Yeah friends,
What's your take on this?
Is it proper for husband and wife to live in two separate rooms under same roof?
What possible circumstance can warrant that kind of lifestyle between married couples?

most do that once they realise that the marriage is finished but they still want to present a united front or want to both parent their kids but under normal circumstances it is not adviceable

Ȋ̝̊̅§ not å bad idea depending on the character of †ђξ couple. Some ‎​D̶̲̥̅̊Õ̳͡ it to cover their evil deeds while some ‎​D̶̲̥̅̊Õ̳͡ it because the want to be comfortable.

It not Proper.... There are some Conversations Better Said at Mid Night than Noon. The First thing they Would lack Is Communication which is most important in marriage. As old as ma parent are, they still lay their heads on the same bed. even if they had mis-understanding all day they are still gonna lay heads in that same room. i dont just like it.

I see nothing wrong with it though I wud want to share d same room with hubby wen I'm married.(At least b4 d kids come in)

My parent have their seperate rooms buh dat does not mean their marriage have failed (like d 1st poster posited) very far from dat! Infact u often see mum in dad's room gossipping happily

I really think its nothing! Wat matters most is d fact dat its working for them, so Op whatever rocks ur boat.

Mrs. Mango:

What possible circumstance can warrant that kind of lifestyle between married couples?

To answer dis, I fink d reason is cos there's enuf room for everyone and mum kinda has too much ngwongwo (property) so she had to move dos to d next room to create some space.

Seun, Ishilove, Mynd_44, Obinoscopy, Enterpro, Mukina2 what's your take on the matter?

nikkytruth:
Ȋ̝̊̅§ not å bad idea depending on the character of †ђξ couple. Some ‎​D̶̲̥̅̊Õ̳͡ it to cover their evil deeds while some ‎​D̶̲̥̅̊Õ̳͡ it because the want to be comfortable.

I belong to the latter group. I personally would love to have my own bedroom when I'm married. I love my own private space

I think this situation arises in the occasion of the arrival of a new born baby... Maybe the father will want to continue enjoying his sleep without the hassles of having to wake up in the midnight due to baby cries and such... So the baby and the mother will now move to another room, a temporal one for the mother though....

my mum and dad have always had separate rooms.
mums room was always accessible to us, but had little or no financial value
my dads room,..... well, mum secured it like a bullion van

It's usually cos of the wife's luggage. I can't have her filling my closet and displacing my stuff with bags and shoes that she won't wear. Secondly, it's for peace of mind. Not all men can endure small talk when they should be sleeping.

I noticed this trend among old folks. I don't think it represents a lack of love. I believe the practice is born from understanding.

I tink sharing d same room creates a kind of bonding. If its cos d woman has so much belongings, she can keep d ones she doesnt use frequently in a separate room and still share d same room wit her husband. So dats not an excuse.
Different rooms is a no no for me

It's not normal na, if 'Junior' wants to eat in the nko?

To me, there is nothing wrong sleeping in separate bedrooms as long as there is love between the two of you.

Many couples have their different reasons for doing so, but marriage is about compromise and cooperation. It's giving 100% to your partner all the time and vice versa.

The marriage bed is were physical intimacy is nurtured and that does not always mean sex! However that is also enhanced by sharing the same bed! There is a bonding, a sense of being there for one another that brings a warmth, closeness and security ...

Each couple is different though.

However separate rooms have walls between them and in most cases, gradually, emotional walls begin to grow and erect in the marriage. It says I need my space each night. it also sends mixed messages to the children.

Sleeping separately itself shows I need more distance for whatever reason...

Marriage is about sharing who you are. Yes, you are two individuals; marriage is about coming together. The Word says "The marriage bed is undefiled" not beds...

Ts not proper joor

Op, hell no is not proper. This is 21st century, who does that

I know of only one reason that will allow me sleep alone with my spouse in another room and that is if I snore so loudly and she can't sleep. Save that...my baby doesn't only sleep beside me but in my arms

I dnt really see anything bad in it.

There are times one will need space and privacy.

Nothing is wrong with it.

Having seperate rooms won't make me love and care for my wife less.

Having seperate rooms won't make me attend to my wife's needs body and soul less.

Having seperate rooms won't make me sleep with my wife on same bed any less.

Our luggages need space. Her choice/style of arrangement may differ from mine hence the seperate rooms.

That the rooms are seperate does not give exclusive right to the owner, in fact, identification of room owner is from the luggages and not the user.

[size=80pt]its not proper oo what if konji hook the man for night so e go come dey sneak from one room to another e no proper at al [/size]

making it easier for me to meet my maid

veegirl:
I tink sharing d same room creates a kind of bonding. If its cos d woman has so much belongings, she can keep d ones she doesnt use frequently in a separate room and still share d same room wit her husband. So dats not an excuse.
Different rooms is a no no for me

Pray that you don't marry a man that has the loudest horriblest snoring ever. Or one that has restless legs. You will be the one to ask for a separate room.



As 4 me, nah separate room sure pass, in fact sneaking in to get it in the middle of the night is a turn on sef.

Tallesty1:
Pray that you don't marry a man that has the loudest horriblest snoring ever. Or one that has restless legs. You will be the one to ask for a separate room.



As 4 me, nah separate room sure pass, in fact sneaking in to get it in the middle of the night is a turn on sef.

He shud snore na. Is it a disease?
U're only lookin for reasons to justify urself

veegirl:

He shud snore na. Is it a disease?
U're only lookin for reasons to justify urself

To justify myself for who or what? I hate sharing room with people let alone bed, I can't inconvenience myself to please somebody. Ahhh... Life is too long to live in pretence.

Tallesty1:
To justify myself for who or what? I hate sharing room with people let alone bed, I can't inconvenience myself to please somebody. Ahhh... Life is too long to live in pretence.

Who is askin u to share ur room wit people? I'm saying share a bed with ur WIFE!

Nah I don't think its a good idea except when both partners have a misunderstanding and they need to be alone.

veegirl:

Who is askin u to share ur room wit people? I'm saying share a bed with ur WIFE!

See as you dey shout.



And you still dey ask why I cannot share my room/bed with my wife

Tallesty1:
See as you dey shout.



And you still dey ask why I cannot share my room/bed with my wife

Lol. Who tell u say i dey shout? U hear my voice?

It's not always a case of love gone sore...It depends on the couple's wants...it cud be the hubby's idea or the wife's...
As an illustration A bro of mine who is allergic to cold tells me often that if his wife insists on having AC in the room, then unfailingly, she'll be havimg a separate room; if she cannot tolerate watching football matches (sometimes movies) @ night, or if she happens to be a nollywood fan, then she either goes to the living room or stick with another room.
Other reasons which I think causes this segregation varies from having a new baby(temporal ofcourse), either party's snoring prowess, becomin a kungfu master while sleeping etc...

It encourages poor communication and secrets. For me, I wanna share the same room with my wife till death do us part. I love her so much. Howeher, sometimes I may sleep off elsewhere.

Hmmmmmmm, I'm seriously learning!