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She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 1:59pm On Aug 22, 2013
Please nairalanders. I am confused and heart broken. I met her 8 months ago( last year December) we later became friends, i was so happy to know that she is on whatsap too. We used to chat via whatsap almost every day, i later fell in love with her. When i told her my intention, she was playing her to get ( which i believe it's normal with girls, hence i continue to press on) I showed her all the cares by calling, sending texts every morning, whasaping her with cute flowers, etc i even subscribe ber monthly data bundle.

This week, i invited her for a date which she accepted. I sat her down to express my feelings, having known how serious i am with her, she opened up that she can't go into a relationship with me, i asked why not? the response i got was that her parents won't approve our relationship because i am not from her tribe YORUBA. I tried all her could to convince her that her parents will change which she responded that she pray they do( note this should mean that she accepted) .
The following day i brought up the issue about her parents not agreeing to our relationship, that since the problem is not from her, then there shouldn't be a problem at all, i told her to leave the parent out of this for now until when the ryt time comes but to my surprise she said "you love me i appreciate it but i only like you that's where the problem comes in". She added "any relationship i enter now should get me settled down" i responded that i am more than serious with her, after all if i wanted to play and dump her later i won't have shown any concern about her parent. . Now i dont know what to do, does it mean that girls can never love a nice guy? I am really confused i even sent her a whatsap message about growing in love but she ignore the message. Please advise me on what to do. I am still doing my youth service. Thanks
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by xynerise: 2:13pm On Aug 22, 2013
If she really wants to start a relationship with you, she wont bring in tribal issues. I have attended a lot of cross-tribal wedding
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 2:15pm On Aug 22, 2013
Forget about her then. She is afraid because of the trash FAMI FANI KAYODE said about my IGBO sisters. But why do you go 2 dat TRIBE? You must make perfume your best friend. grin grin cool

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 2:21pm On Aug 22, 2013
Thank you all, i am Igala by tribe. we are from the same state Kogi. I hardly speak my language fluently. I don't know why tribe should be an issue. Are we not all Nigerians?

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 2:23pm On Aug 22, 2013
xynerise: If she really wants to start a relationship with you, she wont bring in tribal issues. I have attended a lot of cross-tribal wedding
Does that me she can never love me? What can i do? I really love her with all my heart.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 2:26pm On Aug 22, 2013
Kingscee: Forget about her then. She is afraid because of the trash FAMI FANI KAYODE said about my IGBO sisters. But why do you go 2 dat TRIBE? You must make perfume your best friend. grin grin cool
i dont lay any emphasis about tribe. What is more important is to be happy with the person you love. I hate tribalism

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by xynerise: 2:29pm On Aug 22, 2013
ANONYMOUSs: Does that me she can never love me? What can i do? I really love her with all my heart.
Its not compulsory she must love u becos u love her. Bro, move ahead

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Enegod(m): 2:30pm On Aug 22, 2013
ANONYMOUSs: I showed her all the cares by calling, sending texts every morning, whasaping her with cute flowersgrin, etc i even subscribe ber monthly data bundle. grin grin
Now i dont know what to do, does it mean that girls can never love a nice guy? grin
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 2:55pm On Aug 22, 2013
Lwkmd at power of love

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by sexymoma(f): 3:15pm On Aug 22, 2013
She is just looking for an excuse... she doesn't want to date you.
have done that too to someone i dont wanna let go and dont want to date so i told him i cant date him cos of his religion. Bros leave am wink
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 3:31pm On Aug 22, 2013
I don't also do igbo/hausa/any tribe except 4rm mine,i can be friends wif u o,bt as 4 a relationship neva!!i fear una tradition...xo@op don't blame d gurl leave her and move on..
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Austinodark(m): 4:06pm On Aug 22, 2013
Harbosede02: I don't also do igbo/hausa/any tribe except 4rm mine,i can be friends wif u o,bt as 4 a relationship neva!!i fear una tradition...xo@op don't blame d gurl leave her and move on..
Igbos can't also do you,sorry!

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Pdizzle(m): 4:18pm On Aug 22, 2013
Maybe shez nt dat into you

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 4:54pm On Aug 22, 2013
Harbosede02: I don't also do igbo/hausa/any tribe except 4rm mine,i can be friends wif u o,bt as 4 a relationship neva!!i fear una tradition...xo@op don't blame d gurl leave her and move on..
This is 21st century, wake up.
Whatever your reason is, I am quiet sure it isn't genuine.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 5:14pm On Aug 22, 2013
I love these nowadays ladies, they know how to dump and reject some guys. They are good at playing the tribal cards.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 5:16pm On Aug 22, 2013
She's not into u..... You are simply torturing yourself emotionally... Move on.... U will fall in love again with somoenlse who will love u back....just be patient, yur right babe will cross yur path.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Malawian(m): 5:34pm On Aug 22, 2013
ANONYMOUSs: Thank you all, i am Igala by tribe. we are from the same state Kogi. I hardly speak my language fluently. I don't know why tribe should be an issue. Are we not all Nigerians?
ode, since when did Igala become Yoruba? this una attachee by force will not work tongue tongue tongue tongue angry angry angry angry
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 6:01pm On Aug 22, 2013
Malawian: ode, since when did Igala become Yoruba? this una attachee by force will not work tongue tongue tongue tongue angry angry angry angry
Why are you too quick to judge?
Besides, he never said he was Yoruba? Also, he never said Igala was Yoruba.
I stand to be corrected.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 6:10pm On Aug 22, 2013
maxwello.yg:

Why are you too quick to judge?
Besides, he never said he was Yoruba? Also, he never said Igala was Yoruba.
I stand to be corrected.
thanks for that
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 6:11pm On Aug 22, 2013
Amelian: She's not into u..... You are simply torturing yourself emotionally... Move on.... U will fall in love again with somoenlse who will love u back....just be patient, yur right babe will cross yur path.
Amen thanks for the encouragement
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by drnairalov: 6:17pm On Aug 22, 2013
It takes two to fight for love bro , don't be
the only one fighting for the
relationship...moveon
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 6:34pm On Aug 22, 2013
Believe it or not, some people really are afraid of going against their parents' wishes. I know someone who broke up with a girl because she's igbo and his parents didn't want him going out and marrying an igbo girl. It's a good thing she told you. You don't want to start dating her now and then later find out her parents won't accept you because of your tribe.

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 6:48pm On Aug 22, 2013
Yield: Believe it or not, some people really are afraid of going against their parents' wishes. I know someone who broke up with a girl because she's igbo and his parents didn't want him going out and marrying an igbo girl. It's a good thing she told you. You don't want to start dating her now and then later find out her parents won't accept you because of your tribe.
hmmmn thanks i am learning something. I am sure to get matured advice that's why i opt to share it on NL
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Dubemkelly(m): 9:02pm On Aug 22, 2013
It's quite obvious dat she doesn't luv, she only likes u n wud kip u as a frnd not lover...Well,to sum people tribalism is a big deal tho d xposed ones hu believe in luv,support inter-tribal marriages buh d ish here is d gurl, she doesnt feel anyfin cos if she does,she wud convince d parents afterall,d marriage is basically contracted btw d man n wman wheras d relation plays little or no role...Guy,move on n kip searching
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 9:19pm On Aug 22, 2013
Dubemkelly: It's quite obvious dat she doesn't luv, she only likes u n wud kip u as a frnd not lover...Well,to sum people tribalism is a big deal tho d xposed ones hu believe in luv,support inter-tribal marriages buh d ish here is d gurl, she doesnt feel anyfin cos if she does,she wud convince d parents afterall,d marriage is basically contracted btw d man n wman wheras d relation plays little or no role...Guy,move on n kip searching
hmmmn thanks, i pray i can be able to
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by NaijaHotGuy: 11:17pm On Aug 22, 2013
@OP if u search smarter, u will find someone better than her. your problem is not SHE ur problem is just FINDING (think outta the box). make sure u dont waste ur time chasing one person. its a numbers game: theres nothing wrong in trying to make a selection after which u b committed. theres someone from ur tribe (or another) that is smarter, more beautiful, neater yet more responsive (nicer) than her, somewhere in Naija. if u find this person you most likely will choose her over the yoruba girl u talk about. no need to be confused and heart-broken - beware of analysis paralysis...they kil time. JUST DO IT: THINK BEYOND
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by ANONYMOUSs: 5:34am On Aug 23, 2013
NaijaHotGuy: @OP if u search smarter, u will find someone better than her. your problem is not SHE ur problem is just FINDING (think outta the box). make sure u dont waste ur time chasing one person. its a numbers game: theres nothing wrong in trying to make a selection after which u b committed. theres someone from ur tribe (or another) that is smarter, more beautiful, neater yet more responsive (nicer) than her, somewhere in Naija. if u find this person you most likely will choose her over the yoruba girl u talk about. no need to be confused and heart-broken - beware of analysis paralysis...they kil time. JUST DO IT: THINK BEYOND
thanks bro all your advices are noted. I will work on those areas
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Malawian(m): 10:57am On Aug 23, 2013
maxwello.yg:

Why are you too quick to judge?
Besides, he never said he was Yoruba? Also, he never said Igala was Yoruba.
I stand to be corrected.

sorry.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Tosinville(m): 12:12pm On Aug 23, 2013
That's another problem in NG (tribalism), that's the reason why ℓ̊ barely go after some other tribes cos my relationship with her might lead no where, even though she like M̶̲̅ε̲̣ her family or friends might be some kind of stumbling blocks T̶̲̥̅Ơ̴͡ our relationship.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Nobody: 12:22pm On Aug 23, 2013
Kingscee: Forget about her then. She is afraid because of the trash FAMI FANI KAYODE said about my IGBO sisters. But why do you go 2 dat TRIBE? You must make perfume your best friend. grin grin cool
grin :/ you better stop that nonsense.you have started again with tribalism :/







mr anonymous,i think since she doesnt show any intrest in you,you should leave her.i think she doesnt love you.shes just using her parents as an excuse.focus your energy on getting a job,making friends and living the single life.when your mind is not there,you will meet mrs anonymous 8-) have you noticed for example that when something is missing and you are looking for it frantically,you dont find it.its when youve shifted your mind away from that thing youre looking for and put your mind on other things that you find it.. smiley you dont have a problem joor,just be yourself and live your dreams.nothing do you 8-)

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Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Teenzy(f): 10:21pm On Aug 23, 2013
Just free d babe...she might really like u bt she's just restraining herself 4rm loving u....she might av had an experience dat convinced her dat her parents will neva agree cos she didnt even give it a try....I av a friend,her parents told her older siblings including her dat dey must nt marry anyone outside their tribe as well as their state...some people are too tribalistic she's made up her mind already.
Re: She Can't Date Me Because I Am Not A Yoruba. by Emmysteve(m): 11:05am On Aug 24, 2013
Teenzy: Just free d babe...she might really like u bt she's just restraining herself 4rm loving u....she might av had an experience dat convinced her dat her parents will neva agree cos she didnt even give it a try....I av a friend,her parents told her older siblings including her dat dey must nt marry anyone outside their tribe as well as their state...some people are too tribalistic she's made up her mind already.

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