other, but all he can get is money-hungry girls out to squeeze him dry.

He is now running from pillar to post, from one deliverance to another. No responsible girl in sight.
All the friends who were leading him astray are married and he is no longer welcome in their house.
My friend advised him to keep praying sha.


I will ask you to check yourself. Because when a man your age can't get a wife, something is truly amiss.

Women want a man of strength and integrity. A man with a good heart on the inside, polished on the outside. Else, they run away to better things.
Are you passionate about God? Are you well read?
Do you speak well, do you dress well? Are you cultured? Well mannered?

That is what will first attract a responsible female, and keep her around to know who you truly are.
Also, don't tell a woman 'marriage' immediately. It will make her think of you as damaged goods nobody wants, or you have an extremely bad character and you want a quick marriage before it manifests.

Rather, go on dates. Invite her for dinner. Be courteous, make her laugh. She will be the one who will start wondering, 'what does this nice gentleman want from me'? She might even ask you sef; Gymguy, who am I to you?

Meet her friends looking sharp and on point. Meet her family. Parents recognise responsible men most times and will ask the girl 'what is happening'. They might even ask you sef. And you'd have the chance to discuss with the girl about taking your people to see hers.

Let her see you as THE MAN and she will wish to be your lady.

NEVER ACT DESPERATE, DO NOT TELL HER YOU'RE GETTING TIRED OF BEING ALONE.

dmcdad:
My bruv the truth is obviously bitter. I don't have a problem with you not being married yet or something. My concern is as regards wife materials you said ain't available and I responded that, if at your age you have not seen a wife material, then something is obviously wrong with you.

Bruv, you have lived on this earth for 39years and you still haven't seen a wife material? I repeat, something is definitely wrong with you. Please do check yourself for you cant tell me there ain't wife materials that's why you have gotten to that age without being married with one. I guess its some other reason.

Bottom line is that, I dont know what your case is like but don't blame it on the women saying no wife materials available nymore.ok now i understand where you are coming from now,no hard feelings,you see i finished my degree a bot later than others,add the stress and time of finding my feet,time don waka,and frankly it is not as if i didnt have a steady girl years back but i was not ready economically wise then, did not really have anyone serious after then cause i was busy building up my business and my work takes 95% of my time,sometimes life is a bitch when i had nothing i had enough time on my hands but when the money stared rolling in time has become gold for me i dont know how to explain this that you will understand me.dont get me wrong i have had some ladies throw themselves at me even some who wouldnt have looked at me twice 10 years ago but guy what am looking for now is a wife,well maybe as someone said here my taste is too high but aint looking for much,just a woman who will love me for me,is that too much to ask?and i hate to marry an arranged wife as my parents tried that in the past but didnt work.

Thanks.

LesbianBoy:
Lol......in your post u first wrote 'money cant buy love' and in the same post wrote ''he should dress well, go on dates, invite her for dinner'' etc pls what will he use to achieve all this Its money ofcourse! So therefore MONEY BUYS LOVE period! Is like most of you think when we say 'money buys love' we mean a guy will just wake up one day and carry lots of money to a girl's house and tell her 'girl i want to buy ur love how much is it?' NO! Anyways @OP she has a nice advice though!

LesbianBoy:
Lol......in your post u first wrote 'money cant buy love' and in the same post wrote ''he should dress well, go on dates, invite her for dinner'' etc pls what will he use to achieve all this Its money ofcourse! So therefore MONEY BUYS LOVE period! Is like most of you think when we say 'money buys love' we mean a guy will just wake up one day and carry lots of money to a girl's house and tell her 'girl i want to buy ur love how much is it?' NO! Anyways @OP she has a nice advice though!

DailyNews: Lol, in fact, gymmaster, if I hear you complain of wife scarcity again eh, I will flog you thirty lashes come on, go out there, I wish I could...hahahahaha....get on your gear and act man, they are many out there, many wonderful, working class girls looking for love and hubby, go find em, and don't go looking for em in nyt clubs, eateries, internet, blah, blah, blah.

Go out, u know what I mean, how do I let u understand what to do o, jeez, go out man...the greatest problem a man has in life is money. Acquiring money is man's greatest problem and mystery, once a man has acquired that, come on, THE WORLD IS YOURS!!! Act wisely and u will get lots of wise ladies to chose from. Don't ever think anything is wrong with u cos u are ok.

And don't believe that there is a special super good lady who is very diff from others cos its a fallacy!!! All women are the same, but act differently to different men they meet.

Woman A may be bad to you, player to Mr. K and angel to Mr. Ibru, that's women for you.

All women got baggage, so learn to manage their baggage and trash, and people will think u got the best women. And don't love with all your heart as a man if u want to live long, love but with total wisdom.

And lastly, most Nigerian women turns good when they marry even more than we guys who turns bad once we marry. Find a girl with few past or no past, avoid WOUNDED LIONS!!! And if you must dare, be very careful, and don't forget my previous counsel: lock your wallet, throw away your atm, and if possible fix your bank account, if any lady can't cope, let her go where To perdition cos there are too many good and big fishes in the river...

With good dressing, good car, good apartment and going the right places and telling the right people about your single status, you will meet zillions of wonderful single ladies to the extent that u will be confused on who to settle with....honestly I hate to see guys, especially those with cash complaining of wife scarcity cos in this present Nigeria, guys with cash rock and they determine when and who to marry. No mind Dbanj, Mikel, etc saying no good girl, they are absolutely not ready to marry yet, so don't join them pls my guy...I wanna see u with that Kim K soon...lol

gymmaster: wow men i gat to give it to you,i think you should open an agency for rich guys like us,it islike you understand the situation very well,somethings tells me u have been in this shoes before?u know dailynews life can be a bitch at times,when i was struggling with nothing i had more than enough time on my hands to run around,but now if i get 8 hours sleep i am very lucky,my work is very demanding as it leaves little or no time for socailizing,though the dough is running in and all that but it is like choking my time,i pray any girl i marry will understand this,one of my friend who married last year,the wife is always complaining of little time spent with the husband,honestly what do women really want?my friend provides everything a woman could need but she is still complaining and being unfaithfull.i know i will have the best of both worlds one day,money and time on my hands for myself GOD help us,btw i tried sending you a pm but not going through,i am interested in that babe you were talking about

gymmaster: hello my good people,i am tired of being single!!!!i will be 39 years next year but still no woman to call mine,dont get me wrong i do get girls here and there but i need a real woman who is ready to settle down,all the girls i have been meeting just want a nice time with me and not really serious about settling down and some of the ladies i meet are not just wives material.i need me a serious woman of prefably 35 to 40,na that age group go serious,sick and tired of these small girls jare

Queenolly:

Ifyou are serious, lets talk. 2a801610. i am more tired of this lonely life than you.

dmcdad: ^^^ That's more like it...

dmcdad: ^^^ That's more like it...

gymmaster: a millon apologies for the late response,been so busy, sorry i dont use bb phones,a die hard fan of iphones,u can email on tundebayo@yahoo.com so we can take it from there,cheers

gymmaster: i hope so o thanks,i will give the house feedbacks,i go soon invite una to my marriage o

gymmaster: ok i think looking back i admit i had some faults of mine in my relatioships but all in all am not a bad guy,there was one girl i knew really loved them years ago but i was not ready econmoically if you understand what imean,today i am blessed but she is no longer availanle cause she is married ,GOD has been good and mercifull to me,my business has soared very high,but the ladies i meet recently seems only interested in what i have,i need me a woman who would love me for who i am .
i used to think with money you can buy love but the bitter truth is that you really cant,guys out there truth is nah when u no get nating ur true love comes along,never loose that real love

gymmaster: what is weird about my situation?

aanumama:
If you cant get a wife among all your small girls then you are not a husband material either!

gymmaster:
hello my good people,i am tired of being single!!!!i will be 39 years next year but still no woman to call mine,dont get me wrong i do get girls here and there but i need a real woman who is ready to settle down,all the girls i have been meeting just want a nice time with me and not really serious about settling down and some of the ladies i meet are not just wives material.i need me a serious woman of prefably 35 to 40,na that age group go serious,sick and tired of these small girls jare