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Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Monicasque(f): 12:15pm On Jun 24, 2013
Atheist:-D:


I dunno... It will lead to some serious problems on all sides. Better to keep quiet on this one.


and what if she contracts Aids and the friend blames herself that she could have prevented it
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Emmy9ite(m): 12:24pm On Jun 24, 2013
Tell her husband. Let him know you love their family and won't like to see it in pieces. That he should repent or...............
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Rocktation(f): 12:26pm On Jun 24, 2013
Tell!!
I would like to be told, if it were me. A crash doesn't always have to come as a consequence of cheating/telling on him, No. You could be very helpful in making her aware and move to nip some badness in the bud, before it explodes on them.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by andyanders: 12:41pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:
I have a question to ask you guys!

I saw a friend of mine's boyfriend of three years with another woman at Starbucks and he was hugging her ikebe!

My husband told me to stay out of it but I think my friend should know. I took a pix for proof and want to text her the pix

Here is the thing..she is pregnant and hasn't told him yet. I don't want the child to grow up in broken home but AIDS is real

I think she should know to protext herself. I am stuck!

Tell or don't tell?

Note that the lady will eventually tell her man that you told her. If you are ready to own up that you told her, open up to her. If you feel you want to just say and get out of it, when they reconcile, you will be the one that will bear the brunt.

Note that no permanent friend or enemy because one day, you may or might end up having misunderstanding with your friend and she will open up that you pushed her to do whatever action she must have taken after you opened up to her.

If you also want to play safe, why not first call the guy and ask him why and what he was doing if your friend is aware of his present action? If he must stop because your friend might get hurt if she discovers that her man is sleeping around. Tell him to stop and if he doesn't stop that you will open up to your friend and to tell her to tell him,you told her.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 2:57pm On Jun 24, 2013
Telling doesn't necesarily mean she should leave the relationshp. The fault may be frm her,and she will make amends with the knowledge u passd to her.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by AtheistD(m): 2:59pm On Jun 24, 2013
chidyhels: Telling doesn't necesarily mean she should leave the relationshp. The fault may be frm her,and she will make amends with the knowledge u passd to her.

But her man will always hate mrs chima. Mrs chima should be prepared to lose a friend if she talks. Mrs chima should listen to mr chima... he is a wise man grin
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 3:03pm On Jun 24, 2013
Atheist:-D:


But her man will always hate mrs chima. Mrs chima should be prepared to lose a friend if she talks. Mrs chima should listen to mr chima... he is a wise man grin
And what is mrs chima going to gain frm his liking her and hurting her frnd?

Come! Atheist,dnt quote me again!
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 3:10pm On Jun 24, 2013
Thanks all! This is a very serious topic at hand that can alter lives forever. If you do not believe something as a man cheating on his woman...so be it. Move along to the next thread that cares.

The only reason I am debating is because this girl is pregnant and for those who have been pregnant before know that emotions are higher and I do not want her to stress or act a fool.

I can't describe what I saw that lead me to believe the man is cheating. It was more than hugging the booty however I am trying to keep this thread hidden free. It doesn't look good!

I will convince her to go to this workshop that talks about cheating and how it is important to get tested every six months even if you are married or committed.

Hopefully she would catch on without telling her directly but I am not ruling out not telling jusr yet. Got to be careful and I want to go on a trip....gotta kiss Chima toes for now!
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Princesszoe: 3:13pm On Jun 24, 2013
Monicasque: some truths need to be told and some don't need to be told. If you care about her i suggest you tell her. If she reacts bad or thinks you are jealous or trying to break them up, just inform her that you just wanted to know and its upto her what she does but she must not regret her decision. Make her understand that you just wanted her out of the dark and its up to her whether she blvs u or not
This lady i respect you a lot for your wisdom. I concur with your suggestion.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by ikekings(m): 5:35pm On Jun 24, 2013
RedBenson: Mrs. Chima again? I doubt this story! Just tell us u are fuccking ur friend's boyfriend
Lmao!!! grin grin grin
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 5:36pm On Jun 24, 2013
ikekings: Lmao!!! grin grin grin

May thunder fire strike you!
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by ikekings(m): 5:46pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:


May thunder fire strike you!
Lol.. Sorry, I had to laugh.. The comment was funny.. grin grin grin
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Mynd44: 6:03pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:


May thunder fire strike you!
It is "may thunder fire you" no need for the "strike" tongue
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 6:37pm On Jun 24, 2013
ikekings: Lol.. Sorry, I had to laugh.. The comment was funny.. grin grin grin

Igbo men laugh at anything
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 6:38pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mynd_44:
It is "may thunder fire you" no need for the "strike" tongue

Go strike something.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Enegod(m): 6:39pm On Jun 24, 2013
RedBenson: Mrs. Chima again? I doubt this story! Just tell us u are fuccking ur friend's boyfriend
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Mynd44: 6:40pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:


Go strike something.
Your ynash perhaps? tongue
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 6:40pm On Jun 24, 2013
Enegod:

Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by ikekings(m): 6:54pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:


Igbo men laugh at anything
Lmao... **Falls from bed** grin grin grin... Do u find it irritating?
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Jun 24, 2013
Anonymously send it to her. Create an email address and send the pics to her from there.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by AtheistD(m): 9:23pm On Jun 24, 2013
Monicasque:


and what if she contracts Aids and the friend blames herself that she could have prevented it

A strong point. A consideration that might swing it in the direction of telling on him.

What if he denies it? He can just deny it even with pics and vids and even claim she was a friend of Mrs Chima setting him up. shocked
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Connoisseur(m): 9:24pm On Jun 24, 2013
2buff: Anonymously send it to her. Create an email address and send the pics to her from there.

and what would she achieve from that.
@op I thunk you should talk to the guy. Remind him(cos he already knows) how his actions will jeopardize the relationship with your friend.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Mynd44: 9:25pm On Jun 24, 2013
Atheist:-D:


A strong point. A consideration that might swing it in the direction of telling on him.

What if he denies it? He can just deny it even with pics and vids and even claim she was a friend of Mrs Chima setting him up. shocked
But she will know she tried to warn her
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by AtheistD(m): 9:28pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mynd_44:
But she will know she tried to warn her

She might not buy it. She might but may turn on poor Mrs Chima after all her hard efforts cry

Some people can be weak.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Mynd44: 9:31pm On Jun 24, 2013
Atheist:-D:


She might not buy it. She might but may turn on poor Mrs Chima after all her hard efforts cry

Some people can be weak.
but she will have cleared her conscience
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by dBard: 10:06pm On Jun 24, 2013
Mrs.Chima:
I have a question to ask you guys!

I saw a friend of mine's boyfriend of three years with another woman at Starbucks and he was hugging her ikebe!

My husband told me to stay out of it but I think my friend should know. I took a pix for proof and want to text her the pix

Here is the thing..she is pregnant and hasn't told him yet. I don't want the child to grow up in broken home but AIDS is real

I think she should know to protext herself. I am stuck!

Tell or don't tell?

Abeg, how does someone hug ikebe??
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 11:15pm On Jun 24, 2013
ikekings: Lmao... **Falls from bed** grin grin grin... Do u find it irritating?

I sure do! Chima always laughing at the wrong things.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 5:16am On Jun 25, 2013
Atheist:-D:


So now it is his fault? He isnt the one cheating... undecided

The truth of the matter is that he is right. Anyway you cut the cake it will have Mrs Chima taking the flakk. She will destroy a marriage/relationship and leave the woman a single mother. If it is somehow resolved amicably Mrs Chima will be blamed and frozen out as the dude will not like her. If it was her sister then maybe she has a duty. As a friend it might be wiser to stay out of it... for now grin
the path she will take after that is her own thing, but a real friend will always look out after another. If she is idiotic enough to blame her man's actions on her female friend who is simply showing her more loyalty than her own man, then that's her own wahala
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by AwesomeDaniel(m): 12:14pm On Jun 25, 2013
@op pls don't tell. Single mothermood no be beans. Although I don't condone cheating. #Real men don't cheat. cool

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Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by MrsChima(f): 9:29pm On Jul 03, 2013
Update!

Thanks to 2buffie...I created a bogus email address and sent the photo attached. I wrote that the lady in the picture is dating your man and to check if he used credit cards on such such date and place to verify the place in the picture.

I also explained that her email address is public on facebook and thought she should know.

My friend called me before I sent her the picture that her man is gojng on a business trip for the 4th July hokiday weekend and won't return until Monday. The fool work in shipping/receiving as inventory clerk! What company send their clerks on business trips
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 9:35pm On Jul 03, 2013
May she open her eyes.
Re: Tell Or Don't Tell? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jul 03, 2013
The idea that men always cheats is by virtue of all stupidity becoming a law for people. For all wrong reasons, women as a result of insecurity have established some extreme theories that is scientifically wrong and negative. The pregnant lady in question how sure are you the baby she bears is not untransparently from another man?

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