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Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Tgirl4real(f): 5:13pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: @Ihedinobi, God bless your testimony. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by bellong: 5:13pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: AMEN AMEN and YOURS too |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by bellong: 5:14pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Tgirl4real: Amen |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 5:16pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Tgirl4real: No be soooooo... actually i appreciate your stance but is it not a greater sin to despise your partner, silently wishing for his or her death so you can be free, not being loving etc... bellongs last post about the wombless lady.... see there was FULL DISCOLSURE before hand The funny thing is that this guy may have met another woman who cant have kids or has had but dont want more And he will be free.. now his manhood and ego will be bruised forever |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by EfemenaXY: 5:17pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: @Ihedinobi, Way to go Oga Bellong! Now this is exactly what I'm talking about: A real life example which anyone, including non-Christians can relate with. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 5:17pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: Thanks sir.. frankly your faith is inspiring.. if your own is a mustard seed im sure my own will be like atom ant |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by kindway: 5:18pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: ^^^kind.way on point!! ^^^^^ Thanks, I have been off NL for sometime because of some people that derive pleasure in attacking posts (sometimes it gets to me) but seeing this Ops position, I decided to log in again and put my own 1 Bututs (kobo). I have been through (may be still going through) emotional fraud so I can relate with the Ops and Nobody should go through this in life especially in marriage (life long relationship). |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 5:22pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
kind.way: dont mind the badt pipu... This section is a place to learn really.. see different sides to an issue and apply to your own life or people around you It is well with you marriage is life long really and if there is no outlet, some people may just use poison to end their |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by bellong: 5:25pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: It shouldn't be bigger than mustard seed else it will overwork.... .. Its a joke oo It is our right as believer and God will not deny us if and when we come to Him sincerely |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 5:27pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
True.. It is well bellong: |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Tgirl4real(f): 5:31pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: Yea.. I know God will not kill her for it, but there is a more excellent way. That is my position. Sincerely, it all boils down to what she can handle, we can only encourage her. No be soooooo... actually i appreciate your stance but is it not a greater sin to despise your partner, silently wishing for his or her death so you can be free, not being loving etc... Lol. This is terrible. One is tempted to do this when you find yourself stuck in a loveless union. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Tgirl4real(f): 5:32pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: Ha! I beg o... |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 6:06pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Only this woman knows what she wants out of this situation. I advise you log off nairaland if not, people's posts will confuse you and cause you to make decisions that might not favour you. This is a very touchy matter and I suggest you leave this site and go do some serious decision-making-thinking. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by baby124: 6:13pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: @Ihedinobi, Bellong is a male? See me see wahala. I thought Bellong was a female. LOL. Abi husband and wife dey use one name ni. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by bellong: 6:14pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
baby_123: Bellong is a Male Man ooo.. 1 Like |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
kind.way: You need to read what I have written. As for Jacob, did you read that he divorced Leah? Or is that not the point? |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 6:38pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Tgirl4real: May God help us |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by bukatyne(f): 8:29pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: @Ihedinobi, God bless you |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 9:23pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee:Non-parallel? Like the one you just gave? Was his infertility self-inflicted as Rebecca's would have been if she had committed countless abortions? Can I ask what you mean by thisThought it was kinda obvious. What do you suppose I mean? - what kind of lie do you think attack's God;s foundationThe kind that makes producing a godly seed impossible. - Do you the omission of this truth invalidates this union (the lie in the Op's case)Please rephrase. I don't understand the above. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 9:27pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Well my point was the concealment So to you a false foundation will be one where a godly seed cannot be produced Is that the same case here...my q |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 9:41pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Tgirl4real: @ Ihedinobi, Same thing I've been saying. Divorce is allowed only under two conditions: adultery and a case where the unbelieving partner wants out. And only in the latter is remarriage allowed to another partner. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by biolabee(m): 9:46pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Hmmm not sure paul meant this He did not allow for divorce in unequal yoked marriages |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: I could not possibly make my stance any clearer than I already have, could I? It's up to you to read it and fault it. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:26pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:Lol. I'm not being real? As long as you are/were married in Naija, to a Naija spouse, living in Naija, with Naija relatives and inlaws surrounding, and you living, eating, breathing Naija air, the number one, sole purpose of getting married is pro-creation!Untrue. It may be a person's reason for getting married or a people's reason for upholding marriage, but it can never be construed as the reason that marriage in itself exists. As a woman in that environment, your status as a married woman is not sealed until you pop out those kids, and your home is filled with the pitta-patter sounds of tiny feet! Forget all that clap-trap of companionship, etc. All that comes AFTER kids and holds sway AFTER the kids have entered the picture.Doesn't detract from my point at all. @OP knows this, and is well grounded on that. Besides, she's said it time and time again that she wants her own biological kids...little mirror images of her that bear her features, characteristics, and so on.So she does. And, as I already said, I don't begrudge her her desire. It's simple really. Whatever she might want to get out of marriage, marriage has a purpose independent of her. As long as that purpose can be served by her marriage, she cannot rightly break it as as a Christian. Of course, she can go get her divorce. She's free to. Nobody is forced to obey God, are they? 1 Like |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:Lol. I'm not being real? As long as you are/were married in Naija, to a Naija spouse, living in Naija, with Naija relatives and inlaws surrounding, and you living, eating, breathing Naija air, the number one, sole purpose of getting married is pro-creation!Untrue. It may be a person's reason for getting married or a people's reason for upholding marriage, but it can never be construed as the reason that marriage in itself exists. As a woman in that environment, your status as a married woman is not sealed until you pop out those kids, and your home is filled with the pitta-patter sounds of tiny feet! Forget all that clap-trap of companionship, etc. All that comes AFTER kids and holds sway AFTER the kids have entered the picture.Doesn't detract from my point at all. @OP knows this, and is well grounded on that. Besides, she's said it time and time again that she wants her own biological kids...little mirror images of her that bear her features, characteristics, and so on.So she does. And, as I already said, I don't begrudge her her desire. It's simple really. Whatever she might want to get out of marriage, marriage has a purpose independent of her. As long as that purpose can be served by her marriage, she cannot rightly break it as as a Christian. Of course, she can go get her divorce. She's free to. Nobody is forced to obey God, are they? |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong:I completely agree. Do you think that this man has not repented and turned from his ungodly attitude? Do you suppose that he has remained in sin? Your argument is counter-productive. Why would a christian deceive a fellow christian into making a decision that affects destiny?Lol. Is it now? Did you not mean what you said above that Christians still fail and make mistakes sometimes? You think he's not a Christian because he neglected to tell his fellow Christian that he couldn't father a child before marrying her? Lol. And we're still assuming that he knew his condition without a doubt, are we not? Why didn't he tell her after the wedding about his condition? Why did he not act when his siblings were tormenting her because of childlessness? Why didn't he lay a solid and truthful foundation for a new home?The point of these questions is...? What foundation was destroyed? God who instituted marriage also commanded that we should multiply.You sure took your time to pull this out. Been waiting for it for ages. Sure He did command that we do. But is that command necessarily limited to child-bearing? When there is disharmony, the foundation and fabric of companionship is already broken.I'm curious as to how this is so. After all, there is continued disharmony between even the best Christians and God but we continue to claim companionship with Him, don't we? I cannot answer if he realized whether its a make or break but if it is not, why would his family torment the poor lady?Didn't ask anything about your blaming him. If you cannot answer it, make no assumptions about it. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:52pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
ayans4u: I know you're hurting and all, that's why I'm mild but the above is actually nonsense. You're asking for preferential treatment if the situation were reversed. Makes no sense whatsoever. 1 Like |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
Chei!una still de argue? |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 11:05pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: @Ihedinobi, I think it's fair to say that the last paragraph which I bolded is the point you were trying to make. The funny thing is that you have done nothing but appeal to your own personal sentiments. That is useless in argument. That you would have done or woupd not have done or that you did or did not do means exactly nothing. Simply put, this guy did not tell his intended wife that he was infertile, possibly because he was afraid of losing her, but we are not 100% sure that he even knew. He may have suspected, he may have wondered, he may have feared, he may even have known without a shade of doubt but we do not know. What we know is that he didn't tell her. They got married. That's it. She, not knowing he couldn't give her kids, he, perhaps hoping for a miracle that would enable him to keep her. Whatever we might say or feel, the crux of the matter is that they have married. If she wants out it cannot be in consonance with Christ or the Scriptures. That is all. Is God's Purpose for marriage there frustrated? Can you tell for sure? If it is not, by what authority are you declaring the contract invalid? |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 11:07pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
bellong: I have seen where a lady had her womb removed during abortion. When she became born again, she decided not to marry so as not to put burden on anyone. Lol. What is your point? The guy lied, is the situation irredeemable because he did? |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Jul 08, 2013 |
biolabee: You are asking me if that is the same case here? Shouldn't you be telling me if that is the same case here? biolabee: Lol. Please open your Bible, my friend. The passage is 1Corinthians 7:15. |
Re: Your Sincere Opinion To A Sister Please!- Do you think I can get married again? by Ivynwa(f): 2:32am On Jul 09, 2013 |
Poster there is great power in staying positive over situations. You stay positive and you see things turning out positive positive. Don't be using such words like "he is shooting blank" etc. Encourage and support him for him to go for more tests, seek more medical help. |
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