smone is in love with you, u are in love with another person, who should you choose?
how do u know the difference between a crush and the real thing (love)

as far as am in love with the person am dating, da other party is talking of lust, u dere not date um1 u don't love cuz he loves u, lol

thanks, i will go for who i love now thnks

@fresheva. Wait for other people to give their reply before deciding. I believe you should keep both of them closer to you and shine your eyes very well to know which one of them is good for you. Its a two way thing but don't get into a relationship with both at the same time.

ok thanks i'll wait for more replies

,i dont really know for now

@fresheva. I also do believe your parents are the best person to ask about this. Trust me parent knows better. For example if i'm dating a girl i will make sure she is close to my mum, because i believe she knows better not that i haven't got a mind of my own. So ask your mum.

fresheva:

smone is in love with you, u are in love with another person, who should you choose?
how do u know the difference between a crush and the real thing (love)

In as much as i would love to say: i'll go for the one I love.

I beg to say no! I'll go for the one who LOVES me. Seriously, i'll choose the guy who LOVES ME! And not the guy I love.

If im sure the guy i love, loves me, okay then i'll choose him. But if i dont think the guy i love, loves me back the way i do him, then i'll just choose the guy who loves me.

WHy would i do that? Cos if a guy loves a girl soo much, it's an amazing feeling. It'll take just a while as a girl, to love him back.

Unlike a girl loving a guy who doesnt love her. She'll die of lovingmatiosis. That is , doing the loving without getting none.

Remember Celine Dion's song;

', can't say no when the Wrong one loves you right, '

yea i remeber that song thelma

'Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned'. . .

The one you love, does he love you back?

To quote Tuface (Tuphase, Tufaze?). . . 'It is gooood loving somebody, and that somebody loves you back'. . . .

Erm. . . did that make any sense?

@fresheva
If you are as elegant as the Chinese woman in your profile,

i think ill also be in love with you.

@ kimba


hmmm dont even add to my problems oh, anyway thnks too

the smart thing would be to go for the guy that loves u.

That way, if it turns out he was pretending, you can just dump him and go your way with no emotional wahala.

Unfortunately most girls dont do that- they would much rather go for the one they love, even if he hates them and treats them like dirty rags.

I never understood why, but there MUST be a good reason, which is why they keep doing it. Perhaps there is some emotional fulfilment that you get from loving someone, something that u dont get from someone u dont care about but who loves u dearly, perhaps.

Or perhaps the guy who loves u appears weak because he's so far gone, the guy that doesnt love u may appear stronger.

Also, if a girl has sex with a guy, he will usually act as though he loves her during, and shortly before/after the act, with all the huging, cuddling etc. *shrug*. i guess that may help a girl convince herself that she's loved. It may even be all she needs. *shrug* what do I know. its what u woman ppl do.


So, in summary- my advice would be go for the dude that loves u, but ure probably going to go for mr Badboy Playa anyway, and cry in private everytime he tells u to get lost and stop bothering his life.

fresheva:

smone is in love with you, u are in love with another person, who should you choose?
how do u know the difference between a crush and the real thing (love)

do not leave the one U love 4 the one U like
because the one U like will leave U for the one he loves! GEDDIT?

fresheva:

how do u know the difference between a crush and the real thing (love)

If U can't differentiate between love and crush as at now then im afraid U musnt get Urself involved with any guy now!

oi rhoda

shes not asking about one u love vs one u like

shes asking about one u love vs one that loves u

big difference there,

dakmanzero:

oi rhoda

shes not asking about one u love vs one u like

shes asking about one u love vs one that loves u

big difference there,

nope! looks to me as if she's very confused, if she cant differentiate between love and crush then what makes U think she loves this new guy?? 4 all U know, it's just a crush!which could be brought down to ''like''

well, actually, she's not asking anything cuz she doesnt seem to know what she wants!

note: the guy that's 'loved' is the same guy that is being 'crushed', and thus is the guy that is actually being 'liked' (according to ure defn)

as such, the question is now:

the one u like vs the one that loves u


still different from


the one u love vs the one u like.


she doesnt even like this other dude that is dying for her.

Me i pity the guy. he will have to suffer the pain of watching the other chap mess her up and dump her like a bad habit ,

dakmanzero:

note: the guy that's 'loved' is the same guy that is being 'crushed',

that aint love then, it a matter of ''my emotions are deceiving me''
thats why am saying she doesnt know what wants so therefore she must wait Until she knows the diff b/n love and crush

who told u i dont know the difference between crush and love, i only want more opinions on it.
i only asked for advice on it

lol, U vex?? please don't be