From where I come from,its the woman's duty to take care of her husband nd home.does ur husband not take care of ur needs nd that of ur baby?I'm not saying its good to be dirty but this is were u come in as the wife.how can u even say he didn't wash his toilet nd bithroom for 3months?while he is out there struggling for money to take care of the home,u shld be taking care of the ones he can't do.nd as for the boxers,anytime u see him repeating his boxers,tell him(baby,ok ok its time to take the boxers off)nd make sure there are clean ones for him to wear,wash the dirty ones nd u will see him changing boxers every day.if u keep nagging him abt those things,he will be forced to get someone who will be doing those things without having to complian.what is there is u comb ur husbands hair if u feel he is unkept.call him(baby,dirty man)any time he messes up the toilet or the house but still clean it cos its ur duty,yes it is cos if u force him out of the marriage,u will be the one to cry later.goodluck.

Siena: ^^^ Sister Osisi, how're you doing? Kedu!

I dey o
How dem fine pikins and my beautiful sister

babyosisi:

And here I was praising you for giving a very sound advice earlier.Thank you, please kindly stay off this thread if you don't have anything reasonable to say again or betterstill go back and modify the advice you gave earlier and clean it off cos its obvious it didn't come from your mind. Human beings!

I will kill coogar today. I have not laughed this hard since hubby filled my pocket with small change. Abeg I am at the cinema waiting to watch "world war z", I don't wanna be thrown out .

coogar:

he wipes it with his trousers....not kleenex or babywipes. that should tell you the size the OP is dealing with here.

@osisi

Hapu'm aka bi ko.

babyosisi:

Why do you always act like you know it all? Honestly, you need to start acting mature for once. You don turn psychologist be that, eh kwanu?

jennykadry: I will kill coogar today. I have not laughed this hard since hubby filled my pocket with small change. Abeg I am at the cinema waiting to watch "world war z", I don't wanna be thrown out .



@osisi

Hapu'm aka bi ko.

Lol
Now I suspect this woman is just out to damage her man
Like someone I know who told us her bobo was carrying XXL and when they parted ways in a bitter divorce,she started spreading rumors that his Blokoss was like Aki and paw paw own
He smelled and had mouth odor
Nothing good in him anymore

We

Siena: @ Nicky: Much as I agree the OP should look after her man, there's a limit. Cleaning up after someone who refuses to change is one thing, it's quite another to lift him into the bath, and scrub him. And prevent him from wiping nasty stuff off himself with clothes he puts back on!

And how does she prevent him from spitting, unless she buys him a muzzle? He's a grown man, they have a child, and another on the way. The wife should be teaching the little one how to be clean and decent, and not have to do the same with an adult! C'mon!

he might be a grown man but still her baby.shld they break the vow they made or she shld kill or keep nagging his life out just b'cos he is dirty?if really she loves her man nd wants the marraige to work,those things are nothing.

He's a grown man, they have a child, and another on the way. The wife should be teaching the little one how to be clean and decent, and not have to do the same with an adult! C'mon!

OP tell us
How are you crawling from your clean bedroom every night to the pig sty to shout " alleluia" and almadudilah

The man must be doing something good
Don't enjoy his dirty blokoss then come online and demonize the Ijebu plantain that is sweeting you
The man obviously garrit going on somewhere
Ko easy ra ra o

From where I come from,its the woman's duty to take care of her husband nd home.does ur husband not take care of ur needs nd that of ur baby?I'm not saying its good to be dirty but this is were u come in as the wife.how can u even say he didn't wash his toilet nd bithroom for 3months?while he is out there struggling for money to take care of the home,u shld be taking care of the ones he can't do.nd as for the boxers,anytime u see him repeating his boxers,tell him(baby,ok ok its time to take the boxers off)nd make sure there are clean ones for him to wear,wash the dirty ones nd u will see him changing boxers every day.if u keep nagging him abt those things,he will be forced to get someone who will be doing those things without having to complian.what is there is u comb ur husbands hair if u feel he is unkept.call him(baby,dirty man)any time he messes up the toilet or the house but still clean it cos its ur duty,yes it is cos if u force him out of the marriage,u will be the one to cry later.goodluck.

The op neva said she wasnt working or makin money in any way, so in ur place the women sit at home 24/7 doing nothin but house chores n wait for dear hubby to com put another baby as them be the factory,mtcheeeeew. @op i can just advise u pray about it n talk to him lovingly let him see reason as to y u need him to be neat for the children's sake if he cant do it for himself, but first put it in God's hands as there's nothing God cannot do.

Eeya. Odikwa somehow. My first impulse is to empathise with the OP, but first, I have to be sure that she did not marry her husband for the wrong/superficial reasons (as many of these new generation mgbekes often do). If the latter is the case, then I am very very happy about her plight. Who price someting must pay, na wetin you see you must take.

To be honest though, this is one more reason I am scared of.marriage. I find it hard to 'manage' some unpalatable situations, especially living in the same physical space with someone that cramps.my style in a major way. I have had a.room mate twice in my life (back in my Year 1 and 2 in school), and the experiences (expecially the first one) are not what I like to relive. Dirty plates and piles of stinky underwear lying around make me nauseous, but what drives me to murderous rage is encountering nasty surprises when I raise the toilet cover. Mba nu, I no fit. I go take vex wound person. . . And in the case of a sexual partner, encountering any evil stench from the bra or pant (or from the body parts they cover) is a deal breaker. My Mr. Benson go shrink in protest immediately. No no no.

God forbids I find myself entangled with this sort of spouse in spite of the extensive due diligence I must do before marriage, I guess the ONLY manageable solution (other than outright divorce) would be to maintain separate rooms. Maybe that is what you should consider, OP.

babyosisi you can go to hell for all I care. Don't bother sending me to one cos am in one already looking for a way out to better things.

I have copied all suggestions (except that of babyosisi of course), pasted on Ms word. Will print it soon and work on them starting today.

I am glad I brought this issue to nairaland as I am much more relieved now and will have the discussion with him with light mind/no anger. Its is well in Jesus name.

Thanks to all who made reasonable contributions.

**nowloggingoutandlogginginwithmyrealpopularusername**. lol

babyosisi:

U [/b]
I am now on his side

Say pim again
The thread needs to be changed to ask what sort of woman marries a man that filthy

Let this woman be now..haba!
I don't think her intention is to demonize her husband at all. She chose not to answer your question and she told you nicely. Your reaction is uncalled for.

BabyOsisi,you are takin this too personal and too far.

Neither did she say she goes to work too mtcheeew.if can't do all those,what then is her duty as a wife?(Mrs I know my right)so if someone comes to their house nd as why their toilet is not washed,she will be bold enough to say,her husband doesn't want to wash it?u better give ur advice nd leave.uote author=esmeralda1]From where I come from,its the woman's duty to take care of her husband nd home.does ur husband not take care of ur needs nd that of ur baby?I'm not saying its good to be dirty but this is were u come in as the wife.how can u even say he didn't wash his toilet nd bithroom for 3months?while he is out there struggling for money to take care of the home,u shld be taking care of the ones he can't do.nd as for the boxers,anytime u see him repeating his boxers,tell him(baby,ok ok its time to take the boxers off)nd make sure there are clean ones for him to wear,wash the dirty ones nd u will see him changing boxers every day.if u keep nagging him abt those things,he will be forced to get someone who will be doing those things without having to complian.what is there is u comb ur husbands hair if u feel he is unkept.call him(baby,dirty man)any time he messes up the toilet or the house but still clean it cos its ur duty,yes it is cos if u force him out of the marriage,u will be the one to cry later.goodluck.

The op neva said she wasnt working or makin money in any way, so in ur place the women sit at home 24/7 doing nothin but house chores n wait for dear hubby to com put another baby as them be the factory,mtcheeeeew. @op i can just advise u pray about it n talk to him lovingly let him see reason as to y u need him to be neat for the children's sake if he cant do it for himself, but first put it in God's hands as there's nothing God cannot do.[/quote]

slimyem: Let this woman be now..haba!
I don't think her intention is to demonize her husband at all. She chose not to answer your question and she told you nicely. Your reaction is uncalled for.

Please help me tell her.

A babyosisi, just let her be, she brought a problem and has gotten a solution, so why d insult .
Because she chooses not to answer ur question .

She might have a reason to that, that should not warrant the insults na.haba!

@babyosisi,

You were formerly on her side and sympathetic to her plight. But just because she politely refused to respond to your very unnecessary question, you turn against her and attempting to score very cheap points.

What does that say about your character? Very unstable I must say!You just can't take a stand.

Did she tell you that she does not love her husband or wants to divorce him on account of his personal hygiene? Your ears are just itching for unnecessary gossip.

@Poster,

Thank God for your disposition in all of this. Very calm indeed!

LadyCCP: babyosisi you can go to hell for all I care. Don't bother sending me to one cos am in one already looking for a way out to better things.

I have copied all suggestions (except that of babyosisi of course), pasted on Ms word. Will print it soon and work on them starting today.

I am glad I brought this issue to nairaland as I am much more relieved now and will have the discussion with him with light mind/no anger. Its is well in Jesus name.

Thanks to all who made reasonable contributions.

**nowloggingoutandlogginginwithmyrealpopularusername**. lol

OP,are u ujujoan

uche13: @babyosisi,

You were formerly on her side and sympathetic to her plight. But just because she politely refused to respond to your very unnecessary question, you turn against her and attempting to score very cheap points.

What does that say about your character? Very unstable I must say!You just can't take a stand.

Did she tell you that she does not love her husband or wants to divorce him on account of his personal hygiene? Your ears are just itching for unnecessary gossip.

@Poster,

Thank God for your disposition in all of this. Very calm indeed!

Vikin:

OP,are u ujujoan

Don't tell me you are expecting an answer...

slimyem: Don't tell me you are expecting an answer...

Its an open question

Just for her

@babyosisi, please no offence intended, just want to be honest with you.......there is no any iota of maturity in what you just displayed here, your question was unnecessary and the op maturedly answered you and you took offence in that, do you yourself answer all ridiculous questions that are thrown at you

Y'all should leave osisi alone. What is it?

@Osisinwa
---making jabs at her husband's stuff already wasn't cool at all. You did not even give the thread days or months to dry off before making fun of her over it all. Babyosisi don't disappoint me Ojare. If we laugh at people and their problems, it is insensitive and can affect them in one way or the other. Let up dearie. Quit making Coogar laugh at the woman like crazy.

Coogar abeg relax for the woman o-o-o, jeez! If we laugh at people and their problems here you may end up not seeing threads to have fun with your lovely Gifs.

Ivynwa: @Osisinwa
---making jabs at her husband's stuff already wasn't cool at all. You did not even give the thread days or months to dry off before making fun of her over it all. Babyosisi don't disappoint me Ojare. If we laugh at people and their problems, it is insensitive and can affect them in one way or the other. Let up dearie. Quit making Coogar laugh at the woman like crazy.

Coogar abeg relax for the woman o-o-o, jeez! If we laugh at people and their problems here you may end up not seeing threads to have fun with your lovely Gifs.

i have relaxed for the woman.
my next excursion this summer is at her husband's house. seeing is believing.