What if your dad had a secret child?


My friend's family has been going through a really delicate situation. His parents have been married for 22 years. His father, who is 49, had cancer and he was pratically terminal at a time. Everyone thought he would die.
So, when he felt really bad, he decided to tell everyone he had two secret sons, one of them exactly my friend's age. He had the other with a woman who had been a maid at their house and he paid her a large amount of money to keep her mouth shut. He has been supporting the kids throughout all this time.


Everyone was shocked but his wife continued to take care of him and so did everyone.because, well, he would die.

The problem is that, he improve from , cancer last week. It went into absolute remission. No one was expecting that.he would be healthy again.

Now everything is really awkward. My friend's mother doesn't speak to his father and she actually went to live in another house for some time.
My friend spends half of the time in my house. He sleeps and eat with us. He hates any discussion about his dad and doesnt trust him.

How would you react?

At least the man confessed while he was still alive. The most annoying ones are the ones where they have no clue whatsoever till the second family shows up for the man's burial! Chei! Very painful because the wife would have been denied the pleasure of dumping his trifling arse!


As for the children, yea, you feel hurt and deceived initially but you have to eventually move on as long as he has been a good father all along.


With the maid though? Tufiakwa!

Ojukwu had a secret child from an Aboki-Lady...

Heaven didn't fall....

Thank you....

Emm!! As for me oh!! I'll be shocked at 1st, but within 2minutes I'll be over the shock! Nothing can be done, the deed is already done!
If the child is a girl, I'll be very happy, because I don't have a sister, so she'll be my 1st and only sister! If the child is a boy, Emmm!! I'll still be happy oh! But I'll just be hoping that he doesn't have some very stupid annoying behaviours!
But if the mother is our maid or anybody I know! Then I'll hate her and her children for ever

i would love to see such kid

ileobatojo: At least the man confessed while he was still alive. The most annoying ones are the ones where they have no clue whatsoever till the second family shows up for the man's burial! Chei! Very painful because the wife would have been denied the pleasure of dumping his trifling arse!


As for the children, yea, you feel hurt and deceived initially but you have to eventually move on as long as he has been a good father all along.


With the maid though? Tufiakwa!

Exactly my point, the man confessed before he dies, probably due to the fact that he knows death is looming. I remembered the case of former GTB bank manager and founder, now dead dough, MR. Tayo Aderinokun. He was like the perfect husband, father and boss while he was yet alive, indeed he was a role model and was very successful, but in death, it was revealed he fathered a child, his wife and xhildren never knew about, i am very sure the woman (his wife) would wish she can wake him up and ask some questions, she was greatly agrieved then, it was a bitter pill for her to swallow...

Guess, your friend and his family should be glad that he revealed it to them, embrace d ugly truth, L♥√ع your new step family and move on, you never can tell what the child(ren) will be in future. A mistake is a mistake, but some men can be wicked!

mysticgal: i would love to see such kid

Me too .. Preferably girl

I won't be shocked,i ll only feel sorry for his wife who ll bear the brunt of his indiscretion.

What's done is done.

Shouting, yelling, scheming and plotting won't change a thing. Best to deal with it and move on. Besides, what's the point in hating the children? They are innocent and didn't ask to be born, did they?

The main issue here is that the man should find a way of 'apologizing' to his wife. A bitter pill for her to swallow, but hey, that's life.

^^ how are you. Everybody settled in school?

jidegirl12: ^^ how are you. Everybody settled in school?

I'm fine dear. Yeah, they're settling in nicely. Just taking a quick break from never-ending homework et al - miss the summer holiday though.

How're you and yours?

Always wanted a sister

Is this true about tayo aderinokun or it's just a rumour ....

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About Tayo I don't think dats true though I can't say I followed tru wit the events during his death but I knw he took a second wife sometime in 2008 and it was reported in d dailies.That woman I think was d one wit d infant @ d burial so I don't think his relationship wit d woman was so much of a secret

okpanachil: About Tayo I don't think dats true though I can't say I followed tru wit the events during his death but I knw he took a second wife sometime in 2008 and it was reported in d dailies.That woman I think was d one wit d infant @ d burial so I don't think his relationship wit d woman was so much of a secret

Interesting.....

Knowing about my Dad's secret child before or after his death won't make me feel bad one bit. I would have been so hurt when I was quite younger but now, who cares? The revelation will add little or nothing to me.

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Honestly, in Africa i feel when there's an issue we chase shadows; we shoot water at the flame and not the source. The question obviously is why do we have 'secret kids in Nigeria? Why is it possible to hide a child/pregnancy in Nigeria and not in USA or UK?
1. In Nigeria everyone is too 'holy', too religious to accept a pregnant out-of-wedlock lady and her child. Therefore they hide them.

2. In Nigeria, we are too naive to accept that marital unfaithfulness is not only limited to drunkards and rascals. Even the pastors, Imams, and white-collar professionals play 'away matches' and when such people 'score goal', unlike the rascals, they're often too ashamed to own up.

3. The Child support system is not enforced. If it is, honestly most men will either zip up or pay up, because making a child = paying money

4. We are too religious to give attention to s*x education for teenagers. They easily get pregnant

5. Nigerians raise their daughters to be too dependent and too needy because they are women and should be pitied. It's a male-dominated world, where a woman would do anything to get support from a man even if it means having unprotected s*x with a married man, multiple abortions, and having secret babies. As long as a man gives them money to buy weave-ons, dresses and matching shoes and bags, they will do anything to please him. Even the so-called professional ladies working in banks and offices act so needy, not any different from schoolgirls - poor value system!

If you address these issues above, then every child should have a mom and dad. There's no unwanted and secret child. If you make a baby, he/she is your legitimate child. Period! Any woman who get's pregnant for man should not agree to be short-changed bc the man is married. Expose the pregnancy and secure a future for your child...don't abort or live in secrecy.

For me I will get over the shock and accept the reality that I have a half-brother/sister.

In my eyes, there is no redemption. He informed his wife and child on his supposed deathbed in an effort to...?? Absolve himself? He's only a notch above men who die without having said a word at all, leaving their family families to deal with the added surprise of their life-long inadequacy & deception amidst the grief.

Putting myself in this scenario is insulting. If this were to happen in some alternate universe, I wouldn't want anything to do with it, period.