@ sistawoman

One more thing. That long article on yoruba women is that ur idea of trying to become a yoruba woman for him  

I'm not saying that you shouldn't enter a relationship with him.  But mixing papers with romance is already leading to problems.

Normally, by the time you walk down the isle, you have a pretty good idea of what your partner expects of you.  You have already established submission and domination dynamics.

In your case, you will already be married by the time you start negotiating these kinds of things.  It just makes everything SO complicated!

It's basically the same as an arranged marriage.  These can work, but normally they happen between 2 people with very similar backgrounds, so that expectations are clearly understood.  

Here you have what is basically an arranged marriage between 2 people who have completely different backgrounds and a very limited understanding of what is expected from both ends.

It's scary, sista.  I am really worried for you.

sistawoman:

We first met as a business arrangment. After meeting and dating I started to fall for him and he for me.

Well, if u ask me I would say no biggie. Seems to me that U both know what U want.

@uche2nna
wassup dude, clear the air. whatchu talking about?

@Uche
how dare you think I'll cheat on you

Uche2nna:

@ sistawoman

One more thing. That long article on yoruba women is that your idea of trying to become a yoruba woman for him  

I love him and i want to make him happy but i think maybe i am going about this the wrong way.

Tonight when he comes over we will talk.

Ladies thanks so much for all your words of wisdom.  The ladies here are great.

sistawoman:


I love him and i want to make him happy but i[b] think maybe i am going about this the wrong way.[/b]

Tonight when he comes over we will talk.

Ladies thanks so much for all your words of wisdom. The ladies here are great.

Damn skippy U are going it the wrong way.

I encourage U to come hang out on NL often. Here U would meet handles like TOH, 4HER, Stillwater, Rebellious, busta etc. These ladies have very little in common except for the fact that they are yoruba. I think. Just be urself and stop looking for any sterotypical character.

4Her:

@Uche
how dare you think I'll cheat on you

Sorry, babe

Uche2nna:

Sorry, babe

it's ok

yemivictor:

Hmmm, emura si! . . . . .

lol!! mura si kini?

@YemiVictor
bawon ni?

[size=35pt]GBAM[/size]

Negro kicks in the door

I hear una talk about Yoruba woman wetin she do? Wetin dey go on here?

who is Lloyd (1974, 37-38)? Lloyd na yoruba man? how e fit know wetin yoruba woman be? e marry to yoruba woman?

uhm, interesting!

Sisterwoman, I am sorry for kicking your door in. I came in here ready to fight if someone talk bad about yoruba woman.

In summary, women are custodians of culture, men are creators of society is what they are saying. Each gender plays its role, crossing into the other gender's role is viewed with reproach.

Modernity has up-ended the roles to the point that society at large has become a collateral victim.


Anyways, no long story, sister please relate to a foreigner as a Nigerian woman, not as a Yoruba woman. Let him see in you the qualities of the Yoruba and the Ibo and the Hausa, and all the other tribes in our society, reflect all those qualities to him and do not transfer our mentality of tribalism to your husband. Represent Nigerian women, be good, hey, make him holler under the sheets! Ya hear me?

I go fix this door for you when I return from my Doctor visit, I need go swallow medicine first.