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| Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 10:09pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
Men are Displaying Similar Shopping Behaviours to Women. We fall in love at first sight, shop badly and worry about our bodies. Are men the new women? So, are modern men becoming more feminine? For those of you who balk at such a suggestion, don’t shoot the messenger. Fact is, an almost endless stream of polls, research studies and new social trends suggest that, in many ways, the gap between the genders is closing at an unprecedented rate. Some of those ways are trivial, and some more profound. But do they suggest that the age of the manly man is dead? Read on and decide foryourself. SHOPPING. According to new research for disability charity Scope, men love shopping as much as women. What’s more, we are picking up shopping habits that seem distinctly, well, womanly. For example, the Scope research - conducted as part of the charity’s Great Donate - One month, One million Items challenge, which aims to get people thinking about what they could donate to Scope shops - found that 89% of male respondents admitted to having between one and 15 unworn items of clothing in their wardrobes. The poll found men had bought clothes for special occasions that never happened, were convinced into buying clothes they didn’t really want, and even shopped for garments they hoped to slim into. Nearly one in four also confessed to being guilty of impulse buying when out spending. In other words, we’re starting to make all the shopping mistakes we accuse our wives and girlfriends of making. Is that important? Not on its own, but does buying clothes we hope to “slim into” suggest an increasing male focus on body image and beauty. It wouldn’t be the first piece of evidence to point that way... Body image Our new shopping habits may be partly explained by a new focus on body image. In fact, research by psychologists at the University of the West of England published last year found that, against all expectations, more men worry about their body shape and appearance – beer bellies, man boobs or bald patches – than women do about how they look. The research found that more men than women (80.7% against 75%) “talk in ways that promote anxiety about their body image”. In other words, we’re now more likely to mention our flaws and imperfections than women are. “These findings tell us that men are concerned about body image, just like women. We knew that 'body talk' affected women and young people and now we know that it affects men too," said Dr Phillippa Diedrichs, who conducted the study. Not all the research on the subject suggests men are now more concerned with body image than women, but nearly all of it finds that men are becoming more focused on how they look. In other words, in this specific area, we appear to be becoming more feminine. ROMANCE. Maybe it’s no surprise that we’re so focused on how we look, given that we’re always on the lookout for “the one”. Yep, popular culture would have you believe that women fall in love at the drop of a hat, and men fall in love only when they’re good and ready. If that were ever true, it certainly isn’t now. According to research published in the Journal of Social Psychology in 2011, a vast majority of both men and women assume women are the first to fall in love and the first to say “I love you”. And as it turned out, the very same people, when asked about their own relationship histories, reported the opposite. In real life men reported that they fell in love more rapidly and that they said “I love you” first. All that was confirmed by a worldwide study of over 10,000 people published earlier this year. It found that, while 28% of women had fallen in love at first sight, 48% of men had. So it appears that the desire for love and romance (as opposed to sex) - once considered such a female trait - is becoming increasingly a male one. Family Modern men may be more desperate to leap into loving relationships because of their yearning for a family. It used to be said that women had a biological clock that men did their best to ignore, but the new truth is not so black and white. In research presented to the British Sociological Society in March, sociologist Robin Hadley found that childless men were even more broody than childless women. Hadley claims that his research “challenges the common idea that women are much more likely to want to have children than men”, and his research showed that four out of 10 childless men feel ‘depressed’ about their childless life, compared with three out of 10 women. Seven out of 10 men confess to a ‘yearning’ to have a child. Of course men have always wanted to experience fatherhood - the human race would have died out without that basic biological imperative - but it seems that, today, we want it just as much as women want motherhood, and regret not having children more. WORK and HOME That perhaps chimes with the well-documented idea that masculine jobs are in decline, and more feminine workplaces are becoming the norm. Perhaps more men yearn for family life as work life becomes more competitive (with increasing numbers of women in the workforce), less secure and less fulfilling. In fact, statistics show that the number of men who stay home and look after children while their partners go out to work reached an all time high last year. There were 227,000 men staying at home to look after family between September and November 2012, a rise of 19,000 compared to the same period in 2011 and the highest increase since figures began in 1993. Meanwhile, a recent European Commission report said that the sole female breadwinner was on the rise, and now accounted for 10% of households. Of course, there are still many more households where the man is the sole breadwinner, and far more stay-at-home mums than dads, but the gradual flattening out of gender roles - to a point where couples choose the best division of paid and domestic work based on circumstance alone - seems to be a long term trend. And that might even be having a knock on effect in the dating game. A study by researchers at York University found some evidence of the reversing of the traits men and women traditionally deem desirable in the other. As societies become more equal, the researchers said, men place more value on intelligence and earning potential, and women place more value on looks. So are men becoming more feminine? We may be more romantic, family oriented and body conscious than we used to be, but whether that is a good or bad thing is open to question. Perhaps men are just changing with the times and adapting to new realities. Perhaps the most successful men will be those who adapt best. Or perhaps we are heading for a fall?
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| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 10:14pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 10:25pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
I am really dumbfounded and astonished as a man. If these are what we (men) are turning into....then we must retrace our steps. But what do you think about this disheartening research? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 10:54pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
Albedo27: I am really dumbfounded and astonished as a man. If these are what we (men) are turning into....then we must retrace our steps.To put it straight! this can only be obtainable in the western culture for now,but due to our inferiorty complex and our copy copy attitude all what is in the west must surely come to Africa. lol Again, this research and many more any only done in some of the european countries -Africa excluded. We are too cultural here to copy that scrap. Op hw levels nag?  |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Kanwulia: 11:00pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
Interesting article. . . .But as usual. . .the BLACK race will be the last to catch up! Definitely not my AFRICAN men! In our dreams!!! Even if they grew poohcees. . . .THEY WOULD FOREVER SMELL LIKE WILD, OLD, HE-GOATS IMMUNE TO DEODORANTS, NOT TO MENTION EAU DE PARFUM!  Nothing feminine about that! SOH!  |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by EfemenaXY: 11:02pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
@OP, maybe it's a sign that men are moving with the times. 21st century and all that... We are no longer in the stone ages though, are we?  |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 11:04pm On Aug 10, 2013 |
Am still trying to grab something from this post, |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 12:15am On Aug 11, 2013 |
achi4u: To put it straight! this can only be obtainable in the western culture for now,but due to our inferiorty complex and our copy copy attitude all what is in the west must surely come to Africa. lolYou may be right to some extent, but to be specific, many Nigerian men still baby-seat, as their wives become the bread winner. Secondly, many men spend much time lookimg at d mirror. Lastly, many women tend to be more favoured in the labour market than men, prompting men to sit at home and do the women's house chores. Achi i hail u ooo! |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 12:25am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: @OP, maybe it's a sign that men are moving with the times. 21st century and all that... we are not in stone age, i quite agree with but that make us behave like Weird MC Efemena_xy: @OP, maybe it's a sign that men are moving with the times. 21st century and all that... we are not in stone age, i quite agree with but that make us behave like Weird MC |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 12:32am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Albedo27:I think you have summarized the whole post with this outline. But where you said and i quote "secondly, many men spend much time looking at the mirror"-This are few lazy fellows who watches to much nollywood home video, their percentage are 0.00001. Other point you made are very correct. At the end it is a men's world |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 12:35am On Aug 11, 2013 |
double post |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 12:36am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Albedo27:hahahaha You remained of Weird MC who is changing from feminine to masculine.level idi egwu |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by MrsChima(f): 2:36am On Aug 11, 2013 |
More like whining bishes. |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by tpia5: 5:12am On Aug 11, 2013 |
cant make head or tail of the post. whats the op trying to say? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 9:13am On Aug 11, 2013 |
achi4u: I think you have summarized the whole post with this outline.It's a man's world no doubt, but change they is inevitable. We must watch it before it turns to a woman's world. |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Skinni10ne: 9:35am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Yes a lot if them are!  Why should a man: -Shop till he drops. -Buy shoes he knows he does not need -Check himself out in the mirror 20 times a day -Take pictures of himself EVERYWHERE-bathroom (y was that a trend?), street, mall, restaurant, church? -Text, text, text, text, text -Upload pics of his 'outfit of the day' everyday on Facebook, Instagram, his blog -Take an ab pic and use that as his cell dp -Care about his hair, his "swag", his fashion sense #prettyboyz |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 9:44am On Aug 11, 2013 |
tpia@:you rushed through it, so calm down and read it. That notwithstanding, the post is all about d research on the behaviour of men that are considered feminine(female like) nowadays...men are now addicted to shopping, taking longer time get dressed up, more worried than women when the child(ren) is/are not forthcoming, tend to baby-seat when jobless and loss a competitive jobs that were abinitio reserved for men. Hope the summary sticks? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by EfemenaXY: 11:02am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Albedo27: And what's wrong with that? Don't we all want a man that is well groomed and makes the effort with his appearance? Who wants a foul-smelling tout reeking of BO (body odour)? What's wrong with a man baby sitting and looking after his kids? Nor be im name dem dey answer? What's wrong with a man eager to have his own kids and showing concern if they aren't forth coming? Is this not the point where he actively seeks to get to the root cause of the problem by seeking medical assistance if need be, rather than fold his arms and do nothing? Or get involved in "away matches" with other women? What's wrong with a man going shopping? Is he disabled to the point of being bed-ridden and can't lift a finger to wipe his own backside? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Nobody: 11:15am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: I Can do all that through Christ who strengthens Me |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by EfemenaXY: 11:19am On Aug 11, 2013 |
^^  |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by biolabee(m): 11:30am On Aug 11, 2013 |
The rise of the metrosexual male |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Nobody: 11:34am On Aug 11, 2013 |
@Op, I dont really think its about Standards falling or getting to lace our mentality on what 21st Century holds. You'd quite agree with me that Men are of diverging traits and gazillions of 'em would label this research as Bollock, stressing that they've got better things to do than Shopping etc. To Savor a new adventure could be the factor having Men delving into all U stipulated up there. As most Industrious men who hardly have a time of their own, they might Just love the Idea of taking a breather and trying out a percieved 'weird' trend In their Sparetime - Well u wouldnt bank on heralding a Caption like this on a daily ''Bill Gates Making meals at the Wife's Absence'' Thats savouring a new trend, its cool though - I'd Indulge in one wholeheartedly if the need be. |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Nobody: 11:35am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: @OP, maybe it's a sign that men are moving with the times. 21st century and all that...Why do I find this post so funny? lol |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 11:56am On Aug 11, 2013 |
Skinni10ne: Yes a lot if them are!If only those who are arguing without critically assimilating the post would agree with you, then we don't have argument here, but accept that we have at one time or the other indulged in 1 or 2 of the aforementioned points. Thanks, it's a good back-up. |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 12:03pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
El Guapo: @Op, I dont really think its about Standards falling or getting to lace our mentality on what 21st Century holds.I agree with you, because we can't totally avoid some of these things, bt should be done at leisure, but some men take them as 'Hobbies'. |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 12:08pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
biolabee: The rise of the metrosexual male'Heterosexual' i guess? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by biolabee(m): 12:20pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
Nope..metrosexual . Albedo27: |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Albedo27(m): 12:32pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:You still don't get the gist, statistics shows that much more men do what are presumed to be feminine (female xteristics). You would have asked 'why don't people fancy Mr world just like Miss world? Most handsome man just like Most Beautiful woman? We have been made masculine (muscular) in nature and should not waste precious time in trying to beautify bones, because we haven't got the flesh like women and hitherto...shapeless Adam Efemena_xy:You still don't get the gist, statistics shows that much more men do what are presumed to be feminine (female xteristics). You would have asked 'why don't people fancy Mr world just like Miss world? Most handsome man just like Most Beautiful woman? We have been made masculine (muscular) in nature and should not waste precious time in trying to beautify bones, because we haven't got the flesh like women and hitherto...shapeless Adam |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by SisiKill1: 1:40pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
Bwahahahahahahahaha!!!! Well well well, this sure explains a lot. Lord have mercy!!! 1 Like |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by achi4u(m): 3:33pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
Albedo27:hahahaha ur last statement throw me off balance & am laffing "shapeless Adam" right?Emm! like what a poster above says-"some men or men are nt disable not to do most of work listed there but as a man I won't spend much time look myself on mirror and other feminine stuff. Those who waist their precious time doing that are GAYS. Yes na me talk am 1 Like |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
^^ You're now pushing it outta the line and blowing it outta of Proportion. Every man should engage In those trends stipulated up there If the need be - Dont miss out on the emboldened words. Tell me U'd Ignore the calls to Shop for the home, cook for the home and see to the need of the kids when ur wife gets pregnant? |
| Re: Are Men Becoming More Feminine? by Nobody: 8:47pm On Aug 11, 2013 |
What r u guys insinuating? We were discussin bondin with kids early in another thread. So men that do that r becoming less men? Me,I no get d head and tail of this o. |
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