what kind of homes are people running here? What kind of people are getting married to one another? Even as a daughter, I know my parents income. Heck! Nothing's hidden. But, will I wake up and say because dad has so and so in his account, I'd steal or make crazy demands? Am I mad nii? I think it all boils down to how you want your home to be run, how you lead your home, the kinds of examples you show, how you address issues, and how you explain issues to your family. Economic prudence should be taught to family. Taught being the key word here.

Royal Roy: Even though I am not married, I personally will follow an age old statement my dad has thought me!!!

[size=20pt]Never Let a Woman Know Exactly What You Are Worth. If you are worth 100naira, tell her you are worth just 50 naira!!! [/size]

I intend to follow that rule to the letter!!!

and the question I always ask men like you is, what will you do with the rest of the money you are hidding away from her?? Build house without her knowledge?
Buy land? Solve big problem?? Okay, where will you tell her the money came from??
That' you borrowed it?? So how long are going to keep lying to her through out the entire life of your marriage ??

Or will just be a man and tell her, oh honey , this is the money I have been hidding from you!!
How do you want her to feel and react
Or you don't care??

NO, it is not right.
Lord may I not marry a man that is not open with me.
Trust and openness is very vital for the success of any relationship.

Okija_juju:


Definition of ALMS

1
archaic : charity
2
: something (as money or food) given freely to relieve the poor

So giving your wife money is giving alms?

Helloooooo

My emphasis in that verse is secrecy. That the left hand does not know what the right hand is giving even if they are part of the same body for those who say marriage makes the man and woman one

Secrecy is allowed in certain situations.

[b]Definition of ARMS

1
: Your arms are the two long parts of your body that are attached to your shoulders and tha have your hands at the end

Roliks09: what kind of homes are people running here? What kind of people are getting married to one another? Even as a daughter, I know my parents income. Heck! Nothing's hidden. But, will I wake up and say because dad has so and so in his account, I'd steal or make crazy demands? Am I mad nii? I think it all boils down to how you want your home to be run, how you lead your home, the kinds of examples you show, how you address issues, and how you explain issues to your family. Economic prudence should be taught to family. Taught being the key word here.

Your subjective experience does not tell all the stories. Simple question. Would you hand over your account/chequebook to a relative/partner who is a spendthrift?

tpacalipse: My wife is a big spender. She also likes to give out my things to every tom dick and harry. What I do to her is that I give her a specific amount of money every month and I make sure she gets no extra from me. I won't hide what I have from my wife, but she ain't getting nothing from me if she wastes the I give to her. She has started to learn how to manage now. I work hard for my money and I would rather kick any person who try to mess up my life by wasting my money out of the door. I won't hesitate to do that and I won't hide my money from my wife.

Chai...u harsh small ooooooo, nice move anyways

black_beau: Should wives hide money from their husbands?

Yes. No real husband should depend on his wife's money anyways so let her keep her money.

obuji: and the question I always ask men like you is, what will you do with the rest of the money you are hidding away from her?? Build house without her knowledge?
Buy land? Solve big problem?? Okay, where will you tell her the money came from??
That' you borrowed it?? So how long are going to keep lying to her through out the entire life of your marriage ??

Or will just be a man and tell her, oh honey , this is the money I have been hidding from you!!
How do you want her to feel and react
Or you don't care??

Consider it as insurance.

If she loves you she shouldn't care how much money you have anyways right?

andyanders:

I wonder why you are acting as if you understood what the OP was actually saying. You yourself is saying something off what the OP was asking for and as a result, your point here is zero.

na fight

I believe inn the dynamism in Humanity! The issue is women are not all the same. I'm not married but I dealt with differnt categories of ladies- the spendthrifts and the 'let's save some' types.. Before you get married, try and knw where she really belongs, I believe that's how not †̥ make mistakes. Cos N̶̲̥̅̊☺̴̩̩̥ matter her education, if she's the 'spend all type' she wudnt change all of a sudden. She wud only help inn bringing down... So? Early analysis of her spending pedegree is vital!

If you cannot take firm decisions as to what happens in your house with the money you bring home, then my dear man, u no be man o! Your wife should be suggestive as to what to use the money . But your own decision has to be final (with the fear of God shar). Period. @OP....WAKE UP AND BE A MAN

This question is as S T U P I D as asking; if my wife decides to drag my family to poverty should I allow her to Are you okay

nous: NO, it is not right.
Lord may I not marry a man that is not open with me.
Trust and openness is very vital for the success of any relationship.

i hope you will be open to him when u earn your own salary

Sometimes

Before i answer the above question, i would like to ask all the men one question.
Between you and the woman who should decide on how to spend any money that comes into the house? Or are you not man enough to control your wife? For man is the head of the family
It is only when one is lost because of love will agree on what ever the the wife says and secondly, You can only spend when you are not normal (abnormal in a sense that, your wife might have done something that will make you agree to everything she says) it is only those who understand what i am saying will know that i am saying the right thing.

the fact there is that, hide or no hiding money from your beloved wife is not what matters.
the way you spend that hidden money is what matters.

but the main issue there is that it is not good to hide something from your wife, it is written in the bible that, what God has joined together let no one put asunder. Now both of you have become one. So therefore, anything the husband is doing the wife is aware vise visa.

thanks for that wonderful question.

nahhhh....theres love in sharing

andyanders: For me, I can NEVER hide money from my wife. As a matter of fact, my wife keeps our money in her account and I only keep little in my account for just fueling my car and other little things. This has helped us to plan things and we have about 4 buildings now.
To me, my wife is the best banker for the family, the best friend to me and my best adviser because I usually spend all my money with me when I go out with friends as I tend t give out any amount with me when people ask for money from me, I give out to a fault. But since I started keeping my money with my wife, I tell her to give me the amount I needed for the day and I make sure I spend within what I have. With this practice, it has helped us to plan for so many things. In fact, I tell me wife any amount of money with me I get even if it is 10 naira as I do not know how to hide. I drop my money open in my wardrobe and my wife and I can take money as we want and when we run out, we both go to the bank together.
Men can have their own opinion, but for me, having to be open to your wife will make her believe you when you tell her that you do not have, she will know you don't have. When you hide money from her, anytime you explain that you do not have money, she can NEVER believe you as she will take your response with doubt.

And, from all evidence, the best person to fck you up if/when she chooses to.

Go ahead and hide your money from your wife,quickly she will learn to search for where the money could have been kept so that she can lay her shopping fingers on them,before u know it the house will look like the cartoon of TOM & JERRY,this is the truth,but all jokes aside love principle says one plus one equals one,u most have accepted this rule before entering into marriage,so if u can't hide money from yourself don't hide money from your wife,if u need to plan together on investments and savings,do just that,CAT & RAT game is not good in the house.

@ replies.
Hearing some guys say they got the 'saving' type. Good...but which type EXACTLY?

There is a difference between prudent women and stingy women.
Can only say: there are 2 types of women who 'help' you save.

FIRst, the ones that get pissed @ the way you give out money BECAUSE they feel the money should only be spent on them and the children ALONE. None of your family(or friends) in dire need should be aided with it, maybe only her side of the family.... And...

SEcond, the ones that help you to save BECAUSE they are thinking of projects you two can establish together/long term investments.
Which do you have with you? Check critically
If you end up with the first, you're on a loooong thing.
If the second? Carry go.
Looool

Royal Roy: Even though I am not married, I personally will follow an age old statement my dad has thought me!!!

[size=20pt]Never Let a Woman Know Exactly What You Are Worth. If you are worth 100naira, tell her you are worth just 50 naira!!! [/size]

I intend to follow that rule to the letter!!!

pls explain further

Women! Mtchew! Imediately they knw hw much u got, or hw much u earn per month, the more they put calamity and presure on u, if u want to organise a small family party, u and ur family alone, they wont agree with u, u wil hearing them " iya titi my friend we use to do tinz together she must be there" u must buy "and co. " uniform, ITS A MUST! O B I N R I N! ah! Mo gbedi fun yin!

As much as I do no stand on the side of hiding money, I must say a man ought to give himself a margin to maneuver. When the chips are down, you'll see the other side of all these women commenting here about 'this is me', 'not all women are the same' bla bla bla. I had a friend who once lost his job in our office. You can imagine someone on a 500K payroll to 0 payroll overnight. Some slight slight tension began to creep up when serious needs arises (No MONEY, No HONEY but sugar fit dey / HONEY level drop small - Its normal). Thank God for wisdom the guy had beforehand, he's been saving a little every month and had like a million Naira savings somewhere. He said to me one day "Kay anything there is serious challenge, I just tell my wife am going out to source for funds,maybe friends etc etc ... he comes back with 50K withdrawal and they try to manage'. He said thats how to be a man!!! That was how he was able to survive that face and still be the man he ought to be. So to all ye ladies posting earlier about why must I know what he's worth. I'll like to ask if there is no pre determined monthly allowance you get from you hubby for house keeping and self upgrade. So which one is the "I must know what he earns by all means syndrome". And if he chose not to tell you, what'll you do? Head to the court?

gedtalks:

i hope you will be open to him when u earn your own salary

And drop her salary also for the man to manage it for her. Cos women of today have their own salaries for themselves alone. In fact, the guy shld just zero his mind off there as if she is unemployed. And give her the usual substantial monthly upkeep

godunia: if this worked for u fine ,i guess yr relatives or friends dont visit u since is yr wife dat gives u what to spend.i can imagine u telling her,honey i need 100k mama is sick.mmmm.i guess dis woman makes more money than u do.op,d bible recommend husbands to dwell with wives in knowledge.know yr wife,if ishe is not prudent then manage d family s finance,if she is let her no how u receive per month but keep d extra to yr self, a woman wld respect u when u pull d extra from no where to solve a problem in d family.KNOW yrself ,ther is no general rule dat work,we re not robot.

Listen, I made my money cus I am into oil and gas business and have enough money to take care of anything that I needed. I have about 6 people I sponsor their University education.So, talking about taking money from your wife is nothing out of this.I stated and still stand to say, it is not good to hide money from your wife, unless she is not your wife or you have no trust.If you have no trust of your wife, then you can say what you stated above where your own wife feeds you and not me.