PLEASE ADVICE A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A guy has this Lady, according to him, the girl is everything a responsible man can ask of; A graduate with good grade(very intelligent), Very beautiful, Homely( a good cook, neat and very observant(in Igbo, my mother will say, anya ruru ya ala)), Very humble and caring, not withstanding her beauty, hardworking, romantic, above all she can sacrifice her happiness and confront for her love ones, just to ensure peace, and to the best of his knowledge this lady has been 90% if not 95% honest in their 3yrs old relationship. But this guy got confused on 15th of may, 2013 to be precise, when he proposed to this wonderful lady and the lady accepted his proposal. However, the lady told him that she has 10yrs old son at home shocked.

His confusion now is, how could this lady be that honest and at the same time hide that from him, even when he asked her at the early stage of their relationship, she denied it.

undecidedHe is seeking advice, Should he take back his engagement ring grin or should he continue with the relationship?

xyjoe: PLEASE ADVICE A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A guy has this Lady, according to him, the girl is everything a responsible man can ask of; A graduate with good grade(very intelligent), Very beautiful, Homely( a good cook, neat and very observant(in Igbo, my mother will say, anya ruru ya ala)), Very humble and caring, not withstanding her beauty, hardworking, romantic, above all she can sacrifice her happiness and confront for her love ones, just to ensure peace, and to the best of his knowledge this lady has been 90% if not 95% honest in their 3yrs old relationship. But this guy got confused on 15th of may, 2013 to be precise, when he proposed to this wonderful lady and the lady accepted his proposal. However, the lady told him that she has 10yrs old son at home shocked.

His confusion now is, how could this lady be that honest and at the same time hide that from him, even when he asked her at the early stage of their relationship, she denied it.

undecidedHe is seeking advice, Should he take back his engagement ring grin or should he continue with the relationship?

Take back engagement ring for what na?

omo see gobe!! if he loves her enough it shld nt bother him dat much

nobody likes a liar.
It up 2 him 2 decide..if he still love her and rily wana be with her,he can cntinue with d gal....


But wait o,wat happend to d father of d lady's child?.

What does the OP want us to do? Tell him to dump her or what?

So she was suppose to tell every Tom, ddickk and harry that she had 10 year old son.

She told you when she thought it was necessary, if you can't deal with it, let her go, just give me her number before you do.

If she really possess all those qualities stated then he shouldn't hesitate accepting her. What if she didn't disclose it to him at all, I think she's only trying to be honest by telling him.

d light: If she really possess all those qualities stated then he shouldn't hesitate accepting her.What if she didn't disclose it to him at all, I think she's only trying to be honest by telling him.

I wonder o.

k2039: So she was suppose to tell every Tom, dickk and harry that she had 10 year old son.

She told you when she thought it was necessary, if you can't deal with it, let her go,

The end

Op are you sure it's not yur story you told up there? Well, the answer is simple. If he loves her enough, he should go ahead, (though it's not that easy) but if he cannot cope, there's no point trying to 'manage'.

if ur frnd dnt want d gurl,pls PM her num.
wch is better,woman wey don abort everything tire or the woman who gave birth to the child and learnt from her mistakes?

I think she waited to d point of convinction before telling him. Marry her if u love her. Many woman would have aborted or dumped d child @ d dustbin, suckaway or abandoned d child @ d motherless home. She is a virtous n honest woman.

Λ liar ιѕ always Λ liar

Buh if that's the only lie she's guilty of (as far as the relationship ιѕ concerned) then BOSS tell that your friend τ̲̅ȍ bone Oo Λn∂ carry on (not minding the magnitude of the lie)

How i wish!

k2039: So she was suppose to tell every Tom, ddickk and harry that she had 10 year old son.

She told you when she thought it was necessary, if you can't deal with it, let her go, just give me her number before you do.

Are u serious? Bloody hypocrite

iyobs7:

Are u serious? Bloody hypocrite

Why take it personal?

Mynd_44:
Why take it personal?

So easy for him to say, the brother doesnt even know what the groom to be is passing through right now
Even in our common bf and gf relationship that we know aint heading anywhere can hurt at times though we
know it will crash but this is quiet different, how could she be so discreet not to have told him about her child

I tink d 1st questn is 'is it rili easy 4 her 2 say dat to u'
She has bin battlin wif weda 2 tell u or nt..so d courage 2 even tell u..u shud salute her 4 dat..she trusted u 4 fact dat she wants u involved in her whole life..so 'op'...jes tok 2 her nd ask her y she didn't tell u all dz days.hear her side of d story nd den decyd..its ur call.

if he truly loves her,he should marry her. she just waited to be sure that the guy is real before confessing to him and i dont see anything wrong with that.........

Odunharry: nobody likes a liar.
It up 2 him 2 decide..if he still love her and rily wana be with her,he can cntinue with d gal....


But wait o,wat happend to d father of d lady's child?.

modextus: Λ liar ιѕ always Λ liar

Buh if that's the only lie she's guilty of (as far as the relationship ιѕ concerned) then BOSS tell that your friend τ̲̅ȍ bone Oo Λn∂ carry on (not minding the magnitude of the lie)

How i wish!

You must be a learner, where did she lie?.

It was not like the guy found out, she told him herself. Abeg cut the girl some slack.

iyobs7:

Are u serious? Bloody hypocrite

What is bloody about the hypocrite.

iyobs7:
So easy for him to say, the brother doesnt even know what the groom to be is passing through right now
Even in our common bf and gf relationship that we know aint heading anywhere can hurt at times though we know it will crash but this is quiet different, how could she be so discreet not to have told him about her child

So when do you suggest she told him?. I'm waiting for your answer o.

He should put himself in her shoes. She did the right thing. Imagine telling him after the marriage. But i still encourage people to come it clean from the start,it save a lot of emotional energy.

k2039:
What is bloody about the hypocrite.


So when do you suggest she told him?. I'm waiting for your answer o.

A guy that will sincerely love u will love you even if the lady was once a prostitute. Do u know the doubts creeping through the guys mind right now? Like is there something else I should know before taking the next step? Do u even know the worth and place of trust in a relationship? The brother is going to doubt every single thing she says even if they get married and an eventual divorce or separation is not far fetched. What is wrong in coming clean? It's her life and she should've brought up the issue when the brother was chasing and it goes to show how much she valued her child by actually keeping her son out of her proposed fiancez reach. It is unfortunate! I give up

I av realised dat 98% of d female friends I had left me whenever I told them I already have a steady relationship. If I really wanted to be a player, all I needed do was to keep shut n get fulfilled. In her case, she chose to be fulfilled before letting d cat out of d bag.

op, i cut cap for that woman! abeg if your friend dull i advice you to take over before i do, but you are the one then you have heard from the NL Elites, i hope you have not already acting up in your doubt towards her.

Nna locku kwaa up o!

just pretend is not true or it doesn't matter and i bet you, it won't

k2039: So she was suppose to tell every Tom, ddickk and harry that she had 10 year old son.

She told you when she thought it was necessary, if you can't deal with it, let her go, just give me her number before you do.

Its a relationship she should av told him, @OP m guessing she must av had diff relationships nd hard times so she saw ur frnd as a Keeper dts y she does all in her power to keep him, my advice for him if he loves her he shld keep her but nt with full trust nd he shld even gv it a little more time b4 getting married seems lk deres still lot more to knw about.

#sigh. This woman became fictional/ ridiculously overhyped before I'd even reached the first full stop. Weren't they friends prior to dating? That would the been the right time to disclose the truth. There is no shame in having a son and this is usually common knowledge between friends.

Anyway, whatever. He knows now. It'd be a shame if he didn't pursue if indeed she were so special to him.

k2039:


You must be a learner, where did she lie?.

It was not like the guy found out, she told him herself. Abeg cut the girl some slack.

He said she denied it at the start of the relationship. .. thats a lie.

Op what if she told you she had seven abortions nko, what would you do

Wow! What a wonderful peeps and wonderful advice from you guys.
He said that the father of the child died in road accident(thou still unconfirmed according to the guy, coz he said d lady isn't sure about d news). But next thing he wants to know is how he can restore the trust he had wit her before now if he chooses to move on wit d relationship?

Where was the child throughout this 3 year relationship??

xyjoe: PLEASE ADVICE A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A guy has this Lady, according to him, the girl is everything a responsible man can ask of; A graduate with good grade(very intelligent), Very beautiful, Homely( a good cook, neat and very observant(in Igbo, my mother will say, anya ruru ya ala)), Very humble and caring, not withstanding her beauty, hardworking, romantic, above all she can sacrifice her happiness and confront for her love ones, just to ensure peace, and to the best of his knowledge this lady has been 90% if not 95% honest in their 3yrs old relationship. But this guy got confused on 15th of may, 2013 to be precise, when he proposed to this wonderful lady and the lady accepted his proposal. However, the lady told him that she has 10yrs old son at home shocked.

His confusion now is, how could this lady be that honest and at the same time hide that from him, even when he asked her at the early stage of their relationship, she denied it.

undecidedHe is seeking advice, Should he take back his engagement ring grin or should he continue with the relationship?

thr is sumtin u must know about most if not all women.If dey act 2 humble and respectfull without complain watsoeva and act "over" nice,omo thr is sumtin involved.