Yomii: Now i know that your problem is complicated. Because your post just intentionally classified all African guys in a primitive ideological settings which is very wrong. Despite the fact that most men beat their wife does'nt make all men thesame gal. If you don't want to remain single forever, get a real man, forget culture and settle down; or else your story will be like Tales by Moonlight.

lovelydoll: Last night i was speaking with my aunt, she asked if i was single i told her "yes" and she said she would find a husband from Nigeria for me.The thing is i am not so open to the "nigerian/african mentality". I want to tell my aunt that if she is going to search for a guy for me he has to be born here in america or atleast grew up here for most of his life.I have already tried to date guys fresh from africa but they all just seemed to fall right into that Typical nigerian/african mentality. that i just do not like and can not cooperate with. I am not trying to be offensive or anything.

I want to know how to tell my aunt this,without sounding like am looking down at my african men ,(which am not).

i also don't mind if he was born in africa or has african parents,i just don't want the "african mentality" type of guy.Cause i know we will fight day and night and end up in a big divorce/breakup(past experience).

lovelydoll: Last night i was speaking with my aunt, she asked if i was single i told her "yes" and she said she would find a husband from Nigeria for me.The thing is i am not so open to the "nigerian/african mentality". I want to tell my aunt that if she is going to search for a guy for me he has to be born here in america or atleast grew up here for most of his life.I have already tried to date guys fresh from africa but they all just seemed to fall right into that Typical nigerian/african mentality. that i just do not like and can not cooperate with. I am not trying to be offensive or anything.

I want to know how to tell my aunt this,without sounding like am looking down at my african men ,(which am not).

i also don't mind if he was born in africa or has african parents,i just don't want the "african mentality" type of guy.Cause i know we will fight day and night and end up in a big divorce/breakup(past experience).

Mrs..Chima:
OP

I totally get ur point but u know what u want and focus on that....do not focus on ur past experience....law of attraction is tricky and dangrrous.

Good luck.

goldfish80: Op your English structure is quite incomprehensible.. Kudos to those who read and understood what youre talking about.

goldfish80: Op your English structure is quite incomprehensible.. Kudos to those who read and understood what youre talking about.

Atheist:-D:


So why haven't you been able to meet someone so far? Have you been looking long? America has a lot of eligible bachelors so take your time and enjoy yourself. If you dont want an African then dont go for one. Go for what you want.

specialguest: I dont see any 'aunt' in this story. op simply wants an African American for a husband. Where are the blue passport holders on Nairaland? I

Cold blooded: Simple! Just Call ur aunty and tell her say na play u dey play that time, that u r not "single" but "double".

I wonder how she never knew you were single,abi if u dey married won't ur pple know?

Just pick a basketballer from Lakers and get hitched. Wish u luck.

Yomii: Now i know that your problem is complicated. Because your post just intentionally classified all African guys in a primitive ideological settings which is very wrong. Despite the fact that most men beat their wife does'nt make all men thesame gal. If you don't want to remain single forever, get a real man, forget culture and settle down; or else your story will be like Tales by Moonlight.

Yomii: Now i know that your problem is complicated. Because your post just intentionally classified all African guys in a primitive ideological settings which is very wrong. Despite the fact that most men beat their wife does'nt make all men thesame gal. If you don't want to remain single forever, get a real man, forget culture and settle down; or else your story will be like Tales by Moonlight.

Mrs..Chima:
OP

I totally get ur point but u know what u want and focus on that....do not focus on ur past experience....law of attraction is tricky and dangrrous.

Good luck.

sexkillz: You need to read her post again, perhaps.

jeffizy: Since you've probably spent much time abroad, i expect that you will be in the best position to know where you can meet your kind of man.

Politely tell your Aunt that u won't want to appear desperate to any man.

Afam4eva:
No it doesn't. I understand her point. She's just like my sister. They both like a man who does not have that African mentality that puts the man up there and that same culture that says that the woman must be subject to the man's rule.

@OP
I like the fact that you know what you want in a man. That's the first step towards getting the man of your dreams.