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How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 11:41pm On Aug 04, 2013 |
BY ELNATHAN JOHN 2 Likes |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 11:42pm On Aug 04, 2013 |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 11:44pm On Aug 04, 2013 |
I just love the writers 'How to' series,its always on point!,kudos to him,its just the bitter-truth. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Nobody: 4:47am On Aug 05, 2013 |
The writer just summarized what goes on in every 'madam's'head that has a househelp.insensitive creatures! Both the poor and rich madams,all want to have househelp. I recently went to c a friend that put to bed.she was staying with d step mother as at d time of delivery. Stepmom has 4 children.first child is 13yrs. She has a maid of 14yrs old living with her.said that maid was abandoned by her parents in the village and she was staying with her grannie so she took her for the past 7yrs to d city to help her The maid ended at primary school. She is learning how to sow.But madam's children goes to school and madam is a teacher. Asked why,madam said that maid' no sabi book'. Maid said she don't want to school again.she want to learn how to sow. I asked my friend telling me this, if it were to be madam's child, will she accept that she stops school simply bc she isn't brainy? Can't she try her best with her?Till today,no answer. I answered my question,she is only but a maid.she should be grateful she is learning how to sow. A born again christian woman. I reserve my comment. Realities of life |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 6:37am On Aug 05, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: The writer just summarized what goes on in every 'madam's'head that has a househelp.insensitive creatures! Both the poor and rich madams,all want to have househelp.That's the reality of life maam Its just a message to all parents,don't bring children into this world just to make them suffer because of 5 minutes pleasure. Most Nigerian house maids are treated like slaves(you can't really blame their masters,cos how can a parent release his child to someone who is struggling to feed his family,its just not possible,its like a liability,hence the frustration which leads to bad treatments of this 'house maids'),and I've also seen some that were so well treated by the bosses.(Common among the rich fellas) It just depends on the personality of the master. Parents should take responsibility of their wards |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by bellong: 9:21am On Aug 05, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: The writer just summarized what goes on in every 'madam's'head that has a househelp.insensitive creatures! Both the poor and rich madams,all want to have househelp. You know Jesus knew that people like this will be rampant in the world before saying "By their fruits, you shall know them..." We live in a generation full of religion and theology. They can quote from Genesis to Revelation offhand but their characters and attitudes are far from their profession. With their mouth, they love God but their hearts are far away from Him. When you see someone who is truly redeemed, he/she needs not tell you his/her profession of faith. The fruits and actions will surely testify of who he is. I don't get carried away by people who attend church or are tongue-blasting, bible-quoting brother without fruits of the spirit to show for it. @Topic, I always like the satirical style of Elnathan since I first read one of his works titled "The Nigerian gods..." or something like that. He has a way of passing deep seated meanings from his writings to the audience. 1 Like |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Nobody: 12:13pm On Aug 05, 2013 |
Yes u r right Mr bellong. My good friend(a deeper life member) relocated from the north with a young gal of 20 and her family. Till date pple thought the gal is her younger sis.the children call her aunty.I call her madam. She came from a very poor background and used to help her in her poultry biz.when she and her family want to relocate,she begged to follow. She has her own room. At times I used to yab my friend that her gal dresses better than her.my friend will say why not,that is how it should be,she is in d market,I'm not so I gat to kit her very well. The gal is finding it hard copin with school work cos its a diff ball game entirely compared to where she came from but my friend is teaching and helping her. The husband promised to train her in d uni. I've know this woman for up to 2 yrs now and I will say she has not for one day opened her mouth to tell pple her gal is a maid. She said she can't do that cos she don't want pple to start looking down on the gal.She travelled to her place last xmas and the children were all crying.Bought a handset for her to be communicatin with her family.My friend has a retail shop.This gal come to d shop only on sat and during holidays.On sats so my friend can take care of the house.I've seen my friend asking the gal to lend her money(her own money!) She said the gal can save money more than her.Infact,I can go on and on.She is just a practicing christian. God will bless her for that. If others r like this,who will be complaining? I just pray that these pple end up in good hands if at all they r to live with somebody. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by bellong: 12:21pm On Aug 05, 2013 |
^^^ That is a good testimony of someone living what she professes. Do unto others as you want to be treated. I pray God help her to the end |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 12:30pm On Aug 05, 2013 |
bellong:That's true,by there fruit,you shall know them.its very true. Elnathan is a great writer,N̶̲̥̅̊☺ doubt |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 12:35pm On Aug 05, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Yes u r right Mr bellong.Your friend is actually one of the very few good ones,she's a 'rare specie' in today's world where other 'madams' maltreat their house maids. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by babestell(f): 3:37pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
Poverty is real bad, really bad. But whether or not we agree, this kind of arrangement has helped a lot of people get a chance at a better life. Nothing compares with staying with your parents but no every body has an opportunity for that. We may argue and complain and curse men/women who have live in maids but until Nigeria changes for the better this practice will continue. My cousin was trained through to university by the family she lived with, her sister unfortunately was nearly beaten to death by her own family. Thank God that they are well settled now to train their younger ones if not those ones would have gone to live with people too. Lets fix Naija first, where every child is sure of education/health services and we have social services to support the less privilege. Where people give birth to the number of children they can handle and/or dont give birth till they can afford it. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by bellong: 4:27pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
To me, it is not having maid that is bad. It is the bad treatment meted out to them that is condemnable. There are people who practically raised their maids like their own children. That is what should be encouraged when having a maid. 1 Like |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by EfemenaXY: 5:04pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
Going by the plethora of violent treatments metted out to vulnerable, young, female househelps, I'm beginning to wonder: What happens to those that physically manage to survive the brutal treatments dished out to them by their so called 'madams'? Obviously, many of them would have been scarred beyond repair, emotionally, as the violence towards them would have started from a very young age... as early as 3 and 4 years of age, going by the recent threads and reports here. So my question here is, what happens when these maids do eventually leave their madams homes, get married and have kids of their own? They in turn would be just as wicked because violence and wickedness would be the only things they know, having grown up with such day-in-and-day-out. I don't think I'll be off the mark to say that these heartless madams committing atrocities like: ~ Chopping off a maids toes for not opening the gate on time ~ Pressing hot irons on maids for daring to eat a piece of meat from her cooking pot et al Were one maids or housegirls themselves. Circle of violence it is. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Numerouuuno: 6:19pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
^^^ The solution still lies in Family planning. Parents should only 'produce' what they can maintain and stop exposing innocent children to dangers in the name of Madams!! |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by EfemenaXY: 6:27pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
^^ And I maintain that the psychic of these 'madams' should be looked into more closely. Where does all that violence and hate within them stem from? Sure, family planning is one way to look at it, but it's not all inclusive. It's not just those who've bred too many kids that give them up for slavery housegirl / houseboy work. Some are victims of unforeseen circumstances like losing a parent untimely to death. Do we not have a thread on here about a man who lost his wife to death and he, about the same time lost his accommodation? Did he not have just two kids evenly spaced out? A 3 year old and 9 year old? And yet, he had no choice but to leave them in the care of his brother and the brother's wife - who eventually killed the 3 year old baby?? What was the back ground of that brother's wife? She too might have been a house girl to some other madam who was just as evil. Only difference is, she survived...but this baby here didn't. Sometimes, it helps to get to the root cause of the problem and treat it from there, rather than focus on the symptoms. You'll only end up going round and round in endless circles. 1 Like |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by mgbeketoto: 10:25pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
They ALWAYS END UP PREGNANT!!!! ![]() By MEGHADS AND DRIVERS!!! My papa don die Tay-Tay!!! Hallelujah!!!!! Getting a MALE house help? TUFIIIIIIIAKWA!!!! ![]() |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Nobody: 11:05pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
this topis disgusts me can't you help/train a child without making them a maid/slave in your home - tomorrow people will claim they are christian. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by EfemenaXY: 11:12pm On Aug 06, 2013 |
^^ People acquire these under aged children and get away with maltreating them because supply outstrips demand AND there are no hard-hitting child protecting welfare / social services like we've got here. Additionally, if they had to pay through the nose...exhorbitant prices for house maid services like it is here, then it'll be a completely different story. There are many Nigerians over here, some of which go back home to get househelps to 'aid' them with chores over here. Would these madams dare maltreat those maids here? Do they have any choice in not to send them to school? Are they not powerless when these maids gain 'open eye' eventually? My dear, no need for long story jare. |
Re: How To Get A House Help In Nigeria by Nobody: 8:28pm On Jan 17, 2020 |
bellong: I see an odd irony.. bad madame get innocent maids and good madams get evil maids. Coming from a poor background should not turn one's heart to evil. if a maid gets a job where the employees treat her like family, guest to evening school, wears good clothes and gets paid more than some desk jobs, should they not be grateful? I have been through the absolute worst of them. Sad thing is when you come across them.later in life, they are no better than they were when you last saw them. poverty mentality corrupts the mind fro. acting right 1 Like |
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