If there is one bit of
unchallenged information I have
about true love and infatuation,
is that any relationship based on
selfishness is bound to be
infatuation. It's sometimes
difficult to distinguish between
true love and infatuation since
people now fall in love easily and
almost everyone claims to be the
rightful match.
Can he tell me about himself?
A person can't just tell you "this
is what i am. Now you know
everything about me" No, it
takes time and patience to know
someone you’re truly in love
with. True love never hurts by
time. The best way to test your
relationship or feelings for
someone is to let some time to
pass. True love doesn’t happen
overnight nor is the person who
would make a good marriage
mate necessarily be someone
you find overwhelmingly
attractive.
In my book How to make
someone fall in love with you
, I explained how true love starts
from grass making its way to
grace through intimacy, care,
love and concern for the other
partner.
So, how can you know if it’s true
love? This is what I will be
talking today in this article, how
to distinguish between real love
and infatuation.
How to identify Infatuation
If you turn around, you will find
many youths who are married
under the illusion of being in
true love later to discover that
they were infatuated.
Infatuation is another kind of
love but in this case a counterfeit
one. It is a premature way of
expressing love. Some
psychologists even defined it as
the opposite nature of love.
You can know infatuation people
just by their flattery words.
Infatuation person always have
the tendency to say "I really feel
important when am around him,
I can't do without you, I can't
believe how fantastic this is, he/
she really makes me feel good."
Notice how many times his/her
"I" or "me" is used? Infatuation is
blind and likes staying that way.
It doesn’t like facing reality else,
it will vanish. But above all, what
is true love or real love?
True love versus infatuation
If you’re doubting someone’s
love for you, then most probably
you are confusing between this
aspect of love and infatuation. In
order to make the right
judgment, we have to look at it
from all angles. The first way
we’re going to approach this
issue is by examining his/her
behavior in the form of
questions:
Is your partner unselfishly
caring about the interest of
others or not? The effect on you
is that it makes you a better
person or not? Romance starts
slowly taking months/years or
not? You’re attracted to the
person's total personality or not?
He/she views you realistically or
not? You both equally give and
share or not?
If you’re finished answering the
above, ask yourself the
following: Is he/she eager for
the success of your plans or not?
Does he/she show concern for
your viewpoints or not? Has he/
she pressured you to do
something meaningful or not?
Does this person turn to build
you up in front of others in your
absence or not?
Each of us have our different
answers to these questions
depending on the different
partners we have. In your
situation, you’re the only one
who can tell about your partner
and yourself. But in general, I
want you to know that if you
spot out most of your answers
to be 'yes' then the probability
that the relationship is legitimate
is very high. So the higher the
yes you have, the greater the
possibility of legitimacy right?
Source: http://xknowhow.com

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