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| I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 4:04pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
[/color]This is a story about why yesterday I broke the heart of the only girl I have ever truly cared about. Its not a sweet story and I am not a writer. Nevertheless, I think, may be, writing about it will help me come to terms with everything that has happened. Chidinma (fake name) and I started about a year ago. We were in our final year in the university. Well actually it started during the 300 level break when I asked my class rep to share me with her on 2go. Yes! We were in the same department. I had been admiring her from afar for too long but last year I decided to do something about it. Maybe it was the emotional frustration I was going through nudged by too much time I had on my mind or maybe it was just time. Whatever the case I added her on 2go and started chatting with her every day. I am a very reserved person so talking online is kind of my specialty. Therefore, slowly but surely, I became her favorite online. Chidinma had a boyfriend at the time, and I was ‘just a friend’. But I wasn’t kidding around. I knew what I wanted and one 26 year old, sociology student wasn’t going to stop me, even though they had been dating for five years. Ok, I wasn’t that stone-cold. I tried to respect the relationship but my ulterior motive was evident and fortunately the boyfriend, tade(fake name) was playing into my hands. He was being over-possessive, jealous and obsessive and that is exactly what I have become. Yes! I accept I started acting in a way similar to what tade was doing although I don’t think I was ever as bad as he was but that is just my own point of view. Tade was a very social guy with many friends, although I wasn’t afraid of him, I did not fancy making unnecessary enemies. Now when I look at it, I see I must have looked like a wussy acting like that with my rival but I was being wise, he used to be a cultist as Chidinma later told me. Cutting the long story short, all the while I was ‘just her friend’ I was trying my best to let her know how I felt without actually saying I loved her. I had learnt a long time ago that this is the best approach when dealing with girls who already had a boyfriend. “Show rather than say, act like the boyfriend and show her how great live will be with you instead of begging her to be your girl and leave her man” so that was what I did and it worked, with all I was doing and with all the wrong actions Tade was taking, slowly but surely, she fell in love with me too. She loved me so much she eventually ended her five years relationship to be with me. But it wasn’t that simple, I wasn’t very much available. Its funny and crazy the things I did. These things hurt her and still she clung to me. I hardly hesitated to tell her I loved her. But I didn’t promise her anything. I didn’t promise her marriage or forever. I regrettably actually said that at some point. I have two reasons for doing that. One reason was that I didn’t want her to leave her relationship because of me. What am I saying? I actually wanted her to leave but I still didn’t want to feel like a relationship breaker. So I thought, if she was going to leave her relationship for someone like me who wasn’t giving much assurances, then the relationship must be really wrong. At that time, someone did tell me something I have never forgotten, he said, “if she cheated with you, she will eventually cheat on you”. And she did cheat on me. (To be continued)[color=#000099] |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by veave(f): 5:27pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
mtchwww.....  1 Like |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by adextetoo(m): 5:37pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
oga park well joor @OP |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by daisyella: 5:48pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
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| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by 190theclown: 5:49pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
everyone like this comment if you think ASUU are to blame for this break up  8 Likes |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by digitalgeorgy(m): 5:50pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
I no blame you for dis act of joblessness na ASUU cause all this thing. Me too, i spend my precious time to read dis rubbi-sh, infact i ban myself for 2wkz''no internet for me''. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by 190theclown: 5:54pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
digitalgeorgy: I no blame you for dis act of joblessness na ASUU cause all this thing. then like my comment |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Nobody: 6:00pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
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| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by digitalgeorgy(m): 6:08pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
190-the-clown:for how much? |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by fuckluv(f): 6:14pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
190-the-clown:I'm the one who liked ur comment cos I felt u really need it. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by 190theclown: 6:21pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
fuckluv: I'm the one who liked ur comment cos I felt u really need it. thanks baba i tru tru need am oh!! |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 7:16pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
digitalgeorgy: I no blame you for dis act of joblessness na ASUU cause all this thing.if you like ban yourself for two decades, i no care. i Never finish my story |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 7:20pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Kikiani: too long..didn't read!hahahatry read am na! haha!. wey i just dey start. Na so all of una wicked reach? please make una encourage me na. I just lost a sweetheart na! my story never finish na. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 7:23pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
190-the-clown:oga 190 No be ASUU cause am, be nice. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 9:01pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
[/color] During that time she told a lot of lies and pulled a lot of stunts which I knew about, she did it to keep our ‘whatever’ secret from Tade. We were spending too much time together than friends would. One day she came to my house and one thing led to another and we were kissing, and that was when we couldn’t continue lying or pretending to each other. This was more than friendship, It was a ‘soulish’ connection. It wasn’t lust as I could have continued being with her in the same room for a year and I would have been satisfied with just talking with her and looking at her. I have learnt something, it is that “immediately two people accept and truly confess their love for one another, things gets out of the control of either of them” and it did get out of control. We were taking every opportunity to be with each other, to spend time together. Unfortunately, we decided to keep it a secret from everybody. Even our class mates could only suspect something was going on, we never confirmed anything to anyone and we left them to draw their own conclusions. In fact, she actually denied having anything to do with me a lot of times to a lot of people and that was majorly because of Tade, her boyfriend. At least that’s what I thought. So we kept it a secret and consequently I saw the lies she told and the manipulations she did to hide me from Tade. And the guy was crazy about her, emphases on the word ‘crazy’. He was crazy and maybe he was a little stupid too. Anyways, that seems to be synonymous with being in love nowadays. Don’t get me wrong, I did love her very much too, I believe I love her more than Tade did but one thing I didn’t understand is why she didn’t just come straight with him and stand by her decision. She claimed she tried a lot of times but he never would allow her go so it was a step forward and one back for me and her then but we were in love, I believe we were but that was how it was. We tried to keep appearances in class and in town, we actually tried to keep it secret but we couldn’t. The love was there for anyone who knew either of us to see and they did see it but they were not sure, guess they needed confirmation. A time came nonetheless when most people didn’t need much confirmation. The joke and the side comments about me and her wasn’t funny anymore at some point. They were acting like kids, ‘wining’ me, trying to get information. At that point I took it personal, I stopped laughing. I showed by my reaction just how I felt about it and it didn’t completely stop until I told one of the leading ‘whiners’ to mind his business. If that didn’t completely stop it, it did reduce it to some bearable level. Well, that’s not one of my mistakes but some mistakes had been made at that time. The beginning of the end started when another guy came into our love equation, the guy was a member of her church choir who was ‘just a friend’. Does that sound familiar? The lies started, the manipulations started and the avoidance stated. Serves me right, you say? Maybe you’re right. Another person also taught me that: ‘’Who ever lies for you will eventually lie to you and ultimately lie against you’’. Ok I confess, I formed that just now. But somebody did say something lie that. didn’t ‘somebody?’. Fortunately, I had one advantage Tade didn’t have in his time, I had seen her lie and scheme. I knew how she thinks. I knew at heart words she used to avoid answering questions to Tade then when I was with her, questions whose answers would have been …... I knew how she sounded when she was lying. I knew she put her phone on silent when she was with me so Tade’s missed calls can keep piling. I knew she only calls him back when she is safely in her hostel. At the time, I believe the guy was just plain stupid and obsessed. I thought he was jobless with nothing better to do. I believed he was just simply lost; morally, spiritually, and educationally lost. I continued thinking that until the new guy came. The new guy, Tayo who was ‘just a friend’. [color=#000099] |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Inosenduatall: 10:06pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Continue jare. I dey feel u. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by 190theclown: 10:17pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Like this comment if you think ASUU is the cause of the girl cheating on the OP  |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Nobody: 10:45pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
stint:. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Nobody: 11:59pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
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| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Chiopatra: 12:05am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Op continue ur tori na,I dey feel u. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Nobody: 10:14am On Sep 10, 2013 |
And these kind of girls are often the most beautiful. at a time they get tired of exploring men and start looking for husband at age 26 and above... they always believe there is something outside of you two that she still needs... op, does she guard her phones jealously when she is with you? |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 11:34am On Sep 10, 2013 |
okpara ugo: And these kind of girls are often the most beautiful. at a time they get tired of exploring men and start looking for husband at age 26 and above... yes o! God bless you! she locks her phone up all the time! And countless times i have to give her my own phone to check around when she suspects me. see how i mumu reach? there were three different occasions when i requested to check her own phone, she told me to draw my own concussions, she dared me to do anything i wanted to do and she never showed me. this girl was just amazing, because after occasions like this, she'll be crying to have me back, of course she would have cleared the phone by then. I have suffer |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 11:48am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Make I conclude my story[/color] She told a lot of lies but I always knew she was lying, she ignored a lot of calls, but I knew that was just so she doesn’t have to tell me where she was. And at night when she got back to her hostel, she would call me but I wasn’t a learner. I was something was than a learner, I was love struck, you know that kind of mumu-mumu love? Did somebody say Nemesis again? you this people sha! In summary, Before the new guy Tayo came in, I was floating in cloud nine! but after, I became something else. That kind of guy I have learnt never to be, the jealous love-struck lover. She called my bluff a lot of times but anytime I finally decided I have had enough, she comes back begging me to come back. It was like she didn’t know what she wanted. If it was only Tayo it would have been good. This girl travelled from Ilorin to Kano to see one of her toasters when she was supposed to be in love with me. This girl have a group of toasters she treats as friend. Shebi the Yoruba’s have a proverb that you should never sniff a food you will not eat. My Chidinma did a lot of sniffing. She sniff ‘gan’, she sniffs so much you cant be sure if the food is still before her nose or on its way into her mouth/stomach. Stupidly, I kept accepting apologies even though she hid the nature of the relationship she was having with Tayo to me. She was manipulating me, telling me I was making things up, she kept denying it and if I pressed too hard, she would form anger and tell me to draw my own conclusions. Classic deception! She had experience and so did i! It didn’t work, It couldn’t have worked. Right now, remembering everything that happened is so unsettling and annoying that I wouldn’t be able to continue my relax step by step narration; I would have to just jump to the present, the conclusion, the end! Verily Verily I say unto you, I lost all the trust I had for my sweetheart. Because every time she claims she had told me everything, I find out something that I she intentionally neglected to mention so she can keep appearing …………….. I don’t know. What I wanted to say is an insult. And all you good people reading this should already know what happened next. I’ll tell you in case you don’t know; I lost almost all the trust I had for her. Maybe I shouldn’t have but after all the things that kept coming up, It was only natural I needed time to get to the level of trust we had before. Unfortunately, this new lack of trust caused a lot of fights between us. Many of which I was justified in and some of which I were simply as a result of lack of trust. Now, instead of her to give me time and earn the trust she had destroyed, she came up with the reason we will never be together. She says am a child and am immature. If maturity includes deception and betrayal then I would love to forever remain a child. I will not say Good ridden to bad rubbish, I will rather say tribute to a love that was but was never meant to be. [color=#000099] 1 Like |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 11:50am On Sep 10, 2013 |
I am thinking of sending her the link to this story and see how she'll try to defend herself. What do ya'll think? |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by philfearon(m): 12:11pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
stint: I am thinking of sending her the link to this story and see how she'll try to defend herself. What do ya'll think?Please dont...Move on. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 2:54pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
philfearon:i just really feel like giving her a piece of my mind |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by philfearon(m): 3:05pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
stint:You just did...At least,i now know,some other people know too...Unless u just dont want to live her..Maybe u still have sum personal vendetta against her...But bro,You self don big pass Sh*ts like this na....Free the girl,and you would have opened a door for another girl......Bro,the ratio of Girls to Boys in my former school is 7:1..............There is a whole lot of girls outta there waiting for u bro.....Just-Let-Go.. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 3:16pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
Thanks a lot. ill take your advise. 1 Like |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by philfearon(m): 3:26pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
You are welcome... |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by WackyJ1(m): 11:16pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
You know what they say bro... karma is a B.it.ch.. And she just bi.tc.h smacked you. How can you own stolen property and think it'll forever be yours? Abeg Go sit down and don't tell the girl anything, you purposed in your mind and took her away from tade and now she has done the same to you and you still want to talk? Do you know what 5years is? The girl doesn't owe you anything. You want to bare your mind to her but can your sense of injustice stand against what you did to tade? Now you know how much it hurts... I did like the way you put your story though 2 Likes |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by Nobody: 11:45pm On Sep 10, 2013 |
Karma at work...if u made her brk someone's hrt, someone else will make her break ur hrt. |
| Re: I Broke Her Heart But I Love Her..(story) by stint(m): 1:19am On Sep 11, 2013 |
WackyJ1: You know what they say bro... karma is a B.it.ch.. And she just bi.tc.h smacked you.i know about kama. am a better man cause of the experience. moving on .moving on. I am moving on |
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