When it comes to the physical,
emotional or psychological
aspects of your relationship, try to
allow your man to feel free,
independent, unthreatened,
challenged, in control, and
content.
Those first weeks or months of
encounters and dates seem to be
filled with such great promise,
high hopes and exciting
possibilities. And then the balloon
pops, All of a sudden, those nights
filled with LOLs turn into days full
of WTFs.
Why do some guys lose interest
when things seem to be going so
well? Here are a few thoughts that
might help you make
some adjustments that could help
you increase his attention span.
#1. TOO EASY:
Guys definitely thrive on conquest.
The hunt is what gives significant
value to the conquest. Men believe
that anything worth having is
worth working hard for
or even fighting for. Things
gained too easily don’t carry a
high value. Sure, sometimes the
mood can be magnetic and the
time can be right early on, so go
ahead and capture the magic of
the moment. Just make him wait
an extra
date or two for the encore.
#2. TOO SERIOUS:
Women often look for a solid
provider and protector, and then
they will choose one who is also a
good playmate. Men look for a fun
playmate. They will eventually zero
in on one who can
also challenge them and complete
them in other ways. Early on, men
are captivated and blown away by
the
wonderland of your femininity.
They don’t fall in love the same
way you do or for the same
reasons. You may be ready to take
the emotional aspect of the
relationship to the next level, but
he’s still enjoying the honeymoon.
You may be ready for him to move
in and begin a
commitment, but you’re getting
way ahead of where his head is
at. He may be ready too, but he
doesn’t know it yet. Once he’s had
his “Aha” moment, he will see the
commitment of love for the
paradise it is, and he will gladly
join you there. Don’t move too
fast, even if he says he loves you.
#3. TOO CONTROLLING:
Men are independent creatures by
nature. They may appreciate a
little fashion advice, if it doesn’t
change their self-image. But they
don’t want you to schedule their
itinerary for them. They don’t
want to be expected to show up
someplace for you without proper
notice and their approval. Men are
trainable. You just have to ease
into the adjustments. If you
tighten the bolts too hard or too
fast, you’ll strip the nuts and they’ll
fall off. Ouch.
#4. TOO SCARY:
Sometimes a woman’s habits or
actions send up too many red
flags, and a guy just has to
scamper away. Too much talk
about your ex, describing what
your babies will look like, or being
too needy and clingy are not only
red flags, they’re kind of creepy.
It’s hard to hold back all of your
amazing qualities, but sometimes
it’s for the best.
#5. NO SPARK:
Romance is a two-way street. You
have to like him, and he has to like
you. Remember that men are
often attracted first by the candy,
and then they learn to appreciate
the woman that you are.
It should be no surprise, then,
that things may begin with a lot
of excitement and heat, both of
which can fade quickly.
His natural instincts tell him that
the hunt ends with the conquest,
so it is up to you to show him
another dimension of your value
as a partner that will keep him
interested.
Still, not all relationships are
meant to be. Your traits and
interests that are perfect for one
man may mean nothing to the
next.
The bottom line is that you want
as many things as possible to pull
your man closer to you and as
few things to drive him away.
When it comes to the physical
emotional or psychological
aspects of your relationship, try to
allow your man to feel free,
independent, unthreatened,
challenged, in
control, and content.
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