LAKANYE~:

What do you think sweetie?
I am a woman today and standing on my toes "happy as hell" SINGLE parent with 9 children from different men, HAPPY AS HELL, because I HAVE NO MAN IN MY LIFE TO TELL ME WHAT I HAVE TO DO AS A GROWN WOMAN. I pick and choose men as I wish, and dump them when I'm done.I am happy and satisfied, and that is ALL THAT MATTERS TO ME AND MY CHILDREN AS A SINGLE PARENT.

~Frankly my dear am not bothered about the amount of kids you got,or how many baby daddy's you got under your belt   Your Life  Not MIne

I AM IN CHARGE ON THE LIFE OF MEN IN MY LIFE

mohawkchic:



~Frankly my dear am not bothered about the amount of kids you got,or how many baby daddy's you got under your belt Your Life Not MIne[/b]!!

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~I Doubt that very Much!!


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~Wouldnt you like to know!!~

LAKANYE~:


WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR NAIRALAND MEMBERS TO MAKE COMMENTS AT ANYONE'S OPINIONS WITHOUT TAKING IT PERSONAL WITH A BOXING GLOVES.
IF YOU CANNOT TAKE THE HEAT, THEN GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN. MY COMMENTS ARE NOT A REFLECTION OF YOUR LIFE.

IF ANY WOMAN DECIDES TO EMPOWER A MAN TO CONTROL THE REST OF HER LIFE FOR HER IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE, THAT IS A PERSONAL ISSUE. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE AS STRONG AS I AM. AND DON'T BE JEALOUS OF MY INDEPENDENCE AND CONFIDENCE AS A SINGLE WOMAN

~You Are Definately Away with the Fairy's !~ 

mohawkchic:





~Tell you the thruth,i think you're a shite stirer,this Dr Jekyll /Mrs Hyde posts Isnt fooling me!!

~You Are Definately Away with the Fairy's !~

~Waiting For me ? ~

LAKANYE~:

JUST A LITTLE BRIEFING ABOUT LIFE.
As I was growing up in Nigeria, I envied no one else but my parents. They both worked so hard to provide a wonderful life for all of us, nine altogether, bored by a most beautiful African mother I had ever know from ILE~IFE.
For some reasons, my Dad always warned us to take good care of his grand children even more than he is taking care of us. He made us promised them at dinner table back in the days. I really didn't understand his prophesies at the time. I was sent to the United States to study, and here I am, feeling free to live life the way I had wanted but never got a chance to. I was a virgin at 25 when I arrived the States. Barely three months after my arrival and with that strong YORUBA ACCENTS in the classrooms, the American women were all over me, and before I knew it I became an expectant father out of consciousness. I told my parents about the expectant baby. Funds stopped flowing into my bank accounts. My parents had never been angry at me like that experienced in my whole life. I had to go get a damn JOB. Started as an assistant store manager with a CHEVRON GAS STATION. My daughter's mother called me after nine months that she was about to have the baby. I went to the hospital just to witness the birth of a child into my life, and to medically verify the child was mine from birth. I was not going to listen to all my NIGERIAN UNION OF FLORIDA INTERNATIONAL STUDENTS friends at the time who advised me to run to another states and abandon the child with the mother. I knew that was never going to be possible. My parents does not want to have anything to do with me anymore, and to worsen the story, someone had stolen my Nigerian passport. I couldn't travel out of the United States. My parent had blocked a renewal Nigerian passports from Nigeria. they would call to check if I'm still alive in America. Most especially my Mum, even though Dad warned her not to send me a dime any more. Mother would still find a way to send some money through dubious means.
After the birth of the child, I knew only death will separate me and the little child. The mother was BLACK AMERICAN. American women are notorious for trapping good men with babies for financial reasons here. I was a novice. I didn't know anything about the US laws with regards to child supports. The mother had already reported me to the court for child supports. I was determined NEVER to sell myself to servitude. Hence, I had to go to court to defend myself, and claim custody of the little child.
My mother was no ordinary woman. She was determined to do anything possible from Nigeria to protect her son in America. Three years later, I was awarded full custody of the little girl. My daughter is nine years old now, and the best student in her Elementary school.


My point is this, One become a single parent out of no choice. No matter how smart and preventive you are, your destiny will still rule your life. Most single parents do not plan to become a single parent, but due to life circumstances.

THIS IS A TRUE STORY OF MY LIFE. I DARE ANYONE MAKE STUPID AND DUMB COMMENTS WITH REGARDS TO MY STORY. I AM WRITING TO EDUCATE SOMEONE WHO WOULD READ AND LEARN FROM IT. I DID NOT WRITE THIS STORY TO BE RIDICULED, BUT I SURE EXPECT SOME DUMB ASSHOLE TO READ THIS AND MAKE A STUPID COMMENT ABOUT IT. I am waiting.

ikamefa:


hahahahahahaha " " i don laff piss for body

@ lakanye you are a woman now?

or you have multiple personality sexuality syndrome? " "

_{one minute a man! the next a baby mama with 9 runts?}

LAKANYE~:

I AM WHAT I CHOOSE TO BE. AT LEAST SOMEONE TRULLY KNOWS ME IN NAIRALAND.
ITS NOTHING ABOUT BEING A MAN OR A WOMAN. NOR MULTIPLE PERSONALITY SEXUALITY SYN DRONE.
MY JOB IN THE UNITED STATES AS A FEDERAL AGENT IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I HAVE TO CHANGE PERSONALITY.
IF I BECOME A US SENATOR TOMORROW, IT WOULD NOT STOP ME FROM IDENTIFYING MYSELF WITH MY ROOTS. THERE ARE MORE REASONS TO IT, AS I AM NOT ALONE IN NAIRALAND WITH MULTIPLE PERSONALITY SYNDRONE. 96% OF NAIRALAND MEMBERS DID NOT REVEAL THEIR TRUE SELF.

blue-sky:

most women don't choose to be single mothers, but through unprepared circumstances they become one. However just because they do end up single mothers does not mean that life has ended, it may be hard work, but they still get the same joy as being a parent, as those who arnt single parents.

LAKANYE~:

JUST A LITTLE BRIEFING ABOUT LIFE.
As I was growing up in Nigeria, I envied no one else but my parents. They both worked so hard to provide a wonderful life for all of us, nine altogether, bored by a most beautiful African mother I had ever know from ILE~IFE.
For some reasons, my Dad always warned us to take good care of his grand children even more than he is taking care of us. He made us promised them at dinner table back in the days. I really didn't understand his prophesies at the time. I was sent to the United States to study, and here I am, feeling free to live life the way I had wanted but never got a chance to. I was a virgin at 25 when I arrived the States. Barely three months after my arrival and with that strong YORUBA ACCENTS in the classrooms, the American women were all over me, and before I knew it I became an expectant father out of consciousness. I told my parents about the expectant baby. Funds stopped flowing into my bank accounts. My parents had never been angry at me like that experienced in my whole life. I had to go get a damn JOB. Started as an assistant store manager with a CHEVRON GAS STATION. My daughter's mother called me after nine months that she was about to have the baby. I went to the hospital just to witness the birth of a child into my life, and to medically verify the child was mine from birth. I was not going to listen to all my NIGERIAN UNION OF FLORIDA INTERNATIONAL STUDENTS friends at the time who advised me to run to another states and abandon the child with the mother. I knew that was never going to be possible. My parents does not want to have anything to do with me anymore, and to worsen the story, someone had stolen my Nigerian passport. I couldn't travel out of the United States. My parent had blocked a renewal Nigerian passports from Nigeria. they would call to check if I'm still alive in America. Most especially my Mum, even though Dad warned her not to send me a dime any more. Mother would still find a way to send some money through dubious means.
After the birth of the child, I knew only death will separate me and the little child. The mother was BLACK AMERICAN. American women are notorious for trapping good men with babies for financial reasons here. I was a novice. I didn't know anything about the US laws with regards to child supports. The mother had already reported me to the court for child supports. I was determined NEVER to sell myself to servitude. Hence, I had to go to court to defend myself, and claim custody of the little child.
My mother was no ordinary woman. She was determined to do anything possible from Nigeria to protect her son in America. Three years later, I was awarded full custody of the little girl. My daughter is nine years old now, and the best student in her Elementary school.
My point is this, One become a single parent out of no choice. No matter how smart and preventive you are, your destiny will still rule your life. Most single parents do not plan to become a single parent, but due to life circumstances. THIS IS A TRUE STORY OF MY LIFE. I DARE ANYONE MAKE STUPID AND DUMB COMMENTS WITH REGARDS TO MY STORY. I AM WRITING TO EDUCATE SOMEONE WHO WOULD READ AND LEARN FROM IT. I DID NOT WRITE THIS STORY TO BE RIDICULED, BUT I SURE EXPECT SOME DUMB ASSHOLE TO READ THIS AND MAKE A STUPID COMMENT ABOUT IT. I am waiting.

May kelly:

@LAKANYE
You have not done any thing bad and i assure you no reasonable person will ridicule you, because There are many out and in there that have had a bitter life experience than this and covered it up and I will also say that having a child at home, b/4 getting married to a man is not a sin but African mentality mostly Nigeria is the cause of many babies being dumped in the dust bin.

Be strong in the Lord Jesus Christ who never condemns any.

May kelly:

Who is a single parent and why?

sammyjl:

Directly @ Lakanye: [color=#990000]YOU PUT IT SO BAD Some people have gone through this unexpected, accidentally, some raped and were scared to tell and therefore just went ahead. You will be surprised of people's stories of how they got that way. Some decided it that way and some, who knows. I am sure you're above the age of 16 and therefore should act as such, even my 14 yr old brother wouldnt comment the way u do.

nevertheless to answer the Post - Different circumstances make up for people to b single parents. In my case the father denied responsibilty. I said what the hell, got my degree, got a nice job, got myself a ride, still looking fabulous and am raising my son to the best. Just to see the father coming and claiming the kid is his after all this years, I said "what the hell, the last words i heard from you 7 rs back, were "that isnt my kid". So I said to him, " u weren't the only one, (u know). He left. [/color]

nj11:

@ Lakanye,
I think you did a great thing by taking full custody of your daughter,that shows responsibility and guts.Good luck to you men.

What i really don't understand is the Norman Bait character you pulled.

I honestly do not understand what you meant by "YOU PUT IT SO BAD" Could you please come down to my lay~man level?

And if you are making reference to my single parenting escapade in America, such is life here in America. Most Nigerians in Nigeria would wonder how anyone becomes a single parent because the cultural setups in Nigeria frowns against women bearing children out of wedlock. A woman would rather abort a child in Nigeria to protect her religious or cultural status.

nj11:

@ Lakanye,
I think you did a great thing by taking full custody of your daughter,that shows responsibility and guts.Good luck to you men.

What i really don't understand is the Norman Bait character you pulled.

LAKANYE~:

I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOUR QUOTES OF "NORMAN BAIT"

Norman Bait is a character in the classic movie psycho, he had multiple personality.
Cause in the start of this thread i thought you were female only to understand that you are a guy,i'm not sure which you are but, i still think you are cool.

nj11:

nj11:

@ Lakanye,
Oh!!!! now i see,good to know you are a girl.
More power to you.

obillyj:

Different issues can make one walk down that lane. we all have different perspectives over this single parent issue. to me i really don't see anythin wrong with it, provided the person in question has what it takes to be a single parent and can make up for the other parent. at the same time bearing in mind that his/her affairs should not affect the child/children (afterall man body no be firewood).

it is one option i can take if situation calls for iit. i love children and really long to have them. to me if i leave this life and don't have atleast a child then i lived an unfulfilled life. Again, i've always told my friends that marriage is one thing i don't EVER want to make mistake in and instead of me to be involved in all those marriage palaver, believe me nairalanders i will comfortably prefer to be a single parent.