pekelepekele: Go and pour acid on her nah . I think that is what is trending now among jealous women like you and end up in jail .

In case you women don't know this . Your children are what you should focus on in any relationship . We men na human being . [b]Always judge everyman with the way your own father treated your mother that way you will understand men better [/b]

steph7: No, separation is the worst move they can make now, they have a good relationship now, what is still holding them back is the communication, once that is gone with time they'll be good.as long as that woman is still in the picture they are bound to hit bumps

babyosisi:

Look at this eediot

I bet you think all the posters here come from a dysfunctional home like yours

Daresh: Abeg where can she get marriage counseling in this Naija because me sef I need it.

babyosisi:

So Tosh dey deep like this

pekelepekele: Go and pour acid on her nah . I think that is what is trending now among jealous women like you and end up in jail .

In case you women don't know this . Your children are what you should focus on in any relationship . We men na human being . Always judge everyman with the way your own father treated your mother that way you will understand men better

Sanboy25: [size=pt] First, you shouldn't have searched your husband's phone.
Then, it's a good thing that the woman is getting married.
If your man really wants to forget her, he should cut the ties once and for all if not, he'll always have lingering feelings for the woman. Both of you should go on a week-end, spend time together in order to build up once more a 'intimacy' between you two.
Don't lose faith, things are only getting better as the woman is married to another man.
Their story will end here (I think... )
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toshmann:
What women don't know is that inside the heart of EVERY man there is a spot for true love. It takes the right woman to bring it out and soften even the hardest Pharaoh.

Sanboy25: [b]First, you shouldn't have searched your husband's phone.
[/b]Then, it's a good thing that the woman is getting married.
If your man really wants to forget her, he should cut the ties once and for all if not, he'll always have lingering feelings for the woman. Both of you should go on a week-end, spend time together in order to build up once more a 'intimacy' between you two.
Don't lose faith, things are only getting better as the woman is married to another man.
Their story will end here (I think... )

coogar:

this is a myth!
there's no special woman anywhere....if both parties work together, love would grow. a man who's divorced 4 times would tell you he thought each of those women were special at first before things went belly-up.

DailyNews:



Lastly, don't think there is a better man out there cos 80 to 90% of married men in Nigeria cheat, the innocent ones are those that aren't yet caught. So don't feel Tina's husband is the best or more responsiblie, and don't go thinking- if I had married James, this wouldn't have happened cos like I said, it is sad though, and a bitter truth, majority of married men .

pekelepekele: Go and pour acid on her nah . I think that is what is trending now among jealous women like you and end up in jail .

In case you women don't know this . Your children are what you should focus on in any relationship . We men na human being . Always judge everyman with the way your own father treated your mother that way you will understand men better

pekelepekele:

Thank you but how many wives did your father marry . Yes 1 you will say . Second question either you are married or still staying with them , I am sure they never had any misunderstanding they were always as gentle as a dove . mtcheew eediot.

You galz should go and marry pope nah

coogar:

this is a myth!
there's no special woman anywhere....if both parties work together, love would grow. a man who's divorced 4 times would tell you he thought each of those women were special at first before things went belly-up.

babyosisi:

The woman has two kids
How easy is that
I think counseling should come first

baby_123:
Hmmm!
He's right you know. Most marry who they like and hope love grows. Others marry whoever is obtainable. But very few marry their soul mates. The above two are most likely to cheat, because when they finally find the one, the love they feel for the wife is not enough.

When you find the one and she feels the same, don't dull please. Fly away with her. Because you may end up looking for something like that for the rest of your life, and never find it. You wonder why some men get up and leave one day.

toshmann:
It's no myth, there's a special woman for Everyman. You will never know until you meet the one.

There's a girl somewhere that you are compatible with, could love and be trusted and vice versa. Just that most women and men miss that partner. It's myth. My fathers generation was the last to enjoy this privilege randomly. In my generation, it's just a few guys that get lucky with marriage and have relatively "easy" marriage. But it's no myth. I'm old enough to educate younger adults on this issue.

Even Hitler had that one and just before suicide he granted her her greatest wish.

angelhair:

I agree. I always believed he and I had that kind of relationship. You know he Denys loving her. He says he was calling her cos he just wanted to talk to her cos he felt he cldnt talk to me. He still has the connection with her which I feel should have ceased a long time ago. I called her yesterday and threatened her and she kept maintaining that she doesn't have anything to do with him again so I'm sure it's just from his side. I know we need counseling and resume our daily prayer. We need God now cos I'm getting weak.

coogar:

how's that even possible?
where's this soulmate? someone else's wife? come on - think about it. if i don't exist, you mean my supposed soulmate would never be happy until she meets me?
there are 1 billion women made for me and each of them is a potential soulmate.......



i am 100% certain what i have is super-sufficient for me. i agree men can sometimes make the wrong choice in marriage because of material wealth, shotgun marriage, travel documents, etc but that's different to what happened to the OP.

angelhair:

I agree. I always believed he and I had that kind of relationship. You know he Denys loving her. He says he was calling her cos he just wanted to talk to her cos he felt he cldnt talk to me. He still has the connection with her which I feel should have ceased a long time ago. I called her yesterday and threatened her and she kept maintaining that she doesn't have anything to do with him again so I'm sure it's just from his side. I know we need counseling and resume our daily prayer. We need God now cos I'm getting weak.

baby_123:
Keep making mouth dia! Even if you have 10kids, and the woman has 15. You will still vanish with her. Pray you never encounter such when you are settled and your life is going well. LOL! For some, love grows if they are genuine. For other's they just haven't met the right person yet. When they do, they will sacrifice all!

baby_123: If you are not ready for a divorce, don't go anywhere abeg. Separation might give them space sef to actually practice being together well. If you think it is still workable, do all you can. All those bonds can be broken, and it will include you bothe being committed to prayer and bonding together again.Be someone he can be happy to talk to and bear his mind to. No matter how painful. You want the marriage, he is tettering on the edge. Don't separate! And get off NL please. Also rally his siblings and mum and have them in your corner. That is very important. This is the time where you need his family and you all attack this issue as one.

babyosisi:

Why his siblings
What do u think his siblings and mom will say that they.didn't say when they begged her to forgive
If there is any family to be rallied it is her own family IMHO
Her family will talk to him sternly about his actions
His family will beg her to forgive his actions

baby_123:

What talk can her family actually give him that his own family can't do better? The guy is ready to go, if that girl is ready. Her own family can say what they like, but those he has a family bond will know the buttons to press with him. His kids has not made him have a rethink, her family would? Its not about begging him, it is about putting him in line. If her family caution him, he will feel ganged up against. If your brother was misbehaving, you will know how to talk to him to where he will think about his life. Not so?

angelhair:

You don't understand. Read my initial t well well. I said I thre him out of the house, we fought, he begged, his mum begged for him, I opened his nyash in the office, it was public disgrace. The matter cooled down for over a year now. He is "talking to her". Not sleeping with, just talking . But it is cos he loves her that he cannot let it go. She has moved on, married, kid, but he hasn't . The relationship was for 3 yrs and he is having a hard time forgetting her. @ DrMary, my hisband and I are very close. We do almost everything together. Go ti work, go to movies, spend the weekend away from the kids. Our close friends have no idea what is going on. I mean we spend plenty time together, the sex is good. I'm involved in his business, he's involved in mine we spend major time together. I guess when I'm not there he gets lonely and remembers his love and calls her. Its really sad.