hi everyone,

I am in my mid 20s.. jst finished my youth service and have bin job haunting.i met a girl 2wards my final year. and we ve bin having unlimited fun 2geda n dis is d 3rd year. it got 2 a stage she began 2 feel guilty. she couldnt call of the relationship becos she loved me but it was preventing her from muvin further in terms of her faith n doctrines....she wasnt close 2 God anymore and decided we do something about our fornication.. doh we resisted temptations so many times...but on some occasions we couldnt resist our selves.. she lives in another state..

I am ready 2 surrender my life 2 God n turn away from my evil deeds esp women...but wat do i do with her.. i know she would b d happiest person if i tell her of my new intentions 2 live a christian life n be faithful 2 God as this will motivate her..i have also made a vow not 2 have sex with her or anyone till i get married..as i do cheat on her with other girls..

the problem is shud i quit the relationship ...i still love her and she hasnt offended me in anyway...i am jst feeling guilty of the past..

Both of you can still be friends but cut off intimacy,if she's willing to be celibate just like you.

thorpido: Both of you can still be friends but cut off intimacy,if she's willing to be celibate just like you.

i am the one holding her back.. now am i willing 2 cut of intimacy cos i dont want 2 go back on my vows.. i know she will be happy hearing this cos this was wat she wanted

The practical solution is to marry her. Then you will be able to live a Holy life. Marriage doesnt need to be expensive etc. And as you have said, you are in your mid twenties. Thats what I would do if I was in your situation. (Well thats exactly what I did.)

Peace

Give your life to christ, make your ways straight # Trust me, the first few months will be hard #. Talk to her about it, if it's her, you guys will marry eventually but don't invite her on a journey that you ain't even sure of where you are going.

Yangona.:
Give your life to christ, make your ways straight # Trust me, the first few months will be hard #. Talk to her about it, if it's her, you guys will marry eventually but don't invite her on a journey that you ain't even sure of where you are going.

but don't invite her on a journey that you ain't even sure of where you are going?? i dont sim 2 understand u

brightk: hi everyone,

I am in my mid 20s.. jst finished my youth service and have bin job haunting.i met a girl 2wards my final year. and we ve bin having unlimited fun 2geda n dis is d 3rd year. it got 2 a stage she began 2 feel guilty. she couldnt call of the relationship becos she loved me but it was preventing her from muvin further in terms of her faith n doctrines....she wasnt close 2 God anymore and decided we do something about our fornication.. doh we resisted temptations so many times...but on some occasions we couldnt resist our selves.. she lives in another state..

I am ready 2 surrender my life 2 God n turn away from my evil deeds esp women...but wat do i do with her.. i know she would b d happiest person if i tell her of my new intentions 2 live a christian life n be faithful 2 God as this will motivate her..i have also made a vow not 2 have sex with her or anyone till i get married..as i do cheat on her with other girls..

the problem is shud i quit the relationship ...i still love her and she hasnt offended me in anyway...i am jst feeling guilty of the past..

Cut the relationship and move ahead in developing your relationship with God. If it is God's will you marry her, you will and if not, so be it. Keeping your relationship with her without fornicating isn't very practicable considering your past together. Flee every appearance of evil

superior1:

Cut the relationship and move ahead in developing your relationship with God. If it is God's will you marry her, you will and if not, so be it. Keeping your relationship with her without fornicating isn't very practicable considering your past together. Flee every appearance of evil

isnt very practicable we ve put some measures in place 2 avoid such stuffs like making sure we are not alone maybe in the house or somewhere else.. its called self control.. i believe it will work..moreover was wrong if we decided 2 ask 4 4giveness and continue our relationship.. its quite obvious we have sinned and we have decided 2 come out of it... but dat doesnt mean quit or u tink its not gonna have any effect..

in as much as we ve decided 2 discipline our emotions n tots till we get married i tink we would make it

big quandary.

tpia@:
big quandary.

very big one oo

Truth be told, you dont love/like her the much you claim to do in your post. Lemmie explain what i mean. You've had sex with her and you intend to change and not have sex again till marriage, so you want to break up... right? Sound to me like an excuse to dump her cos you've been there.
Your post sounds more like she's realizing that the fornication isint good, and you can't hold your urge, so you wanna leave her and run.
She realized it, now you do as well. Stick with her and endure till marriage. At lease you say you no wan have sex till marriage, ehn kuku wait, if you dont wanna have sex till marriage, why leave her for someone else.?
Bros.... u wan do that thing u just dey use scope dey claim holy.

brightk: hi everyone,

I am in my mid 20s.. jst finished my youth service and have bin job haunting.i met a girl 2wards my final year. and we ve bin having unlimited fun 2geda n dis is d 3rd year. it got 2 a stage she began 2 feel guilty. she couldnt call of the relationship becos she loved me but it was preventing her from muvin further in terms of her faith n doctrines....she wasnt close 2 God anymore and decided we do something about our fornication.. doh we resisted temptations so many times...but on some occasions we couldnt resist our selves.. she lives in another state..

I am ready 2 surrender my life 2 God n turn away from my evil deeds esp women...but wat do i do with her.. i know she would b d happiest person if i tell her of my new intentions 2 live a christian life n be faithful 2 God as this will motivate her..i have also made a vow not 2 have sex with her or anyone till i get married..as i do cheat on her with other girls..

the problem is shud i quit the relationship ...i still love her and she hasnt offended me in anyway...i am jst feeling guilty of the past..