This is for the men. Once someone has broken your heart that you TRULY loved, is it easy to get over it? Do you ever give your heart completely to the next woman, or do you hold back?

The men in my office say that women can have their hearts broken over and over again, because they are used to it. But it's harder for men, and that once it happens to a man they will withhold from the next woman.

to me, i don't fell an heartbreak as a big thing. Majority of us has experienced it. I think when a man is heartbroken he doesn't feel anything been taken away from him. Its very easy to get over with (thats for me) but i won't transfer it the another woman immediately.

@ poster,

I don begin suspect u , y e be say na u dey post all this kain topics? abi na wetin u dey do ur bf u dey post? Anyways I once luvd wth all my heart and got burnt. Believe for a while I went on rampage really f£$king up any babe that came my way. Suffice to say, it took long for my heart to heal which xplains my heart breaking frenzy on the ladies.

But now, I guess I'm mo matured n a lot mo wiser.

Peace out

@ poster,

its quite true most times, especially when u rily love the person in question and/or u ve been datin for long, ve broken up with my girl for 7months but cant still get to pull myself up to date again, guess it mite take a while but it will happen

Men get over heartbreaks easily.

U know y?
Men do not have much to lose in any broken relationship

I have always prepare my mind for the day my girlfriend will tell me that "I am fed up".Heartbreaking is not new to me because i know very well that not all relationship will last.

Men o, women o, nobody human gets over heartbreak easily. . . unless it was a mutual decision.

Men dont, infact, they never

They use heartbreak as an Opportunity to start a shagging spree , do men have hearts?

NubianQ:

Men don't, infact, they never

They use heartbreak as an Opportunity to start a shagging spree , do men have hearts?

then those are not men . . those are definately BOYS!!

Ignore me oh

I know! Some men really do have feelings but where they? anyway heartbreak is a mind thing u can decide when u can stop all the feelings of neglect n stuff

As far as i'm concerned its a two way thingy. BOTH SEXES DO. Ladies are just too emotional and i hate the way they express way too often. Guys die silently

Busta:

then those are not men . . those are definately BOYS!!

So men should cry and wail just because his gurlfriend just left him for anutha man??
Busta, don't make me cut your fingers.

The ability or otherwise of men to get over heartbreaks depends on his inner strength. For example, i once dated a girl for 4 years and she broke my heart, it was like the end of the world. I couldn't pull myself into another relationship for 2 years. In the beginning i couldn't bring myself to give a 100% into the relationship but the girl later won me over (You know girls can do and undo whenever they want to). So, it all depends on:
1. The amount if time devoted to the relationship.
2. The amount of resources put into the relationship
3. The Level of commitment
4. How much he loved her and
5. His psychological strength

Jackal:

So men should cry and wail just because his girlfriend just left him for anutha man??
Busta, don't make me cut your fingers.

not really but they need to take time offs . . ponder on what went wrong so it won't repear itsef and u won't fall the wrong one and get ur life back on tracks. . . wat will gain from shagging spree besides the 1min of satisfaction . . then wat? not as good as when its ur gurl . . besides, theres a lot more to relationships than just shagging!!!

heartbreak, to me is just 2 words. It means nothing. Am always prepared for anything.

_{Busta is the hottest BABE in town. Who dares to disagree??}

Nobody.

kingkams:

_{Busta is the hottest BABE in town. Who dares to disagree??}

Nobody.

u recognized huh?

thanx jo.

Busta:

u recognized huh?

thanx jo.

You're welcome anyday

this aint a topic for debate,men should just speak the truth.yes men do get heartbroken and dont get over it easily, when they fall in love.sometimes it take a longer time to heal sef, speaking as a man, the only thing is that unlike women,men a rarely heartbroken twice

@ nubian, i ld like to get to chat wit u sometime, ve added u already on my msger, am online most times

Some men get over break ups fast because they were already planning an exit and most men do not get over break ups fast because they either were more into the relationship than the girl or they were in love

Some do while some don't. it all depends on the depth of their feelings during the relationship

@post
hahaha. , nope.
some of them will stay bleating. . .
but who cares? As long as he doesn't touch me. . . na jail he go sleep

depends on:
- how long.
- how deeply he was into her.
- how much of his life she became a part of.

Men feel it too, they prefer to keep it bottled up. The unfortunate recipient of the hurt ends up being his next victim errr sorry girlfriend.

Men,heartbreak, hheeellll nooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Raimond:

Men,heartbreak, hheeellll nooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!

now that's just a lie

this aint a topic for debate,men should just speak the truth.yes men do get heartbroken and don't get over it easily, when they fall in love.sometimes it take a longer time to heal sef, speaking as a man, the only thing is that unlike women,men a rarely heartbroken twice

I second, If you don't feel it then you weren't in love. It def takes longer to heal and I certainly support the part of it rarely happening twice.
Check, most playas once loved truly and deeply (not an excuse) but then the hearts been caged and you just don't have access to it no more.

@

smooooooth:

the only thing is that unlike women,men a rarely heartbroken twice

What does that mean? Does that mean you won't let another woman get close to you?

@okanran

I just like to get into the minds of males. I actually compare what my boyfriend tells me to the comments of nairalanders.

Also, alot of the topics are the same. I'm trying to come up with some new ones.

again

i would have to say this

emotions,whether feelings,hurting etc

has noting to do with genders, but personalities

men generally hurt too, we are just expected to be macho about it

Men feel heart break oh and sometimes in worse ways than women. . .

Women can cry and scream and be irrational, its harder for men to express their pain so its harder to deal with.

I'v ehad to deal with a number of broken hearted men and its so sad, i always end up crying with them, nothing worse than seeing a grown man cry

@ Topic

Impossible to say how true. I dont.